Fashion Stylist and Sound Therapist . Help people to be their best self mentally and visually. Living in LA, London and Cannes living life to the max. Embracing my fifties encouraging others to do the same. This is your time to live a beautiful and stylish life
YOUR WEEKLY DOSE OF INSPIRATION, MANTRAS AND TASKS TO MAINTAIN A HEALTHY AND HAPPY MIND AND GET YOU THROUGH THE REST OF THE WEEK. TUNE IN HERE EVERY WEDNESDAY.
SWITCH YOUR FOCUS
MANY PEOPLE THAT I SPEAK TO THAT ARE SUFFERING DEPRESSION, FEELING LOW OR COMPLAINING OF ILLNESSES ALL HAVE ONE THING IN COMMON. THEY ALL WITH NO EXCEPTION SEEM TO BE SOLELY FOCUSSED ON THEMSELVES. I REALISE THAT WITH DEPRESSION IT CAN BE VERY HARD TO THINK OUTSIDE OF THE SELF AND A MENTAL ILLNESS CAN BE ALL CONSUMING. IF YOU CAN IDENTIFY WITH THIS, ASK YOURSELF WHEN THE LAST TIME YOU GAVE A THOUGHT AND SHOWED SOME CARING TO THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU. THOSE THAT YOU KNOW AND THOSE THAT YOU ARE YET TO KNOW.
SWITCH YOUR FOCUS AND WORRY ABOUT OTHERS. MANY OF US THINK THAT IN ORDER TO OVERCOME CHALLENGES IN OUR LIFE WE NEED TO CONCENTRATE ON THEM. BUT USUALLY FROM A MENTAL PERSPECTIVE THE OPPOSITE IS TRUE. SO THIS WEEK I WANT YOU TO FOCUS ON SOMEONE ELSES CHALLENGES OR THEIR PAIN. LEAVE YOUR OWN WORRIES BEHIND.
THIS MIND SWITCH IS QUITE POWERFUL AND YOU WILL FIND IT REWARDING AND YOUR SPIRITS WILL BE LIFTED. YOU MAY FIND YOUR OWN PROBLEMS HAVE TAKEN CARE OF THEMSELVES WHILE YOU HAVE BEEN AWAY.
JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: SOMETIMES JUST BY REMOVING THE MAGNIFYING GLASS PROBLEMS CAN APPEAR TO SHRINK.
With mental health problems continuing to soar in these anxious times and access to NHS services severely restricted it is not time to give up ! Do not disappear further down a deep dark hole if you feel there is no outside help, it is time to help yourself. Let us do this together.
Here are some helpful points to give yourself a therapy session. After all no one knows you better than you know yourself The worst thing you can do is nothing at all while you are on the waiting list for professional help and who knows by time you have practised this list you may decide you no longer need professional therapy.
The following methods have helped many of my clients with their mental health who have sought my help in my capacity of a professional Sound Healing Therapist and have certainly helped myself too. It is very important to examine your own mental health regularly as you would examine say your breasts for lumps.
So here are the 5 rules:
What do you need when you find yourself in a difficult period ? Most people at this time will NOT feel like going out to clubs and socialising but you may feel like walking your dog in the countryside or curling up on the sofa with a great movie. So identify what YOU need to feel better and allow yourself the time to do WHATEVER COMFORTS YOU .
Define the situation. Write it down. relationships, money, friends or general lethargy. Be brutally honest with yourself . Are you part of the problem? Self examination is a great tool. But if you are really finding this difficult or this does not fit with your personality type then enlist the help of a friend to talk it through with, but ask them to be honest and open too. The method of self examination works for many but it depends on the type of person you are.
There is a danger of thinking none of this is your fault otherwise then you cannot effect change.
Analyse the situation. How it happened ? Why it happened ? When did you start feeling this way ? What prompted this feeling? Again write it down.
How can you make this better ? What do YOU want ? Step outside of yourself and look in as an outsider. De personalise for a moment.
What would you tell your Son/Daughter/best friend if they were in the same situation ?
Visualise how you would like to feel. Dream how you would like to be. Write down your goals to achieving this.
TALK. To someone. Anyone. This does not have to be a trained therapist. Do not bottle things up. Sometimes just releasing pent up feelings can see a marked improvement in mood.
It is time to take control before it gets out of control.
JOJOS STYLELIST TIP:If it is a situation that is causing poor mental health just remember what looks bleak one day to remember there are good times ahead you just never know what is around the corner . Anticipate the good times. Think of a relationship break up you think your world has ended and you will never meet someone like them but the next one is ALWAYS better than the last one. How many of us can relate to that ??
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DISCOVER THE TRUTH
THE HARDEST THING IS TO CONFRONT UNCOMFORTABLE TRUTHS ABOUT OURSELVES SO OUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY SOMETIMES ONLY TELL US WHAT WE WANT TO HEAR. SIMULTANEOUSLY WE OURSELVES MAY HAVE TROUBLE SAYING THE TRUTH TO OUR NEAREST AND DEAREST FOR FEAR OF HURTING THEM OR EVEN OURSELVES . THE TRUTH MAY EAN OPENING UP AND REVEALING A PART OF YOURSELF THAT YOU HAVE KEPT HIDDEN.
WHEN YOU NEED TO TELL THE TRUTH, HAVE THE COURAGE TO OPEN YOUR HEART AS WELL AS YOUR MOUTH.
WHEN YOU NEED TO HEAR THE TRUTH, HAVE THE HUMILITY TO OPEN YOUR EARS AND CLOSE YOUR MOUTH.
MWAH MWAH XXXXXX
JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: IT IS MUCH EASIER TO TELL A TRUTH THAN TO CONCEAL A TRUTH.
Now I realise many people are in denial about climate change but no one can deny that we are ruining our planet with at best poor housekeeping and at worst dirty filthy habits. There also can be NO denial that we can nurture our planet by all just making a few subtle changes to our lifestyle.
I decided to write about this following a dinner party discussion which involved us listing how green we were. Now I have never really thought about myself as being a green activist but I was surprised how “green” I actually live. I know I could do more but what I do , I do on a consistent basis, without too much trouble or hardship. So I will list the things that I came up with over the dinner table, which I am sure most of you already do, but if you don’t try to make some small adjustments to help clean our beautiful planet up. If I can do it, I am pretty sure you can. The planet is a thing of beauty to be handled with care and passed onto the many generations to whom we pass the baton.
Always shower and only for 30 seconds unless i am washing my hair, rarely bath.
I generate only half a small bag of waste each week.
Turn tap off while cleaning my teeth
I do not class myself as a vegetarian but I only meat about once every two months
Do not buy fast disposable fashion. I shop for clothes twice a year not twice a week ( or as some people do twice a day !!!)
No longer buy bottled water I bought a Brita filter jug but I use the filter three times longer than recommended. I have a reusable bottle for life for water on the go.
Energy efficient . I only have lights on in the room that is being occupied.
Installed solar panels on my roof to lower my energy bills.
Make my own cleaning products from white wine vinegar/lemon juice and soda crystals to cut down my chemical waste.
Now take trains for long journeys (this is new to me !!) but they are much better than I recall.
I have hessian lifetime shopping bags.
Buy loose fruit and vegetables and don’t even use the plastic bags on the rack they go onto the conveyer belt singularly !!
Oh… and I only have one child. Now I would never, unlike Meghan and Harry tell you how many children to have. Even though they now have gone against their own advice. Do as they say not as they do has become their mantra ! But just saying. This is only about me.
I certainly do not want to become a green preacher but these are all simple things to inject into your everyday life without too much planning. Think, if we all did these basic things what a massive difference we could make collectively.
JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: ADD MORE GREEN INTO YOUR DAY ON TOP OF MY FAMOUS GREEN JUICE WHICH I HOPE YOU ARE ALL HAVING EACH MORNING. FORGET ORANGE – GREEN IS THE NEW BLACK !!!!
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HOW TO HELP
WHEN YOU SEE SOMEONE ELSES PAIN RECOGNISE IT AS AN OPPORTUNITY TO HELP. YOU HAVE BEEN SHOWN SOMEONES ANGUISH BECAUSE YOU HAVE THE ABILITY TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. THINK CAREFULLY HOW YOU CAN TAKE THAT PERSONS PAIN AWAY OR SIMPLY ASK THEM.
THE UNIVERSE ASKS US TO WITNESS WHAT WE CAN AFFECT.
YOUR INTUITION WILL GUIDE YOU . TRUST IT.
MWAH MWAH XXXXXXX
JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: DOING THINGS FOR OTHERS ACHIEVES DEEPER HAPPINESS THAN DOING THINGS FOR YOURSELF. SO DO SOMETHING FOR SOMEONE TODAY WHETHER AN OLD FRIEND OR MAYBE SOMEONE YOU ONLY JUST MET.
Arthritis can hit you at any age. but as you get older or menopausal it is more common than you think. Many of us suffer from stiff joints. I was diagnosed with Osteoarthiritis in my spine about 10 years ago in my early forties. At the time I was walking with two sticks and having regular steroid injections in my spine under anaesthetic. My prognosis was ” you will not get any better but we cannot say how fast it will deteriorate” when it spread to my fingers, elbows and toes, I sprang into action.
Today I play tennis, do yoga have a full and active life and no longer use sticks and definitely no more steroids. Even my consultant has noted down full details of how I fought arthritis and won.
So today I am going to share with you my anti inflammatory diet.Passed to me by a friend in Hollywood.The town of all things healthy. This changed my life and I notice an immediate improvement if you stick to it for 3 days per month only. As I have been busy for the last few months I have omitted for the first time in having my anti inflammatory diet days and my joints have noticeably started to stiffen again.
It consists of a smoothie, hot drink and a soup. You can have as much as you want . I have JUST this. But if you need some solid food stick to fish and vegetables. NO red meat, sugar,carbs, eggs or chicken. No dairy, (cheese is difficult to give up for me ) and absolutely NO COFFEE!! Keep it fairly simple so your body does not have to work too hard.
1 Lime , cranberries, blueberries,cucumber,spoonful of avocado,a few walnuts, teaspoon of spirulina(alkaline).
Whizz up in your blender with lots of ice ( it always tastes better chilled).
Have every morning on an empty stomach.
Make enough in one go to drink throughout the day so you can let it steep.
Boil in a big pan. 8 lemons, 8 tablespoons of dried parsley,3 tablespoons celery seed,1/4 teaspoon cayenne pepper, 1/4 teaspoon turmeric powder,1/4 grated ginger root. 10 cups of water.
Once billed just leave it to steep. Sieve the tea.Then once cooled leave in a jug in the refrigerator. Heat up and drink throughout the day or have chilled in the Summer months.
Make a big pot for you to have throughout the day.
2 cups of root vegetables, parsnips, carrots,swede. 2 cups of sweet potato, 2 cups of greens (preferably kale), 1 red onion, 5 celery stalks, a cup of mixed mushrooms, garlic and fresh coriander.
Boil then simmer for an hour. Blend to a puree add more water to achieve a consistency you prefer. This soup does not look pretty but it is actually delicious. When my friends visit and I am on my anti inflammatory days they always love a bowl of this, in fact I am sure they pop around on purpose !!!
Treat yourself gently during these 3 days lots of Epsom salts baths or book a professional lymphatic massage.
I hope this works for you in easing the inflammation like it works for me, but you lose nothing by trying…..except perhaps some excess weight and the sugar ring around your waist.
JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: IF YOU SUFFER FROM INFLAMMATION GIVE THE BODY TIME TO REST I TRY TO ONLY EAT IN A 4 HOUR WINDOW BETWEEN 1-5PM. THIS GIVES YOUR BODY TIME TO HEAL AND CALM. YOU WOULD BE INFLAMED IF YOU WORKED CONSTANTLY TOO !!
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THE KEY TO HAPPINESS
THE KEY TO HAPPINESS IS TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR ALL THAT HAPPENS IN YOUR LIFE THE GOOD AND THE BAD. WHATEVER HAPPENS IN YOUR LIFE YOU HAVE TO OWN IT WHETHER YOU ARE ENJOYING THE EXPERIENCE OR NOT. IF AN EVENT IN YOUR LIFE IS CAUSING YOU ANXIETY IT IS A CHANCE TO QUESTION WHAT LESSON LIFE IS TRYING TO TEACH YOU. WHAT CAN YOU LEARN FROM THIS ? HOW HAS THE SITUATION DEVELOPED YOU AS A PERSON ?
TODAY, REMEMBER, THAT ACCEPTING RESPONSIBILITY NOT HIDING FROM IT IS THE ONLY WAY OF DISCOVERING TRUE HAPPINESS AND FULFILMENT AND YOUR TRUE PURPOSE OF YOUR JOURNEY.
MWAH MWAH. XXXXX
JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: LIFE IS FULL OF PROBLEMS AWAITING SOLUTIONS. EACH PROBLEM OVERCOME IS ANOTHER BUILDING BLOCK TO DEVELOPMENT, ACCEPTANCE , SATISFACTION AND TRUE HAPPINESS
Collagen powders are the latest beauty “fad” that all the celebrities are taking and it is now a multi billion pound industry. Well on this one I am ahead of the celebritiies I have been taken collagen powder for over two years and prior to that was consuming Skinade daily for about 5 years.
From your mid twenties collagen declines at about 1 % every day rising to a steep drop in your menopause of about 30% of total collagen.
So does our collagen need large replacement doses as we commence our menopause ?
WHAT IS COLLAGEN ?
The largest protein found in your body. Found in bones, muscles, tendons and skin. Think of it as a scaffold holding up the skin. As this diminishes so does the structure of our skin particularly evident on our faces as the connective tissue start to weaken and sagging and wrinkles appear. It is the glue that holds everything together and is found in teeth, nails, hair even corneas as well as the skin. So a super boost of collagen surely must hold many benefits.
DOES IT WORK ?
Well it certainly has eased my arthiritic joints and my hair is super glossy and my skin is glowing although I am not wrinkle free…..yet. I only embarked on the collagen journey having met up with an old friend whose skin had improved dramatically and she seemed to have a glow about her to which she attributed to Collagen powder.
You have to commit to taking it EVERY day in a hot or cold drink. Although purists say it has to be cold as heat breaks the collagen down. So pop it in your morning smoothie. I have a bovine collagen drink though so I make it into a hot drink rather like a cup of soup. I t can also aid weight loss as it makes you feel quite full.
With these new wonder foods I honestly think the only way to see if they work is try it every day for at least a month and see if you notice an improvement.
MARINE V BOVINE
Collagen powder is either fish or animal derived. There are some vegan options but these seem to be largely vitamin c based. Although I personally have taken bovine collagen there are now some question marks over the sources. In some products large amount of metals and cadmium(also in spinach !!) have been found. Also when you think these powders are largely ground up bones , connective tissue and by products of cows I wonder how regulated these products are especially considering the BSE outbreak a number of years back ! I have now embarked on the marine collagen by Vital Proteins to see if it is just as effective as the bovine appeared to be.
But if taking supplements is not for you then there are foods that are natural sources of collagen.
FOOD SOURCES OF COLLAGEN
Or, you could try making your own bone broth with good quality bones sourced from a reputable butcher.
Remember diet is always first and foremost when it comes to good quality skin. All the above foods I include in my diet on a regular basis then the question would be whether I really need to be taking extra supplement when I cannot be sure on the source of the powder.
MMmmmm that is the big question and definitely ‘food’ for thought.
Mwah mwah. xxxxxx
JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: REMEMBER PREVENTION IS ALWAYS THE BEST OPTION. THE BIGGEST CAUSE OF LOSS OF COLLAGEN IS UV RAYS SO SPF 50 SUNBLOCK IS A MUST ALL YEAR ROUND. OH AND NO SMOKING!!!
YOUR WEEKLY DOSE OF INSPIRATION ,THOUGHT AND MENTAL EXERCISES TO ENSURE A HEALTHY AND HAPPY MIND.
BALANCING YOUR FEMALE AND MALE ENERGIES
WE ARE ALL MADE UP OF FEMALE AND MALE PERSONALITY TRAITS. FEMALE ENERGY IS OFTEN SEEN AS COMPASSION, NURTURING AND SENSUAL. WHILE MALE ENERGY IS PREDOMINANTLY POWERFUL, DRIVEN AND ASSERTIVE. BUT IN FACT WE ARE A MIX OF BOTH ENERGIES ALTHOUGH SOME MAYBE MORE DOMINANT IN YOU THAN OTHERS. WHAT WE ARE TRYING TO ACHIEVE IS A HARMONIOUS BALANCE OF BOTH.
SO TODAY MAKE A LIST OF QUALITIES THAT ARE GENERALLY SEEN AS FEMALE/MALE :
TICK THE ONES THAT ARE STRONGER WITHIN AND THEN LOOK AT WAYS YOU CAN BALANCE THE OTHERS. SOME MEN MAY FIND THEY POSSESS MORE FEMININE ENERGY AND SOME WOMEN MAY POSSESS MORE MASCULINE ENERGY. TRUE HAPPINESS LIES IN BALANCING BOTH ENERGIES WITHIN ONE PERSON.
WHAT ARE YOU REQUIRING MORE OF IN YOUR LIFE ? CAN INCREASING EVEN ONE OF THESE ENERGIES MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN ACHIEVING THIS. EVEN IN RELATIONSHIPS BY BALANCING THESE ENERGIES CAN MAKE FOR BETTER SYNERGY IN THOSE RELATIONSHIPS.
JOJO STYLELIST TIP: MALE AND FEMALE ELEMENTS COMPLEMENT EACH OTHER PERFECTLY . SO IMAGINE THOSE QUALITIES IN ONE MIND. ENJOY WORKING ON BOTH SIDES OF THAT MIND TODAY
We have finally been unleashed. A Summer outside with restaurants opening, the “Season” is back on with races at Ascot, Boodles, Wimbledon, Henley and garden parties with friends. (Well at the time of writing !!). So now is the perfect time to in vest in some flirty Summer dresses. So easy to wear , no need to co-ordinate or overthink. Just one item of clothing and some simple accessories. Simple summer dresses !
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A DAY AT THE RACES
This dress would be perfect for Ascot or even for one of the dressier polo events from one of my favourite designers at the moment Johanna Ortiz. Check out the rest of her collection one of the best this season.
GAME ,SET AND MATCH !
Fresh and crisp and currently on sale. So snap this one up for The Boodles or Wimbledon. Perfect for a corporate tennis event. Pair with some sensible wedges .
A SUMMER WEDDING
Thinking of a small intimate wedding on a beach or in the gardens of a country house ? I LOVE the simplicity and elegance of this Jacquemas dress from NET A PORTER. Accessorize with a simple bouquet of white and green Lily of the Valley.
DINNER WITH FRIENDS
Dinner with friends. This wrap around dress will flatter most body shapes. Simple to throw on just accessorise with some gold hoop earrings and a simple clutch and some neutral heels and your good to go !
A GARDEN BARBECUE
Floral, cotton and cool whats not to like ? Perfect for a garden barbecue or heading to the beach. Pop over a bikini with some gold flat mules and an eye catching gold tote bag.
MWAH MWAH. XXXXX
JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: FIVE NEW DRESSES MAKES SUMMER DRESSING SO EASY. HELPS TO PLAN A HOLIDAY WARDROBE TOO. CUTS OUT THE HASSLE OF DECIDING WHAT GOES WITH WHAT. DONT FORGET TO CONSIDER YOUR COLOURING, BODY SHAPE AND CLOTHING PERSONALITY AS DISCUSSED IN PREVIOUS ARTICLES…….STYLISTAS !