INSPIRATION , IDEAS AND MINI EXERCISES TO PROVOKE THOUGHT AND STRENGTHEN THE MIND TO GET YOU THROUGH TO THE END OF THE WEEK …….AND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.
LIST 10 PEOPLE WHO BRIGHTEN YOUR DAY
WELL THIS WEEK IS A NICE SIMPLE TASK THAT WE CAN ALL DO . NO EXCEPTIONS. HOW OFTEN DO WE THINK OF THE PEOPLE IN OUR LIFE THAT ADD VALUE . THIS CAN BE HELPING YOU , MAKING YOU SMILE, MAKE YOUR LIFE EASIER, LOVING YOU OR JUST GIVIG YOU A GOOD BELLY LAUGH ! WELL TODAY IS THE DAY YOU SHOW THESE SPECIAL PEOPLE SOME APPRECIATION.
MAKE A LIST OF 10 PEOPLE THAT BRIGHTEN YOUR DAY WHO MAKE YOUR LIFE EASIER, HAPPIER AND LIGHTER. SEND THEM A SWEET NOTE OR A TEXT OR DO SOMETHING THOUGHTFUL FOR THEM . LET THEM KNOW HOW MUCH YOU CARE AND RECOGNISE THESE QUALITIES.
JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: THIS MAY SEEM A SIMPLE TASK BUT IT IS RARELY EXECUTED. IF YOU ARE LUCKY ENOUGH TO HAVE THESE WONDERFUL PEOPLE AROUND YOU RECOGNISE AND RESPOND.
INSPIRING YOU TO BE YOUR BEST SELF WITH MOTIVATIONAL MESSAGES AND TASKS TO GET YOU THROUGH THE WEEK X
WHAT THE PAPERS SAY
HI EVERYONE ! I JUST RETURNED FROM LUNCH WITH A GORGEOUS AND MENTALLY AGILE FRIEND OF MINE NOW IN HER LATE SEVENTIES. LIZZY WAS TELLING ME ABOUT A WONDERFUL GROUP OF FRIENDS SHE MEETS WITH AND THEY HAVE SET UP A GROUP CALEED “WHAT THE PAPERS SAY”.
THEY MEET ON A WEEKLY BASIS AND EACH FRIEND BRINGS A CUTTING FROM THE NEWSPAPERS THAT WEEK OF AN INTERESTING ARTICLE TO DISCUSS. IT CAN BE AN AMUSING ARTICLE OR A BUSINESS/POLITICAL (ALTHOUGH ANY BREXIT TALK IS BANNED) ARTICLE. ANYTHING THAT CAN PROVOKE DISCUSSION AND DEBATE. THIS KEEPS THEM ALL INFORMED BUT ALSO KEEPS THEM MENTALLY ASTUTE. RATHER THIS THEN JUST MEETING TO DISCUSS TRIVIALITIES OR IN HER WORDS KNITTING PATTERNS AND DWELLING ON AGEING HEALTH ISSUES.
THIS WEEKLY MEET UP REALLY WORKS FOR THESE GIRLS BUT IT GOT ME THINKING THAT THIS WOULD WORK FOR ALL AGES. SO I WANTED TO PASS THIS GREAT IDEA ON TO YOU.
SO THIS WEEK, TRY IT ONCE AND SEE HOW IT GOES. CHOOSE A DISCUSSION GROUP OF MAYBE 6 FRIENDS TO BRING AN INTERESTING ARTICLE FROM THE PAPERS OR A MAGAZINE TO DISCUSS. HAVE A REAL CONVERSATION ABOUT REAL ISSUES. BE YOUR OWN LOOSE WOMEN/MEN PANEL, HAVE FUN WITH IT AND FEEL PART OF IT. STIMULATE YOUR MIND TOGETHER YOU CAN CHANGE THE WORLD !!! BUT REMEMBER TO LISTEN AND RESPECT EACH OTHERS POINT OF VIEW.
JOJOS STYLELIST TIP MAKING YOUR GROUP A MIX OF AGES, RACE AND GENERATIONS COULD BE EVEN MORE INTERESTING . MY FRIENDSHIP GROUP ENCOMPASSES MANY GENERATIONS AND RACE. I LEARN SO MUCH FROM THEM ALL.
Now I realise many people are in denial about climate change but no one can deny that we are ruining our planet with at best poor housekeeping and at worst dirty filthy habits. There also can be NO denial that we can nurture our planet by all just making a few subtle changes to our lifestyle.
I decided to write about this following a dinner party discussion which involved us listing how green we were. Now I have never really thought about myself as being a green activist but I was surprised how “green” I actually live. I know I could do more but what I do , I do on a consistent basis, without too much trouble or hardship. So I will list the things that I came up with over the dinner table, which I am sure most of you already do, but if you don’t try to make some small adjustments to help clean our beautiful planet up. If I can do it, I am pretty sure you can. The planet is a thing of beauty to be handled with care and passed onto the many generations to whom we pass the baton.
Always shower and only for 30 seconds unless i am washing my hair, rarely bath.
I generate only half a small bag of waste each week.
Turn tap off while cleaning my teeth
I do not class myself as a vegetarian but I only meat about once every two months
Do not buy fast disposable fashion. I shop for clothes twice a year not twice a week ( or as some people do twice a day !!!)
No longer buy bottled water I bought a Brita filter jug but I use the filter three times longer than recommended. I have a reusable bottle for life for water on the go.
Energy efficient . I only have lights on in the room that is being occupied.
Installed solar panels on my roof to lower my energy bills.
Make my own cleaning products from white wine vinegar/lemon juice and soda crystals to cut down my chemical waste.
Now take trains for long journeys (this is new to me !!) but they are much better than I recall.
I have hessian lifetime shopping bags.
Buy loose fruit and vegetables and don’t even use the plastic bags on the rack they go onto the conveyer belt singularly !!
Oh… and I only have one child. Now I would never, unlike Meghan and Harry tell you how many children to have. But just saying. This is only about me.
I certainly do not want to become a green preacher but these are all simple things to inject into your everyday life without too much planning. Think, if we all did these basic things what a massive difference we could make collectively.
JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: ADD MORE GREEN INTO YOUR DAY ON TOP OF MY FAMOUS GREEN JUICE WHICH I HOPE YOU ARE ALL HAVING EACH MORNING. FORGET ORANGE – GREEN IS THE NEW BLACK !!!!
POSITIVE THOUGHTS AND INSPIRATION TO GET YOU THROUGH THIS COLD JANUARY WEEK. IM HERE JUST WHEN YOU NEED ME. DONT FORGET THERE ARE MANY MORE MANTRAS ON THIS BLOG TO DIP INTO WHENEVER YOU NEED STRENGTH AND HOPE .
HOW ABOUT A HUG ?
I HEARD AN INTERESTING STATEMENT TODAY. HUGGING RELEASES DOPAMINE AND CAN INCREASE THE MENTAL AND PHYSICAL HEALTH OF THE ‘HUGGER’ AND ‘HUGGEE’ IN A HUGELY POWERFUL WAY. IMAGINE HAVING ALL THAT POWER IN YOUR ARMS TO CHANGE THE LIFE OF SOMEONE (AND YOURSELF) IN SUCH A DRAMATIC WAY………AND SO EASY TO DO ! HUGGING CAN RELIEVE STRESS AND ANXIETY AND BRING DOWN BLOOD PRESSURE. LOWER DEPRESSION AND REDUCE FEELINGS OF LONELINESS.
PLEASE HUG YOUR CHILDREN ON A DAILY BASIS (EVEN HOURLY) IT IS SO IMPORTANT FOR MENTAL AND PHYSICAL HEALTH AS THEY DEVELOP AND IT HELPS TO CREATE A STRONG BOND. A HUGGED CHILD IS A HAPPY CHILD. VERY OFTEN IN THIS TIME VALUABLE OVER STRESSED TIMES AS A PARENT IT IS VERY EASILY OVERLOOKED. MAKE TIME. WHEN A CHILD HAS A TEMPER TANTRUM INSTEAD OF SHOUTING AT THEM JUST HUG THEM AND HOLD THEM CLOSE. IT WORKS , I PROMISE YOU.
SO TODAY I WANT YOU TO HUG AS MANY PEOPLE AS POSSIBLE FOR AT LEAST 20 SECONDS BUT MAKE IT A MEANINGFUL HEARTFELT HUG. A WORD OF WARNING IF YOU ARE HUGGING A STRANGER OR SOMEONE YOU FEEL NEEDS IT BUT YOU DONT KNOW THEM WELL , PLEASE ASK THEIR PERMISSION FIRST. NOTE HOW WELL THIS MAKES YOU FEEL TOO IT IS MUTUALLY BENEFICIAL.
JOJOS STYLIST TIP: EVERYONE FEELS BETTER WITH A HUG ALL HUMANS THRIVE ON TOUCH AND INTIMACY UNLESS OF COURSE YOU ARE JANET STREET PORTER WHO NOTORIOUSLY HATES IT ! BUT HEY LOOK HOW GRUMPY SHE IS ! LOVE YOU THOUGH JANET XX
PEOPLE ALWAYS POINT OUT HOW IMPECCABLE MY MANNERS ARE. THIS IS PROBABLY AS IT IS A DYING ART , WHEN I AM OUT IN THE BIG WIDE WORLD I FEEL AS THOUGH I AM THE ONLY ONE WHO STILL CARE ABOUT MANNERS.
NOW I AM NOT EVEN POINTING THE FINGER AT THE YOUNGER GENERATION AS THEIR MANNERS SEEM TO BE FAR BETTER THAN THE OLDER GENERATION. WE JUST SEEM TO HAVE LOST THE ABILITY TO CONSIDER OTHER PEOPLE.
2020 IS THE YEAR TO REDISCOVER YOUR MANNERS. LETS WAKE THEM UP GENTLY WITH A FEW SUGGESTIONS;
DRIVING. THE NUMBER ONE SOURCE OF ALL BAD MANNERS. DISPLAY COURTESY AT ALL TIMES TO OTHER ROAD USERS. LET PEOPLE IN FRONT, AND FLASH YOUR LIGHTS OR GESTURE A THANK YOU WHEN MOTORISTS DO THE SAME FOR YOU. IF YOU MAKE A MISTAKE AND INCUR THE WRATH OF OTHER ROAD USERS HOLD YOUR HAND UP AND SAY SORRY. THERE IS NO POINT IN GETTING INTO ROWS AND ESCALATING A POTENTIALLY DANGEROUS SITUATION. LET IT GO ! IT IS NOT A COMPETITION. ON A SEPARATE NOTE NEVER TAILGATE SOMEONE AND DONT COAST IN THE MIDDLE LANE !!!!!!
PUNCTUALITY. YOUR TIME IS NOT MORE IMPORTANT THAN OTHERS SO DONT STEAL THEIRS. I LUNCH WITH A REGULAR FRIEND (YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE) 3 TIMES IN THE LAST 6 MONTHS SHE HAS ARRANGED A DENTAL, A WAX, AND A MASSAGE APPOINTMENT AT THE SAME TIME AS OUR LUNCH APPOINTMENT TO ALLOW HER TO BE AN HOUR LATE EACH TIME !!! DONT LET THIS BE YOU. UNBELIEVABLY RUDE AND I AM CURRENTLY CONSIDERING MY POSITION. IM NEVER LATE FOR AN APPOINTMENT AND I RECOGNISE SOMETIMES IT IS UNAVOIDABLE BUT IF IT IS JUST SLOPPY AND INCONSIDERATE TIMING WITH NO APOLOGETIC MESSAGE ON YOUR PART THEN IM GONE BY THE TIME THEY GET THERE.
CANCELLATIONS IF YOU HAVE MADE A PRIOR ENGAGEMENT AND ALL CHECKED YOUR DIARIES AND CONFIRMED. DO NOT CANCEL LESS THAN 48 HRS BEFORE, BECAUSE YOU GOT A BETTER OFFER. OTHER PEOPLE HAVE ARRANGED THEIR LIFE AND TURNED DOWN OTHER INVITATIONS /WORK TO BE THERE FOR YOU. HONOUR IT. I HAVE STILL MADE A CONFIRMED ENGAGEMENT AFTER UNEXPECTED MAJOR SURGERY BECAUSE I GENUINELY VALUE OTHER PEOPLES TIME AS MUCH AS MY OWN.
ACCEPT INVITATIONS PROMPTLY. IF YOU ARE LUCKY TO RECEIVE AN INVITATION FOR YOUR COMPANY REPLY WITHIN 48 HOURS DONT KEEP THEM WAITING. STICK TO IT (SEE ABOVE)
RESPECT SERVICE STAFF. MANY PEOPLE TODAY TREAT WAITERS,SHOP STAFF,SWITCHBOARD STAFF INVISIBLY. IF THEY ARE WEARING NAME BADGES OR HAVE TOLD YOU THEIR NAME, USE IT. REMEMBER YOUR PLEASE AND THANK YOUS. THEY ARE HUMAN TOO AND WE ALL WANT THE SAME BASIC THINGS IN LIFE. JUST BECAUSE THEY ARE SERVING YOU IT DOES NOT MAKE THEM LESSER THAN YOU. LETS MAKE THEIR JOBS EASIER AND MAKE THEIR DAY PLEASANT TOO. (UNLESS OF COURSE THE SERVICE IS BAD)
MOBILE PHONES, PUT IT AWAY. PLEASE DONT SIT OPPOSITE ME TEXTING MIDST CONVERSATION. ENJOY SOME HUMAN INTERACTION. EVEN WORSE ARE THE PEOPLE THAT WALK DOWN A STREET TEXTING AND BUMPING INTO YOU AND WALKING IN FRONT OF CARS ( NOW IM BOILING OVER!!) IF THIS IS YOU PLEASE STOP ! TODAY! LIVE IN THE PRESENT. ENGAGE WITH THE WORLD #LOOKUP I ALSO DONT WANT TO LISTEN TO YOUR PRIVATE CONVERSATIONS IN PUBLIC PLACES. TALK QUIETLY OR LEAVE THE AREA.
RESPECT YOUR NEIGHBOURS. MOST OF US HAVE NEIGHBOURS AND WE ALL WANT A HARMONIOUS ENVIRONMENT TO LIVE IN. SO KEEP THE NOISE TO A MINIMUM WHETHER ITS MUSIC, CHILDREN, DOGS OR ARGUING WITH A PARTNER. SO SHOW RESPECT TO OTHER PEOPLE THAT YOU ARE SHARING AN AREA WITH. ALSO ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR NEIGHBOURS SMILE,WAVE,SAY HELLO. OTHER THAN THAT KEEP THEM AT ARMS LENGTH DISPUTES AND ARGUMENTS WITH NEIGHBOURS CAN ESCALATE QUICKLY AND CAN RUIN YOUR HOME LIFE.
KEEP YOUR PRIVATE HABITS PRIVATE. WHAT YOU DO IN YOUR OWN HOME IS YOUR BUSINESS BUT DONT BE SURPRISED IF OTHER PEOPLE GET UPSET WHEN YOU BRING UNACCEPTABLE HABITS INTO THE PUBLIC ARENA. ADAPT YOUR BEHAVIOUR TO SUIT THE SITUATION AND HOPEFULLY WE CAN ALL LIVE IN HARMONY.
FINAL NOTE…….. WHEN OFFENDED BY BAD MANNERS KILL THEM WITH KINDNESS RATHER THAN OFFENDING WHILE POINTNG OUT THEIR INCREDIBLY SELFISH SELF ABSORBED WORLD OF INCONSIDERATION.
IT WOULD BE LOVELY TO LIVE IN A WORLD OF POLITENESS AND CONSIDERATION TO OTHERS AND AVOIDING POTENTIAL CONFRONTATIONS. I AM PASSIONATE ABOUT MANNERS SO LET US WORK TOGETHER TO MAKE OUR SPACE A HAPPIER PLACE TO LIVE IN.
JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: MANNERS COST NOTHING , TAKE NO TIME AND NO EFFORT SO LETS GET PRACTISING !
MIDWEEK INSPIRATION TO BEAT THE JANUARY BLUES. THOUGHTS AND EXERCISES TO GET YOU THROUGH THE WEEK.
DISCOVER YOUR ‘SELF’
I AM CONSTANTLY SURPRISED BY HOW MANY PEOPLE HAVE NOT TAKEN TIME TO GET TO KNOW THEMSELVES. IF I ASK THEM QUESTIONS ABOUT THEIR INNERMOST THOUGHTS THEY DO NOT KNOW THE ANSWERS. MORE SURPRISINGLY EVEN IF I ASK QUITE BASIC QUESTIONS E.G THEIR FAVOURITE FILM OR CHILDHOOD MEMORY MANY HAVE NEVER GIVEN IT A THOUGHT !
SO TODAY THIS IS A TWO PART TASK.
SIT DOWN NAKED IN FRONT OF THE MIRROR AND STUDY YOUR FACE AND BODY (OBVIOUSLY AT HOME ALONE, NOT IN THE OFFICE !) . REALLY FOCUS ON ALL THE THINGS YOU LIKE ABOUT YOUR FACIAL FEATURES, YOUR EYES, LIPS EVEN THE LINES YOU HAVE HAD FUN IN EARNING. PARTS OF YOUR BODY YOU LOVE AND THE MIRACLES THAT OCCUR EVERY DAY WITHIN THAT BODY AND OUR LARGELY NEGLECTED FEET THAT SUPPORT US EVERYDAY. PLEASE KEEP THIS POSITIVE AND LEARN TO APPRECIATE……YOU. MANY PEOPLE HAVE NEVER DONE THIS EXERCISE BECAUSE OF LACK OF YOU TIME OR EMBARRASSMENT BUT LEARN TO BE COMFORTABLE ……WITH YOU !
GRAB A COFFEE OR A GLASS OF WINE AND I WANT YOU TO ANSWER THE FOLLOWING QUESTIONS THERE ARE HUNDREDS THAT YOU SHOULD KNOW BUT HERES A SELECTION TO GET YOU STARTED. ASK THEM TO YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY IT IS AMAZING HOW MANY PEOPLE DONT KNOW THE ANSWERS IMMEDIATELY.
WHAT ARE YOUR GOALS AND DREAMS FOR THIS YEAR?
LIST YOUR BEST QUALITIES?
WHAT IS YOUR FAVOURITE BOOK/FILM?
LIST YOUR TOP FIVE PLACES TO EAT?
THREE WORDS THAT DESCRIBE YOUR PERSONALITY ?
WHAT GIVES YOU PLEASURE AND COMFORT?
WHAT COUNTRY WAS YOUR FAVOURITE VISIT?
HOW WOULD YOU CHANGE YOUR LIFE FOR THE BETTER?
WHAT PERSON/PEOPLE MAKE YOU FEEL SPECIAL?
WHAT EXCITES YOU ?
WHAT IS YOUR FAVOURITE CHRISTMAS SONG ?
WHAT WOULD YOU CHANGE ABOUT YOUR LIFE IF YOU HAD THREE WISHES ?
WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY?
WHAT BRINGS YOU PEACE?
THIS IS SUCH AN INTERESTING EXERCISE AND YOU ALMOST FEEL CLOSER TO YOURSELF. BE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND. GETTING TO KNOW ‘YOU’ IS A GREAT TOOL FOR STRENGTHENING YOUR MENTAL HEALTH FORMING A DEEPER BOND WITH ONESELF.
JOJOS STYLIST TIP: HOW WELL DO YOU KNOW THE PEOPLE CLOSEST TO YOU? SEE IF YOU CAN ANSWER THE QUESTIONS ABOUT THEM. DO THIS WITH THEM SIMULTANEOUSLY THE ANSWERS MAY SURPRISE YOU ? ADD YOUR OWN TO THE LIST?
WELL DONE GUYS. ANOTHER STEP CLOSER TO KEEPING THE HAPPINESS POT TOPPED UP !!
YOUR AFTER CHRISTMAS PICK ME UP TO RESTORE YOUR ENERGY AND REVITALISE YOUR MIND.
NEW YEAR. NEW THINKING. NEW YOU.
As I write this on New Years Eve it is definitely one night of the year I stay in ALONE for a quiet time of reflection and goal setting for the year ahead. Yes another one of my rituals (see my Christmas Rituals post 21st Dec).
People put too much pressure on themselves on New Years Eve to go out too over priced events and convince themselves they are having a good time. It always seem so forced. I inherently dislike being grabbed by strangers for a celebratory kiss as the clock tones twelve, what is it about this night that condones otherwise unacceptable behaviour.
I always value my cosy New Years Eve to do just as I like it is a real personal pleasure for me.
Your task this week is to discover how this year you can do things differently. Forget resolutions that are negative which concentrate on habits you need to give up. Resolutions that you need to work hard at. This year we are going to embrace positive resolutions things you need to ADD to your life to ensure it is more beautiful.
Your 2020 list starts with…. HOW DO I MAKE MY LIFE MORE BEAUTIFUL,STYLISH AND POSITIVE ?
I am planning a blog in January on ways to achieve a more beautiful life. but for now I really want YOU to think about YOUR life and what brings YOU pleasure.
HAPPY NEW YEAR TO ALL MY FOLLOWERS ! XX
JOJOs STYLIST TIP: FIND A QUIET PLACE AND MEDITATE OR DEEPLY RELAX , LIGHT SOME CANDLES REALLY GIVE THIS SOME THOUGHTLET YOUR MIND REALLY GET CARRIED AWAY. 2020 IS YOUR YEAR TO FLY