Fashion Stylist and Sound Therapist . Help people to be their best self mentally and visually. Living in LA, London and Cannes living life to the max. Embracing my fifties encouraging others to do the same. This is your time to live a beautiful and stylish life
YOUR WEEKLY DOSE OF POSITIVITY TO UPLIFT YOUR SPIRITS IN AN UNCERTAIN WORLD. LETS EXPLORE TOGETHER FOR INSPIRATION THROUGH MANTRAS, TASKS AND THOUGHTS TO EXERCISE OUR MENTAL HEALTH AND LIFT US TO A BETTER PLACE.
IS YOUR BIGGEST ENEMY YOUR OWN MIND ?
YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS CAN BE YOUR BEST FRIEND OR YOUR WORST ENEMY. IT IS WISE TO BE AWARE OF YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS MIND AS MUCH AS YOUR CONSCIOUS MIND. YOUR LIFE EXPERIENCES HAVE PROGRAMMED YOUR SUBCONSCIOUSNESS AND MAKE YOU THINK AND BEHAVE IN A CERTAIN WAY. SELF AWARENESS IS HUGELY IMPORTANT AND HOPEFULLY BY FOLLOWING THE TASKS ON THE MIDWEEK MANTRA OVER THE YEARS WE HAVE BECOME INCREASINGLY AWARE OF SELF. THIS IS WHY MEDITATION AND SOUND HEALING IS FAST BECOMING A REGULAR PART OF SO MANY PEOPLE LIFES AS THEY DISCOVER THE INCREDIBLE BENEFITS OF DISCOVERING THE DEEPER PART OF OUR BRAINS.
YOU CAN TALK TO YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS THROUGH YOUR CONSCIOUS MIND.
ITS NOT WHAT OTHERS TELL YOU WHO YOU ARE ITS WHAT YOU TELL YOURSELF THAT REALLY MATTERS. SO PROGRAM YOURS TO BE JOYOUS AND POSITIVE.
NEGATIVITY IS THE ENEMY OF THE MIND. WE ALL KNOW PEOPLE THAT CAN ONLY SEE WHAT IS WRONG IN THEIR LIFE EVEN THOUGH THERE WILL BE POSITIVES TOO THEY PREFER TO DWELL ON ALL THAT IS NEGATIVE, DOING THIS WILL LEAD TO YOU MISSING WHAT IS WONDERFUL RIGHT HERE RIGHT NOW AND LEAD TO A MISERABLE EXISTENCE.
SO TODAY TEAM THERE ARE TWO TASKS TO CHALLENGE YOURSELF WITH:
TASK 1 – TELL YOURSELF WHO YOU ARE. WRITE DOWN 10 GREAT THINGS ABOUT YOU AS A PERSON. THIS NOT ONLY MAKES YOU SELF AWARE BUT MORE POSITIVE ABOUT YOURSELF TOO. HOW OFTEN, IF EVER HAVE YOU GIVEN ANY TIME TO GET TO KNOW YOURSELF AND REALLY THINK ABOUT WHO YOU REALLY ARE ?
TASK 2- OVER THE NEXT WEEK, UNTIL WE MEET AGAIN I WANT YOU TO CHALLENGE EVERY NEGATIVE THOUGHT AND ANY NEGATIVE VERBAL SPEAK WITH A POSITIVE ! THIS MAYBE DIFFICULT IF YOU HAVE PROGRAMMED YOUR MIND TO LOOK AT THE NEGATIVE IN EVERY SITUATION , BUT THERE WILL BE A POSITIVE TO EACH SITUATION AND I WANT YOU TO FIND IT. START RETRAINING THAT CONSCIOUS MIND AND YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS WILL TAKE IT ON BOARD.
I LOOK FORWARD TO MEETING UP WITH MORE HAPPY CONTENTED PEOPLE NEXT WEEK !
MWAH MWAH XXX
JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: ITS ALWAYS BETTER TO HAVE FRIENDS RATHER THAN ENEMIES. SO MAKE FRIENDS WITH YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS TODAY. LOVE IT, NURTURE IT AND SHOWER IT WITH GIFTS OF BEAUTIFUL THOUGHTS.
Herbs add flavour and enhance the blandest of meals but how many of you are aware that they have contain health and medicinal properties that can contribute a great deal to your daily wellness levels. Dried or fresh ! They are easy to add to EVERY meal whether in smoothies, salads, soups or sprinkled onto raw or cooked meals.
It is time to develop your own medicine cabinet in your own back yard with a highly nutritional herb garden to alleviate a wide range of symptoms.
So here are five herbs (out of a list of hundreds) but use this list as a basis to start or even start growing some in the garden. These ones I have selected are particularly easy to incorporate into your daily meals.
This herb is familiar to nearly everyone but actually has MORE flavour dried than fresh. So a great store cupboard essentials. Very easy to grow in a pot in your garden.
Antibacterial defending the body against bacteria in the gut and the skin. A high content of manganese, calcium, vitamin k and fibre therefore an ideal herb to detoxify the body by assisting the liver function. Also excellent for bone health very useful in later life for protection against osteoporosis. A natural form of Omega 3 fatty acids can rebalance cholesterol and help prevent heart attacks and strokes.
Great with pasta particularly good with tomato based sauces in its dried form. Or incorporate into homemade burgers including vegan ones.
This ancient herb I take in the form of a powder EVERY morning in my smoothie. It has very powerful properties and is an important herb in Ayurvedic medIcine.
There have been many studies that have proven that this herb substantially reduces anxiety and depression and is great for menopause symptoms. reduces cortisol levels if over stressed. Also reduces inflammation. I credit Ashwaganda to significantly alleviating my arthritis. Many studies also link this powerful herb with reducing cancerous tumours when taken regularly. Although I cannot personally lay claim to this it is worth adding this to your diet to see if it is of benefit to you.
I buy this in powder form and add to my smoothies and green juice every single day. Or add it to your soups.
This is so easy to grow even I can grow it . Right now I have an abundance of mint in my garden for my daily use.
The benefits of mint are widely documented. It is uplifting and a fantastic aid to digestion and bloating. Can really help with IBS symptoms. Relieve congestion from colds and bronchitis. Mental clarity and of course mask bad breath.
Great with boiling water as a mint tea. Fresh leaves incorporated into salads both savoury or fruit salads. Try to introduce after meals. This leaf is more potent fresh and unbruised as opposed to dried but easily picked fresh straight from your herb garden you are now cultivating !
Known as the sexy spice. Although considered a spice it actually is a seed from a herb the nutmeg tree that bears two fruit mace and nutmeg. Although a word of warning can be dangerous in large quantities as can be hallucinogenic and is actually banned in Saudi Arabia ! so we are just talking about a sprinkle here definitely no more than a teaspoonful. Great in a dried powder form and keeps for many months in the store cupboard.
A nerve relaxant therefore excellent for inducing sleep and relaxation. Raises sexual libido and improves memory. swap the nightly glass of wine out for a sprinkle of nutmeg.
Perfect with spinach as an accompaniment to your evening meal. In a glass of hot milk before bed . Commonly used in the Ayurvedic ‘golden milk’. Sprinkle on coffee. Would tend to use this later in the day because of its relaxant properties.
Native to the mediterranean light scented and fresh taste makes it very versatile and pretty much can be added to most dishes for maximum benefit raw or cooked. Also it is easy to grow in your own backyard. I have included it on this list for its ease of use and availability and its impressive nutritional value.
Great source of vitamin A and C therefore making it high in anti oxidants so good for the blood and the skin. Helps protect the eyes and help prevent age related macular degeneration . Reduces water retention and neutralises bad breath.
Add to almost any food dried or fresh, raw or cooked. Add to green juice if suffering from puffiness or water retention or simmer with water then strain to make a tea. Or just chew on a fresh sprig for fresh breath and to neutralise odours such as garlic. This wonderful herb is often not given credit for its amazing nutritional value and is often overlook as just a piece of green garnish so do not push it to one side consume it.
WARNING: DUE TO THE HIGH POTENCY OF HERBS AND THEIR GENUINE EFFECTIVENESS DO NOT CONSUME IN LARGE QUANTITIES. LITTLE AND OFTEN IS THE KEY FOR MAXIMUM HEALTH BENEFITS.
MWAH MWAH XXXXXX
JOJOS STYLIST TIP: THERE ARE MANY MORE HERBS AND SPICES WITH INCREDIBLE HEALTH BENEFITS YOU HAVE TO SELECT WHAT YOUR BODY NEEDS RIGHT NOW. INSTEAD OF REACHING FOR THE MEDICINAL CABINET IN YOUR BATHROOM WHY NOT TRY THE ONE IN YOUR GARDEN AND SEE IF IT MAKES A DIFFERENCE !
YOUR WEEKLY DOSE OF POSITIVITY, INSPIRATION AND TASKS TO GET YOU BACK ON THE RIGHT TRACK AND UPLIFT YOU TO A BETTER PLACE FOR THE REST OF THE WEEK. JOIN US FOR YOUR WEEKLY INJECTION OF THE HAPPINESS VACCINE !!
SEEDS AND WEEDS
AS WE APPROACH THE END OF LOCKDOWN AND THE DAWNING OF A NEW ERA IT IS TIME TO SHAKE UP OUR OWN IMMEDIATE ENVIRONMENT. TO ADOPT A FRESH APPROACH TO OUR OWN MENTAL HEALTH.
WE NEED TO PLANT MORE SEEDS IN OUR LIFE. SEEDS GERMINATE HOPE, FLOURISH , SUPPORT US AND PRODUCE GROWTH. WEEDS, ON THE OTHER HAND ARE THINGS/PEOPLE PRESENT IN OUR OWN LIFE THAT HOLD US BACK, SLOWLY STRANGLE US AND INHIBIT US MOVING ONWARDS AND UPWARDS. WEEDS CAN CAUSE US TO GET BOGGED DOWN AND BLOCK OUT THE LIGHT. WE CAN ALL IDENTIFY THE WEEDS THAT EXIST IN OUR OWN LIVES WE ALL HAVE THEM. WEEDS CAN BE TANGIBLE, PEOPLE OR JUST THOUGHTS THAT EXIST WITHIN OUR OWN MINDS.
THE TASK TODAY IS TO FIND A QUIET PLACE TO SIT DOWN WITH A PEN AND PAPER DIVIDED INTO TWO COLUMNS ‘WEEDS’ AND ‘SEEDS’. LIST IN YOUR LIFE THE PEOPLE AND SITUATIONS THAT ARE CAUSING NEGATIVITY IN YOUR LIFE UNDER ‘WEEDS’ AND THE GOOD THINGS THAT ARE IN YOUR LIFE THAT BRING JOY UNDER ‘SEEDS’. WE NEED TO ADDRESS THE WEED LIST AND JUST BY IDENTIFYING THEM MAY BE THE FIRST TIME YOU ACKNOWLEDGE THAT THEY EXIST. CONCENTRATING ON THE SEED LIST CAN ENABLE GRATITUDE AND ALLOW YOU TO BUILD ON THE LIST YOU IDENTIFIED AS BEING PRODUCTIVE IN YOUR LIFE.
NOW, START TO SOW A NEW LIST TO ADD MORE SEEDS TO BE PLANTED READY TO FLOURISH. EACH MORNING ADD ONE THING TO YOUR LIST TO BRING JOY TO YOUR LIFE AND PUT IT INTO PRACTICE. THIS CAN BE A SMALL FAST FLOURISHING GROWTH OR A WHOLE FIELD THAT NEEDS CULTIVATING LONGER TERM. EG. SHORT TERM COULD BE TO PRACTICE MEDITATION AT A REGULAR TIME EACH DAY. SO TODAY I AM GOING TO DISCOVER ON LINE A DEEPAK CHOPRA MEDITATION COURSE TO FOLLOW. A MORE LONGER TERM PROPOSITION COULD BE TO RETRAIN FOR A CAREER THAT BRINGS JOY AND LIGHT INTO YOUR LIFE.
HAPPY SEED SOWING TEAM AND DON,T FORGET GET WEEDING !
MWAH MWAH. XXXXXX
JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: IT IS VERY USEFUL TO THINK IN TERMS OF BRINGING MORE LIGHT INTO YOUR LIFE BY CLEARING THE PATHWAY AND WITH A LITTLE BIT OF PHOTOSYNTHESIS CAN TRULY NOURISH THE MIND.I REALLY HOPE YOU FIND PLEASURE IN THIS PRACTICE ON A DAILY BASIS. START TO THINK DIFFERENTLY TODAY.
In my advancing years I have used and experimented with many products, have been lucky to work in the beauty business and offered many to try.
Do not always believe what you read in magazines as many beauty editors are forced to gush over beauty products in return for paid advertising space in the magazine. So I am going to espouse my favourite beauty products that I would like to share with you so you don’t have to waste tons of money (which we ALL do) every year on products that just do not work. These products have stood the test of time and in my mind are the best of the best. Try for yourself.
HERO SELF TAN PRODUCT
Nothing beats CLARINS SELF TANNING MILK . Always gives great coverage with no streaking or patches. which is down to the creamy moisturising formula. Beautiful colour unlike many of these modern ‘muddy’ tanning products. A beautiful natural golden glow. Equally good on the face too. No bad give away odour. I have tried many self tan products around the globe but nothing comes close.
HERO FOAM BATH
L’OCCITANE LEMON VERBENA FOAMING BATH. The suds last forever and are super moisterising. The scent stay throughout the bath time, and I spend a LONG time in the tub, beautiful grassy, citrus scents of lemon trees in Provence. I decant this into smaller bottles for when i am travelling and use it in the shower aswell as the bath.
I am a massive fan of ANTONIA BURRELL products . All completely plant based and paraben and preservative free , hence all packaged in black opaque bottles to keep the light out. The NATURAL GLOW CLEANSING OIL is the worlds first 100% pure plant 100% natural water soluble cleansing oil. The botanical oils makes it a truly holistic experience as you massage it into your face and rinse off with water. leaving you feeling radiant on the outside and radiant within. I must confess I sometimes just massage the oil in at night and leave it on for an overnight treatment. A little secret…..massage into the lashes it makes them grow more than any lash grow product i have ever used. Antoniaburrell.com
I discovered TEOXANE after receiving some products in a goodie bag 2 years ago . A swiss pharmaceutical brand that was developed in 2003 but not widely known as yet in the UK. Don’t miss out ladies of a certain age ADVANCED FILLER Moisturizer makes a real difference to your skin in an amazingly short time.
HERO SKIN TREATMENT
MEDIK 8 RETINOL 6TR INTENSE use this before bed 3 or 4 times a week to win the battle over fine lines. I personally love this Company. they have a full list of different strengths so if you have not used retinol before start with a lower strength and slowly work up to a stronger solution to suit your skin. If you are reading this I assume you are one of my over fifties followers so you should all be using a retinol !!! Except of course if you are exposing yourself to a lot of sunshine – so not on holiday.
HERO HAIR PRODUCT
BLEACH LONDON RESTORATION MASK has had many mentions on this blog. It is by far and the best hair product that genuinely does what it says on the box. My hair looks like it has been freshly coloured whenever I use it. So has been a Godsend in lockdown. Truly a miracle product. Usually it is hair products that I am most disappointed in for failing to live up to the hype but this one delivers every time.
In my lifetime I have tried literally 100s of mascaras but I defy anyone to find a better mascara than ESTEE LAUDERS SUMPTUOUS EXTREME MASCARA it is both volumising and lengthening and judging by girlfriends asking if I have false eyelashes on, this works !
For me personally TOM FORD WHITE SUEDE suits my body chemistry perfectly. But what I love about this perfume is how long it lasts and in such a subtle way. People actually stop me in the streets to enquire what I am wearing and writing it down……so it MUST be good. Also I love the minimalist classic packaging looks great in the bathroom.
HERO BEAUTY PRODUCTS
Well these two are definitely my heros they really work and are each under £5 !!!!!!!! But no beauty editor will tell you about these and EVERY girl needs them both in her make up bag and hey get a couple and keep them in your car and handbag too !!! Are you ready ??? Big build up>>>>> BARRY M DEWY SETTING SPRAY £4.99 spray over make up to set and to add a beautiful dewy healthy sheen to skin. There are more expensive pretenders to the throne as the dewy look is big business but dont go there this is the cheapest AND the best. Makes perfect sense ladies. My second hero beauty product is VASELINE ROSY LIPS and perfect for cheek gleam too. Pop in your pocket to moisterize and glamourise lips and cheeks with just a dab of the finger. Your look is instantly refreshed and can take 10 years off your age.
JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: THE PRODUCT RECOMMENDATIONS ARE ALL TRIED AND TESTED AND MY OWN PERSONAL OPINION AND NOT SPONSORED OR INFLUENCED IN ANY WAY. SO TRY THEM WITH CONFIDENCE ….THEY WORK !!
YOUR WEEKLY VISIT TO THE MENTAL HEALTH CLUB WHERE WE WORK TOGETHER TO LIFT YOUR SPIRITS WITH WORDS, TASKS AND A HEAVY DOSE OF POSITIVITY.
THE WEAPON OF LOVE
LETS FACE T WE ALL HAVE ENEMIES WHETHER THEY ARE KNOWN TO US OR INVISIBLE THERE WILL ALWAYS BE OTHER PEOPLE THAT MAY NOT LIKE US OR APPROVE OF WHAT WE DO OR ARE JUST HATEFUL BECAUSE THEY ARE IN A BAD PLACE OR WE HAVE MORE THAN THEY DO. IT MAY BE JUST THAT YOU REMIND THEM OF WHAT THEY CANNOT BE OR CANNOT HAVE. THE IMPORTANT THING IS TO KNOW THAT THIS IS MORE ABOUT THEIR OWN FEELING, THEIR OWN PAIN.
SO WHETHER THESE HATEFUL WEAPONS COME AT YOU FACE TO FACE OR THE INVISIBILITY OF SOCIAL MEDIA THEN IT IS TIME TO FIGHT BACK……….WITH LOVE! LOVE IS A WEAPON OF LIGHT AND CAN BANISH THE DARKNESS OF HATE. SO OFFER LOVE AND KINDNESS THE NEXT TIME YOU ARE CONFRONTED BY A BULLY AND WATCH THE DARKNESS DISAPPEAR. IT WILL TAKE CONSIDERABLE STRENGTH NOT TO FIGHT BACK WITH ANIMOSITY AND BITTERNESS BUT I KNOW HOW FAR YOU HAVE COME ON THIS JOURNEY AND I HAVE TRUST IN YOU TO TAKE THE RIGHT PATH AT THE NEXT CROSSROADS.
JUST TRY IT AND SEE. GUARANTEED RESULTS WHEN YOU PICK THE RIGHT WEAPON !
JOJOS STYLELIST TIP; THREE THINGS ARE SURE IN LIFE. DEATH, TAXES AND PEOPLE PREFER KINDNESS OVER NASTINESS !
In your fifties your body starts to deteriorate more rapidly. We all know what we are supposed to be doing to stay healthy and there are anti ageing articles and products all around us. Regular readers of this blog will be armed with many facts on how to slow the process down. But let me make it clear you cannot anti age and you cannot reverse the process. Those that try hard to look younger end up looking older. HOWEVER you CAN slow the process. I know you are intelligent lot and these days women are armed with great knowledge but are you actually putting that knowledge into practise ?? So let me put it into one age defying capsule for you today and look at the three areas where you can make changes TODAY. Food , exercise and mental activity………..
Eat well but limit the portion size. Portion sizes have increased over the years eat on smaller plates at home or share a main if eating out with friends or even order a starter portion. As you get older you need less food and your metabolism slows down. I personally eat one meal a day between 2-4 pm and at 56 i am still a healthy size 10. I have a green smoothie at midday loaded with goodness (find the recipe under the ‘Food’ section.
There is a growing consensus now that breakfast is a meal to be skipped to enable you to consume less calories, But also the longer you can wait to break your fast from the day before the better it is for your body and your joints to rest and rejuvenate them. Time restricted eating is the best thing you can do for your body as you get older even if you follow this pattern Monday to Friday then let loose on the weekends. Try to give your bodys’ digestive system a complete break when you can from 6PM to maybe midday the following day. This has been shown to bring inflammation down within the internal organs and the joints. Eating often throughout the day to stoke the metabolism has now been disproven as a method to lose weight and the must eat a big breakfast mantra began in the 1920s by breakfast food manufacturers.
Do not deny yourself foods that you love but in moderation. In your fifties healthy eating must become a way of life give up on the ‘diets’ and learn to make great meals containing fresh unprocessed ingredients. Simple uncomplicated meals can bring great pleasure to the senses. I particularly love the Hemsley sisters recipes. ITS ALL EASY by Gwyneth Paltrow and EAT, NOURISH,GLOW by Amelia Freer. Most of these meals can be put together in the time it takes to have a takeaway delivered. Once you start to eat clean you wont want to pollute your body with dirty food again. Excess SUGAR in your diet is one of the fastest ways to age your skin and your body try to avoid it where possible. But of course allow yourself a red wine or even a clean spirit like agave tequila !!! Drink more water as you get older your body needs to be constantly hydrated to work correctly and also skin looks more plumped at least 2 litres a day.
Have fun discovering wonderful food and clean up your diet in small steps to give your skin a healthy glow and fill your body with energy and reducing inflammation start today to slow the ageing process and prevent you from dealing with early on set illnesses due to proper nutrition.
Look out for more clean eating recipes on this site as it has been my obsession for many years. I hope it becomes yours.
I am a big fan of Yoga and pilates more gentle yet strengthening exercise regime that also provides mental clarity and anti stress benefits. While weight control is 80% of what we eat and less about exercise, but exercise certainly slows the ageing process down. I personally am not a fan of high octane exercise like running and aerobics as they can be impactive on older joints and the Japanese believe that you only have so many breaths in your body so to continually be overworking the heart cause a shorter life. But I AM an advocate of you doing what YOU love as long as you are moving. A beautiful walk every day can be wonderful for destressing , getting fit and slowing the ageing process. Or a competitive sport such as tennis, badminton, volleyball etc where you have to keep score and form strategy can be great for mental health as well as not feeling like exercise if you are enjoying the activity and the company.
A quick word about weight training . Buy yourself some hand weights and use them a few times a day, whilst your waiting for the kettle to boil it is important to strengthen your bones and muscles with weight bearing exercises to prevent /delay oesteoporosis .
The message here is just keep moving , every day to delay ageing but enjoy whatever it is you are doing. Lets keep that body oiled rather than rusty.
Also important to keep the mind oiled too. Regular followers can follow the Midweek Mantras on this site posted every Wednesday for tasks and inspirations to restore mental wellbeing or binge the blog history if in need of lots of Mentaal inspiration to kick start you out of a rut. Keep a Gratitude Journal to keep you positive. Three things every morning that you are grateful for , it is a way of training the neuron pathways in your brain. Buy a lovely notebook and a pen in a beautiful coloured ink. This works try it. Also it is important as we get older to continue learning, no guys this does not have to be a major programme you are undertaking like a Masters degree or a new language. How about Renaissance Art or French Wines ? Combine books with heading to Art Galleries or Wine Tastings. Make new friends with these common interests providing stimulating conversations. Sudoku, crosswords to exercise the mental agility side of your mind as well as the creative. Learning a musical instrument via the many apps available has been proven to keep a mind young , you are never to old to start learning.
Stress is the biggest ager both on the outside and the inside. So try to combat stress wherever necessary. But this is one thing that DOES improve with age the ability to cope with stress and view life differently , in a more relaxed manner. Yoga and Pilates as mentioned before really does help with this it is a workout for the mind as well as the body and also regulates deep breathing. Combatting stress is a lengthy subject and deserves an article all on its own and I am sure that by now you have this covered.
SO LET IT GO !
JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: TO ADD YEARS TO YOUR LIFE….PUT LIFE IN YOUR YEARS !!!
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SWITCH YOUR FOCUS
MANY PEOPLE THAT I SPEAK TO THAT ARE SUFFERING DEPRESSION, FEELING LOW OR COMPLAINING OF ILLNESSES ALL HAVE ONE THING IN COMMON. THEY ALL WITH NO EXCEPTION SEEM TO BE SOLELY FOCUSSED ON THEMSELVES. I REALISE THAT WITH DEPRESSION IT CAN BE VERY HARD TO THINK OUTSIDE OF THE SELF AND A MENTAL ILLNESS CAN BE ALL CONSUMING. IF YOU CAN IDENTIFY WITH THIS, ASK YOURSELF WHEN THE LAST TIME YOU GAVE A THOUGHT AND SHOWED SOME CARING TO THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU. THOSE THAT YOU KNOW AND THOSE THAT YOU ARE YET TO KNOW.
SWITCH YOUR FOCUS AND WORRY ABOUT OTHERS. MANY OF US THINK THAT IN ORDER TO OVERCOME CHALLENGES IN OUR LIFE WE NEED TO CONCENTRATE ON THEM. BUT USUALLY FROM A MENTAL PERSPECTIVE THE OPPOSITE IS TRUE. SO THIS WEEK I WANT YOU TO FOCUS ON SOMEONE ELSES CHALLENGES OR THEIR PAIN. LEAVE YOUR OWN WORRIES BEHIND.
THIS MIND SWITCH IS QUITE POWERFUL AND YOU WILL FIND IT REWARDING AND YOUR SPIRITS WILL BE LIFTED. YOU MAY FIND YOUR OWN PROBLEMS HAVE TAKEN CARE OF THEMSELVES WHILE YOU HAVE BEEN AWAY.
JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: SOMETIMES JUST BY REMOVING THE MAGNIFYING GLASS PROBLEMS CAN APPEAR TO SHRINK.
With mental health problems continuing to soar in these anxious times and access to NHS services severely restricted it is not time to give up ! Do not disappear further down a deep dark hole if you feel there is no outside help, it is time to help yourself. Let us do this together.
Here are some helpful points to give yourself a therapy session. After all no one knows you better than you know yourself The worst thing you can do is nothing at all while you are on the waiting list for professional help and who knows by time you have practised this list you may decide you no longer need professional therapy.
The following methods have helped many of my clients with their mental health who have sought my help in my capacity of a professional Sound Healing Therapist and have certainly helped myself too. It is very important to examine your own mental health regularly as you would examine say your breasts for lumps.
So here are the 5 rules:
What do you need when you find yourself in a difficult period ? Most people at this time will NOT feel like going out to clubs and socialising but you may feel like walking your dog in the countryside or curling up on the sofa with a great movie. So identify what YOU need to feel better and allow yourself the time to do WHATEVER COMFORTS YOU .
Define the situation. Write it down. relationships, money, friends or general lethargy. Be brutally honest with yourself . Are you part of the problem? Self examination is a great tool. But if you are really finding this difficult or this does not fit with your personality type then enlist the help of a friend to talk it through with, but ask them to be honest and open too. The method of self examination works for many but it depends on the type of person you are.
There is a danger of thinking none of this is your fault otherwise then you cannot effect change.
Analyse the situation. How it happened ? Why it happened ? When did you start feeling this way ? What prompted this feeling? Again write it down.
How can you make this better ? What do YOU want ? Step outside of yourself and look in as an outsider. De personalise for a moment.
What would you tell your Son/Daughter/best friend if they were in the same situation ?
Visualise how you would like to feel. Dream how you would like to be. Write down your goals to achieving this.
TALK. To someone. Anyone. This does not have to be a trained therapist. Do not bottle things up. Sometimes just releasing pent up feelings can see a marked improvement in mood.
It is time to take control before it gets out of control.
JOJOS STYLELIST TIP:If it is a situation that is causing poor mental health just remember what looks bleak one day to remember there are good times ahead you just never know what is around the corner . Anticipate the good times. Think of a relationship break up you think your world has ended and you will never meet someone like them but the next one is ALWAYS better than the last one. How many of us can relate to that ??
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DISCOVER THE TRUTH
THE HARDEST THING IS TO CONFRONT UNCOMFORTABLE TRUTHS ABOUT OURSELVES SO OUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY SOMETIMES ONLY TELL US WHAT WE WANT TO HEAR. SIMULTANEOUSLY WE OURSELVES MAY HAVE TROUBLE SAYING THE TRUTH TO OUR NEAREST AND DEAREST FOR FEAR OF HURTING THEM OR EVEN OURSELVES . THE TRUTH MAY EAN OPENING UP AND REVEALING A PART OF YOURSELF THAT YOU HAVE KEPT HIDDEN.
WHEN YOU NEED TO TELL THE TRUTH, HAVE THE COURAGE TO OPEN YOUR HEART AS WELL AS YOUR MOUTH.
WHEN YOU NEED TO HEAR THE TRUTH, HAVE THE HUMILITY TO OPEN YOUR EARS AND CLOSE YOUR MOUTH.
MWAH MWAH XXXXXX
JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: IT IS MUCH EASIER TO TELL A TRUTH THAN TO CONCEAL A TRUTH.
Now I realise many people are in denial about climate change but no one can deny that we are ruining our planet with at best poor housekeeping and at worst dirty filthy habits. There also can be NO denial that we can nurture our planet by all just making a few subtle changes to our lifestyle.
I decided to write about this following a dinner party discussion which involved us listing how green we were. Now I have never really thought about myself as being a green activist but I was surprised how “green” I actually live. I know I could do more but what I do , I do on a consistent basis, without too much trouble or hardship. So I will list the things that I came up with over the dinner table, which I am sure most of you already do, but if you don’t try to make some small adjustments to help clean our beautiful planet up. If I can do it, I am pretty sure you can. The planet is a thing of beauty to be handled with care and passed onto the many generations to whom we pass the baton.
Always shower and only for 30 seconds unless i am washing my hair, rarely bath.
I generate only half a small bag of waste each week.
Turn tap off while cleaning my teeth
I do not class myself as a vegetarian but I only meat about once every two months
Do not buy fast disposable fashion. I shop for clothes twice a year not twice a week ( or as some people do twice a day !!!)
No longer buy bottled water I bought a Brita filter jug but I use the filter three times longer than recommended. I have a reusable bottle for life for water on the go.
Energy efficient . I only have lights on in the room that is being occupied.
Installed solar panels on my roof to lower my energy bills.
Make my own cleaning products from white wine vinegar/lemon juice and soda crystals to cut down my chemical waste.
Now take trains for long journeys (this is new to me !!) but they are much better than I recall.
I have hessian lifetime shopping bags.
Buy loose fruit and vegetables and don’t even use the plastic bags on the rack they go onto the conveyer belt singularly !!
Oh… and I only have one child. Now I would never, unlike Meghan and Harry tell you how many children to have. Even though they now have gone against their own advice. Do as they say not as they do has become their mantra ! But just saying. This is only about me.
I certainly do not want to become a green preacher but these are all simple things to inject into your everyday life without too much planning. Think, if we all did these basic things what a massive difference we could make collectively.
JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: ADD MORE GREEN INTO YOUR DAY ON TOP OF MY FAMOUS GREEN JUICE WHICH I HOPE YOU ARE ALL HAVING EACH MORNING. FORGET ORANGE – GREEN IS THE NEW BLACK !!!!