MIDWEEK MANTRA : STOP JUDGING

YOUR WEEKLY DOSE OF INSPIRATION AND POSITIVITY TO UPLIFT YOUR SPIRITS AND RESTORE MENTAL HEALTH AFTER A DEMANDING WEEK !

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TODAYS POWERFUL THOUGHT IS TO FOCUS ON ON WHO AND WHY WE JUDGE OTHERS. VERY OFTEN IT HAS TO DO WITH OURSELVES RATHER THAN THE OTHER PEOPLE WHOM WE ARE CRITICIZING. MAYBE WE SEE OURSELVES IN THE ACTIONS OF OTHERS. OR MAYBE IT MAKES US FEEL RIGHTEOUS WHEN OTHERS FAIL.

ITS MUCH HARDER TO REFLECT ON OUR OWN NEGATIVE QUALITIES WHEN OUR THOUGHTS ARE CONSUMED WITH THE NEGATIVE ASPECTS OF OTHER PEOPLE.

ITS A HEAVY BURDEN TO BEAR CONSTANTLY JUDGING AND SEEKING OUT ONLY NEGATIVE. THERE MAYBE A REASON FOR THAT PERSONS BEHAVIOUR BASED ON EXPERIENCES THAT DIFFER FROM YOUR OWN.

SO RIGHT NOW SPEND A FEW MINUTES :

  1. LIST YOUR OWN NEGATIVE QUALITIES AND FOCUS ON ONE OR TWO THAT YOU WOULD LIKE TO CHANGE. OR A RECURRING PATTERN THAT YOU WOULD LIKE TO BREAK.
  2. DETERMINE HOW YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR RESPONSE TO THE PERSON AND SITUATION INSTEAD OF JUDGING. THINK ABOUT A PARTICULAR SITUATION WHERE YOU ARE BRINGING A LOT OF JUDGEMENT TO THE TABLE. WHAT IS ONE WAY YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR RESPONSE TO THIS PERSON.
  3. FIND A POSITIVE IN THE SITUATION OR ABOUT THE PERSON.
  4. LET IT GO !

MWAH MWAH

JOJO XXXX

JOJO STYLELIST TIP: VERY OFTEN WHEN WE ARE JUDGING SITUATIONS WE BECOME STRESSED AND ANGRY AND CREATE CONFLICT WITH OTHERS. IT IS MUCH EASIER TO CHANGE YOUR RESPONSE TO THE ACTION THAN CHANGE THE OTHER PERSONS BEHAVIOUR. PRACTISE THIS DAILY FOR A MORE HARMONIOUS LIFE !

LIFESTYLE: RADIATING HAPPINESS

Its one thing to have a feeling of happiness but to radiate happiness to people around us is something we need to practise. Happiness is one contagion we do understand, the more we radiate happiness the more people want to be with us and more opportunities flow towards us.

Now doesn’t that sound good ?

Yes when you devlop the light within you and radiate the energy outwards it becomes a ripple effect. The best of you brings out the best in others. Can you imagine if this thought process spread throughout the world . What an amazing place this would be !

True happiness comes from our true self not our physical self, of limiting body , thoughts,fear and emotions. The true self is limitless and lies in the silence wisdom and grace that can be found in meditation. It has no bounds and is infinite. So you can tap into as much happiness that you choose.

Tune into your own thoughts and recognise how you are really feeling. The n notch it up a few levels on your “mood-o-meter” when you surrender to the joy and focus on the good things in your life and recognise that the bad moments are just distractions treat them as positive life lessons. Even forcing a smile releases endorphins and changes your mood in an instant.

DEPRESSED PEOPLE LIVE IN THE PAST

ANXIOUS PEOPLE LIVE IN THE FUTURE

HAPPY PEOPLE LIVE IN THE PRESENT

Deepak Chopra expresses some Do’s and Dont’s in order to radiate happiness.

  • DO express appreciation in others.
  • DO be open to the other persons truth. Respect their point of view.
  • DO wear a smile
  • DO share your laughter
  • Do contribute to the joy of another
  • DO turn your inner happiness to an outer activity
  • DON’T make other people feel wrong. As your self judgement decreases so should judgement of others.
  • DON’T draw attention to how much you have changed and how happy you now are as it arouses distrust.
  • DON”T point out how unhappy someone else is. They are doing the best they can from their own level of awareness.

Psychologically studies show that positive behaviour spreads virally to others.

As more people see the change and the light in you those closest to you will see a new radiance , a new kind of lightness and vibrancy.

LET’S CHANGE THE WORLD TOGETHER !

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: THIS IS ONE INFECTION WE DON’T MIND CATCHING ! STAY HAPPY AND CARRY ON.

Mwah Mwah

JOJO XXXXXXXX

MIDWEEK MANTRA

INSPIRATION , IDEAS AND MINI EXERCISES TO PROVOKE THOUGHT AND STRENGTHEN THE MIND TO GET YOU THROUGH TO THE END OF THE WEEK …….AND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.

LIST 10 PEOPLE WHO BRIGHTEN YOUR DAY

WELL THIS WEEK IS A NICE SIMPLE TASK THAT WE CAN ALL DO . NO EXCEPTIONS. HOW OFTEN DO WE THINK OF THE PEOPLE IN OUR LIFE THAT ADD VALUE . THIS CAN BE HELPING YOU , MAKING YOU SMILE, MAKE YOUR LIFE EASIER, LOVING YOU OR JUST GIVIG YOU A GOOD BELLY LAUGH ! WELL TODAY IS THE DAY YOU SHOW THESE SPECIAL PEOPLE SOME APPRECIATION.

MAKE A LIST OF 10 PEOPLE THAT BRIGHTEN YOUR DAY WHO MAKE YOUR LIFE EASIER, HAPPIER AND LIGHTER. SEND THEM A SWEET NOTE OR A TEXT OR DO SOMETHING THOUGHTFUL FOR THEM . LET THEM KNOW HOW MUCH YOU CARE AND RECOGNISE THESE QUALITIES.

SIMPLES.

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: THIS MAY SEEM A SIMPLE TASK BUT IT IS RARELY EXECUTED. IF YOU ARE LUCKY ENOUGH TO HAVE THESE WONDERFUL PEOPLE AROUND YOU RECOGNISE AND RESPOND.

MWAH MWAH

JOJO XXX

BEAUTY : ……..AND BREATHE

Breathwork is the new buzzword in the world of beauty. Deep breathing can result in mental, emotional and physical benefits. 80% of us are breathing incorrectly so a Breathwork class can train you to intentionally change your breathing pattern. Consciously breathing with intent. Many of you , I know perform Yoga on a regular basis and will be familiar with Prana breathing deep breathing through the nose.

After attending guided breathwork classes in LA I can honestly say I am much more focussed on my breathing in my everyday schedule and am reaping some noticeable benefits (see below) and i would recommend you to take at least a one:one class with a specialist. With a plethora of new breathwork classes/apps there is no shortage of choice and certainly no excuse for not giving it a go. This could change your life.

Breathwork classes either as a group or one to one have recently seen a surge of popularity and participants are reporting significant benefits. lets face it once we have had one class it is , at least something we can practise at home 24 hours a day.

The correct way of breathing is deep in the diaphragm and not in the chest so your chest and shoulders should be relaxed and not move at all. Engage the abdomen and extend as you INHALE. Using the abs to then decompress to expel the air. This is called BELLY BREATH. You actually have to engage the mind too as this does not come naturally at first.

We all breathed correctly when we entered the world if you watch a baby you will see they automatically breath deep into the abdomen as we get older and life takes over we start to take shallower breaths as stresses and strain of everyday living takes its toll.

BENEFITS OF BREATHING CORRECTLY

BODY……… Deep breathing can reverse the ‘flight or fight’ response that we are naturally conditioned to, where our breathing speeds up and releases a surge of stress hormones eg cortisol and adrenaline. By controlling this stress reaction blood pressure can be lowered, more oxygen is delivered into your body which in turn removes carbon. The immune system is boosted. Energy levels are raised and the mind is calmed.85% of our energy amazingly comes from the breath. Even pain can be relieved.

SKIN………Clearly oxygenating our cells is a key factor in beautiful skin. That is why we spend billions each year on creams, serums and facials. But the best way of oxygenating our cells 24/7 is ….yes you guessed it…….by breathing correctly. The lymphatic system is boosted leading to a disposal of toxins. This slows down the ageing of the skin and has skin healing benefits. There are also claims that it improves Eczema.

WEIGHT…… Correct breathing aids weight loss. Well these reports maybe slightly exaggerated. However if you have an overeating problem caused by stress or emotional trauma or past baggage and breathwork calms you down then I can see there maybe a correlation. Breathing correctly can balance things out.

INSOMNIA…I use my new developed breathing skills to aid my sleep at night. You will be astonished at how rhythmic deep breathing and consciously slowing the breathing right down can rapidly send you into a deep sleep with no other aids.

SPIRITUALITY..

The breath and more importantly the concentration of the breath is instrumental for the fusion of the mind and body. Your contact increases to the subconscious mind and allows the mind to find stillness and serenity. Concentrated breath of course is fundamental to meditation and cannot be achieved without mastering this at the outset. Harmony can be restored.

BREATHING SPACES

Breathpod – Group workshops or 90 min personal sessions. Shoreditch E2 breathpod.me

The Shala- a whole range of classes and workshops . West Norwoood South London theshalalondon.com

Thebreathingroom.co.uk offer on line courses as well as 121 sessions and workshops across London.

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP : TRY A CLASS SOONER RATHER THAN LATER FOR A BETTER QUALITY OF LIFE AND EVEN A LONGER LIFE.

MWAH MWAH xxxxxxxx

JOJO

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INSPIRING YOU TO BE YOUR BEST SELF WITH MOTIVATIONAL MESSAGES AND TASKS TO GET YOU THROUGH THE WEEK X

WHAT THE PAPERS SAY

HI EVERYONE ! I JUST RETURNED FROM LUNCH WITH A GORGEOUS AND MENTALLY AGILE FRIEND OF MINE NOW IN HER LATE SEVENTIES. LIZZY WAS TELLING ME ABOUT A WONDERFUL GROUP OF FRIENDS SHE MEETS WITH AND THEY HAVE SET UP A GROUP CALEED “WHAT THE PAPERS SAY”.

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THEY MEET ON A WEEKLY BASIS AND EACH FRIEND BRINGS A CUTTING FROM THE NEWSPAPERS THAT WEEK OF AN INTERESTING ARTICLE TO DISCUSS. IT CAN BE AN AMUSING ARTICLE OR A BUSINESS/POLITICAL (ALTHOUGH ANY BREXIT TALK IS BANNED) ARTICLE. ANYTHING THAT CAN PROVOKE DISCUSSION AND DEBATE. THIS KEEPS THEM ALL INFORMED BUT ALSO KEEPS THEM MENTALLY ASTUTE. RATHER THIS THEN JUST MEETING TO DISCUSS TRIVIALITIES OR IN HER WORDS KNITTING PATTERNS AND DWELLING ON AGEING HEALTH ISSUES.

THIS WEEKLY MEET UP REALLY WORKS FOR THESE GIRLS BUT IT GOT ME THINKING THAT THIS WOULD WORK FOR ALL AGES. SO I WANTED TO PASS THIS GREAT IDEA ON TO YOU.

SO THIS WEEK, TRY IT ONCE AND SEE HOW IT GOES. CHOOSE A DISCUSSION GROUP OF MAYBE 6 FRIENDS TO BRING AN INTERESTING ARTICLE FROM THE PAPERS OR A MAGAZINE TO DISCUSS. HAVE A REAL CONVERSATION ABOUT REAL ISSUES. BE YOUR OWN LOOSE WOMEN/MEN PANEL, HAVE FUN WITH IT AND FEEL PART OF IT. STIMULATE YOUR MIND TOGETHER YOU CAN CHANGE THE WORLD !!! BUT REMEMBER TO LISTEN AND RESPECT EACH OTHERS POINT OF VIEW.

Choose a Fun Social Environment for Your Discussion

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP MAKING YOUR GROUP A MIX OF AGES, RACE AND GENERATIONS COULD BE EVEN MORE INTERESTING . MY FRIENDSHIP GROUP ENCOMPASSES MANY GENERATIONS AND RACE. I LEARN SO MUCH FROM THEM ALL.

MWAH MWAH

JOJO XXXXXXX

LIFESTYLE: DISCOVER A SOUNDBATH MEDITATION

Many of you are reporting that you are not sleeping well or have anxieties due to the current Covid 19 disruption in our lives. As one of the leading Sound Healing Therapists and a member of the College of Sound Healing (COSH) and also the International Institute of Complementary Therapists (IICT)I am a massive advocate of the benefits of soundbaths for meditation and healing. So I thought I would share one of my Soul Junk-e videos with you. Try to listen through headphones for maximum benefit but it will work just as well without.

So, grab a mat, a pillow and a blanket and all YOU have to do is let the sounds wash over you while you lie there. No more commitment required !

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: BEGIN WITH 2 0R 3 SOUNDBATHS A WEEK FOR 3 WEEKS THEN WEEKLY WILL BE ENOUGH TO ACHIEVE MAXIMUM BENEFIT. LOOKING FORWARD TO SEEING A MORE RELAXED REJUVENATED YOU !

MWAH MWAH XXXXX

JOJO XXXXXX

MIDWEEK MANTRA

Positive and uplifting lessons and messages to get you through the rest of the week and restore your mojo.

DISCOVER YOUR INNER CHILD

CAST YOUR MIND BACK TO WHEN YOU WERE A CHILD. WHAT ADULTS CLASS AS ANXIETY CHILDREN WELCOME AS EXCITEMENT. IT IS JUST IN THE PERCEPTION.

SO THIS WEEK CHOOSE A DAY WHEN YOU CAN TURN YOUR TELEPHONE OFF AND REDISCOVER THE THINGS THAT MADE YOU HAPPY AS A CHILD. IT IS TIME TO LAUGH AGAIN AND LOOK AT THE WORLD IN AN INNOCENT WAY TO RE ESTABLISH SOME PERSPECTIVE IN YOUR LIFE.

HERE ARE SOME SUGGESTIONS

  • HEAD TO THE SEASIDE. EAT CANDYFLOSS. WALK THE PIER. PLAY THE AMUSEMENT ARCADE.
  • RIDE A ROLLERCOASTER
  • GO TO THE CINEMA IN THE AFTERNOON AND ORDER POPCORN
  • COLOUR IN A COLOURING BOOK
  • JUMP WITH A SKIPPING ROPE
  • VISIT A ZOO. ENJOY AN ICE CREAM CONE
  • JUMP IN SOME PUDDLES
  • GO TO A PETTING FARM. STROKE SOME ANIMALS
  • WATCH A FAVOURITE CHILDHOOD FILM
  • MEET A FRIEND FOR KNICKERBOCKER GLORIES AND JUST GIGGLE.
  • CHALLENGE SOMEONE TO A GAME OF CONKERS
  • FLY A KITE
  • MAKE A MEAL YOU ENJOYED AS A CHILD EG FISHFINGER SANDWICHES, INSTANT WHIP
My Inner Child!!

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: RECONNECT WITH A CHILDHOOD FRIEND AND DO THIS TOGETHER

HAVE FUN !

JOJO XXXXX

TRAVEL: A LONG WEEKEND IN PARIS

I have just returned from an amazing weekend in Paris which has restored my love affair with the City after many years of absence from my heart.

THURSDAY

Always fly on a Thursday never a Friday to beat the crowds, although it is beautifully quiet right now. We flew as I live close to Terminal 5 , so maximising time on a quick trip is essential . Plus i love starting my trip with the luxury retail and brunches at this fabulous terminal.

Forget the large fancy £1000 per night hotels and opt for a chic boutique hotel, many do not have restaurants but you won’t want to be eating in the hotel when there is so much exploring to do. You will spend little time in the hotel. We opted for the very french ADELE and JULES Hotel in the 9th Arrondissement centrally located between Montmartre and the Eiffel Tower. Located in a wonderful non touristy area with great bars and cafes. The Hotel was situated in a very quiet gated courtyard a major plus in a very noisy city.

Adele and Jules Hotel in a Quiet Cul de Sac

Dumped the bags and headed off to explore on foot. The best way to immerse yourself in a City. Stopped for “cafe and a patisserie” on route.

By the time you get to your fifties most people have seen the sites of Paris so we opted not to queue with the tourists for the Eiffel Tower or to catch a glimpse of the Mona Lisa at The Louvre. Instead we came across a Parisien in a golf cart that promised us a whistle stop tour of iconic Paris in an hour. (50 euros)This totally delivered although pretty scary going up the Champs Elysse and around the very busy Arc de Triomphe in a golf cart . We felt like the Flintstones. This was definitely worth it especially along the pretty french boulevards and a great way of discovering great places to eat and drink. Finished the evening off on the Pont Alexandre lll my favourite bridge in the world.

The Golf Cart Experience

FRIDAY

Well today was my birthday so the morning was spent opening presents , (a Bottega Veneta bag if you are interested) and drinking champagne in bed.

BIRTHDAY LUNCH at THE ROYAL MONCEAU RAFFLES Hotel a menu of asian inspired fusion food. Magnifique, excellente, parfait and any other french superlative I can think of. A fabulous place for a special occasion. The footballer Lionel Messi also was at my birthday lunch, oh ok well he was on the next table !

After lunch we hotfooted it to the RAPHAEL Hotel opposite where we had heard they had a superb roof terrace, and it really was ! A bottle of Chablis with a view of the Eiffel Tower. Elegant staff in elegant surroundings. Formidable (okay , no more french superlatives i promise !)

Headed back to the hotel with a small detour to a bar by the hotel that by the end of our trip the mad frenchman Giles of La Comete had become a family member. Great Bar, tapas , food etc and heaps of ambiance.

Wanting to get maximum extraction of enjoyment for my birthday after a quick freshen up back at the hotel we decided on a riverboat trip down the River Seine and grabbed an Uber it to the Bateaux Mouches.

SATURDAY

Our final day so we head up to the Montmartre and the Place Des artistes and its bohemian vibe. We stopped by the SACRE COEUR and took in a morning service. Before deciding on a lovely lunch in the myriad of fabulous places to eat. Moules and frites seem to be the staple diet here.

You have to get your portrait done by one of the many artists 50 euros is the standard rate. We both got our portraits done. Mine was with a lovely artist called Marina who declared her undying love for Nigel Farage ! We met so many interesting characters here certainly the place to sit with a Lillet or Pastis and people watch.

On the return journey we got caught up in the Liberte demonstrations so exited the Uber and joined in the march. What fun !

We were sad to return home the following day so popped back into the Comete to have some drinks and dinner at La Comete with our mad friend Gilles.

SUNDAY MORNING

Sad to leave this City now my love for it had been restored and the fondness for my new Parisian friends we made at our regular haunts around the hotel. Parisiens tend to get a bad press but once you crack through their tough exterior you can feel the love they have for the English after all …………..

BON VOYAGE !!

MWAH MWAH xxxxx

JOJO X

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: IT IS TIME TO DO PARIS THE JOJO WAY. APPROACH IT FROM A DIFFERENT ANGLE AND THINK LIKE A PARISIEN X

MIDWEEK MANTRA : REFLECTIONS

FEELING DOWN AND LETHARGIC ? WE ARE HERE TO CHANGE YOUR OUTLOOK ON LIFE AND ITS TRUE BEAUTY. TUNE INTO OUR WEEKLY CLUB OF INSPIRATION, FOCUS AND POSITIVITY TO LIFT YOUR SPIRITS AND GET YOU THROUGH THE WEEK.

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What Do You REALLY See ?

In Jay Shettys Think Like A Monk (Thorsens £14.99 ) he lists four common regrets that people have as they approach the end of their life.

Imagine your last moment on earth which can be seen as your greatest reflection point on everything that is leading up to it.

The most common regrets people express are:

I wish I had expressed my love to the people I care about

I wish I had not worked so much.

I wish I had taken more pleasure in life.

I wish I had done more for other people.

So TODAY reflect on these questions and do not wait until your dying day make the changes now. Lead a more purposeful, service based and meaningful life. Next time you look in the mirror you hopefully will see the person you want to be right here right now.

MWAH MWAH XXX

JOJO X

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: DON’T WAIT UNTIL IT IS TOO LATE . NO REGRETS.

FOOD : 3 JUICES YOU NEED RIGHT NOW !

THE HEALTHY COCKTAIL

If like me you like to go light on the alcohol, and particularly as you get older you require less as it seems to affect you more (or is it just me) than this one is for you. I love a good night out or a long lunch but I don’t always want to consume lots of alcohol but none of the non alcoholic alternatives excite. I hate gassy drinks so mixers are out and I hate syrupy sugary cocktails loaded with calories. This ‘Mocktail’ is healthy , cooling and absolutely delicious. Most barmen have a blender and these 3 ingredients behind the bar and how cool is it you can create your own AND stay sober AND keep your good looks.

Cucumber > mint>lime>lots of ice and a smidge of honey to sweeten.

Blend

Cucumber Cooler

THE WATER RETENTION ELIMINATOR

This your ‘go to’ juice when you have a big event coming up or just experiencing bloating. Twice a day for 3 days maximum.

Celery.> parsley >lemon juice>cold green tea> ice

Blend

Get Rid of Puffiness and Bloating

THE MENOPAUSE MIX

The two juices above are as and when you require the solution but the Menopause Mix I genuinely mix up every morning and I would thoroughly recommend for the 50+ every ingredient serves its purpose.

Greek 0% yogurt- calcium for healthy bones and teeth

Blueberries-

Collagen powder- I use marine collagen (by Vital Proteins))> Collagen is the most abundant protein in the body. Better bone health and skin.

Flax Oil- contains phytoestrogens which can help reduce hot flushes and keep the joints lubricated.

Chia Seeds- High in Omega 3 healthy fats and protein and can also reduce appetite by keeping you feeling full.

Ashwagandha Powder -this herb can control hormone fluctuations as it works on the endocrine system and can help with mod swings and metabolism.

Pineapple- add for sweetness as is also a hormone regulator . Rich in polyphenols and vitamin c and is a powerful anti oxidant and detoxifier.

Menopause Mix Add More Ingredients Depending On your Symptoms……cheers !

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: TO BLEND YOUR DAILY JUICES AND CLEANSES I USE THE NUTRI NINJA PROFESSIONAL, 900 WATTS DOES THE JOB PERFECTLY £49.99 SharkNinja

MWAH MWAH XXXX

JOJO X