HOW TO LOVE LIVING ALONE.

There maybe many reasons why at 50+ you find yourself living alone. If it was not your choice it can be daunting and you can feel lonely. Being alone and being lonely are two very different things.

Data from the Office for National Statistics show that the divorce rate is increasing for the over 50s to an all time high. Or the death of a beloved partner can have a devastating affect on you . Or it maybe you never met a partner you would want to live with.

After a stressful divorce, lets face it , its ALWAYS stressful , over 20 years ago I made a conscious decision to remain independant and in control of my life and keep the sanctity of my home, alone. I have stuck to that decision and never once regretted this. I would not have had such an amazing adventurous life full of interesting people yet keeping my home as a peaceful sanctuary. As a single mother I of course had my Son to devote my undivided attention to in the home. Of course I did date and enjoy the company of men I just never saw the need to live with one. There was more to lose than to gain. Certainly more washing , cooking and ironing !! Lol ! Now my Son is a beautiful young man and is no longer at home I still relish being able to experience peace and freedom WHEN I CHOOSE. One of the most elusive achievements in busy lives today is to be able to find peace and harmony and live a healthy rewarding life. This is always possible when you live alone. Living alone also makes you a stronger person, it begins and ends with you. Decision making, emotional stability a wider social circle , financial responsibility can all grow your confidence. You are not a half you are a whole …..the driver of your own destiny.

I realise there are many couples who have an enjoyable fulfilling life. It is whatever works for you as an individual but if for any reason you are reading this and you suddenly find yourself alone later in life, embrace it. My social circle largely consist of both men and women choose to live alone and like me they are honestly the happiest people I know. Gone is the myth of the sad singleton. Most people later in life who have tried living alone for a few years find that they too admit they would find it hard to live with someone again. So, if you find yourself sitting at home reading this as your newly single let’s cheer you up with some light hearted reasons to LOVE LIVING ALONE !

  • In charge of all your finances no need to hide those new Manolos
  • The TV remote is ALL yours
  • Sleep well. No snoring, fidgeting, stealing the bed linen.
  • No pressure to perform….or sulking if you don’t !!!
  • Less time spent queueing up for a weekly shop in supermarkets
  • Less time wasted on chores
  • Great girls nights out without worrying about waking someone up when you get in.
  • Accept whatever exciting invitations come your way
  • You don’t have to share the tub of Haagen Dazs.
  • Studies have shown single people are fitter and happier.
  • Less lonely in your old age as you have been used to living alone and have developed a social circle.
  • Pamper nights in without feeling guilty
  • No compromises
  • You get the last rolo !!

I could list a hundred other reasons !!!!

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: LIVING ALONE IS NOT FOR EVERYONE BUT IF YOU FIND YOURSELF SINGLE IN YOUR FIFTIES THERE ARE LOADS OF POSITIVES I PROMISE YOU . YOU WILL LOVE IT. LIVE BY YOUR OWN RULES. CREATE YOUR OWN BLUEPRINT.

JOJO XXXXXXX

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MIDWEEK MANTRA

Positive and inspirational lessons for a healthy, happy you !

PEOPLE WATCHING

Grab a coffee and sit in a pavement cafe and just watch people walking by and going about life. Everyone has their own stories . Construct their stories in your own head. Their fears, their insecurities, financial difficulties, their strengths, what makes them laugh, when they last cried. are they happy with themselves, with life. Their battles and their victories. Backgrounds and professions.

This can really change the way you look at others and understand we are all pretty much the same and we all want the same things from lives and face similar challenges.

I feel this weeks lesson is very important in the current political climate when we all seem so angry with people that we do not know and we all actually want the same outcome.

Lets be more forgiving .

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: Kindness and a smile is normally reciprocated.

JOJO xxxxxx

DOGGY STYLE

If you are one of my followers I already know you are interested in ALL things style not just your own but your homes, your cars, your friends , your partners and this extends to your …….dogs ! As a nation of pampered pooches we now love our dogs to complement us and look equally stylish. So lets have a closer look at whats hot right now in doggy style ……..

Its been a long time since I owned a dog after the death of my beloved labrador. But all my friends and family own dogs and I was surprised on how things have changed in the doggy world. They have become style icons with their fashion, adopting a healthy lifestyle with their nutrition and taking care of their bodies with the latest beauty treatments. Yes dogs have become the new supermodels !!

The new regime for dogs in todays world has come a long way in the last 10 years that I decided to write an article on the new doggy world of style. If you are a dog owner and not down with the programme why not ? Lets look at some current trends.

Model Loki

FASHION AND STYLE

I realise many owners have complete wardrobes for their dogs and the jury is out on whether dogs enjoy dressing up or not. Some dogs really seem to love it only you know your dog. But some dogs genuinely feel the cold and I think it is wise for dogs that have no undercoat and short hair. There really are some quite dapper coats and sweaters for dogs now. Equafleece produce warm, water repellant and breathable sweaters and coats for dogs. Other good websites are baxterboo.com poshpuppyboutique.com and pawscouture.co.uk. These are for outerwear only and it is important not to let your dog get overheated so remove clothing once inside the house (the dogs , not yours !)

Getting the coat to fit correctly is important especially if you are ordering on line. LENGTH – measure from the base of the collar to the base of the tail. GIRTH – measure the widest part of the chest just behind the front legs. NECK – where the collar would normally sit.

NUTRITION

The health food market for dogs has exploded within the last 5 years. Lilyskitchen.co.uk is a cult site for healthy kitchen food for dogs. Proper meat and all the recipes are veterinary approved. Even the packaging is eco friendly. Dental care is important and many owners forget to brush their dogs teeth regularly. Woofbrush from Lilys Kitchen provides excellent dental care. A chew stick containing fennel,coconut oil,parsley,kale and decaf green tea – I might try one myself. They actually smell really good and are all the ingredients I have in a green juice in the morning. Coconut oil can be especially bought for dogs and if you read my article recently on the many uses of coconut oil, here is a few more. It is great for bad canine breath as it contains Lauric acid , it is also good for their digestive and immune systems. There are so many benefits from using this amazing oil that you must be careful to start small just a teaspoon. Also too much oil can raise cholesterol levels. Slippery Elm is a natural herb in a capsule, powder and syrup is also good for your pets digestive tract and totally natural. All my friends seem to be giving their pets probiotics for overall health this is new to me ! I guess whats healthy for humans has migrated into the pet market and they gain the same benefits there are many on the market to choose from. But probiotic plain greek yogurt works too, not flavoured, as sugar is not good for them. But a powder sprinkled over their food is probably easiest. Not all things that are good for humans are good for dogs just one grape can kill your beloved pet and cherries are equally toxic. Raisins can cause kidney damage and citrus fruits can cause bad stomach upsets.

Natural Chew Stick

GROOMING

Oh here I go again with my favourite product coconut oil !! Another use ! For sleek and glossy coats brush through,

great for dog odours too. Apply topically to eczema or wounds as coconut oil has great healing properties.. it is important to brush your dog daily to detangle hair and minimise shedding as it thins the undercoat. Cleaning their ears eyes and teeth. Clipping their nails on a regular basis is important especially if you are not walking them on a hard surface regularly. But only trim a little at a time. Treat your dog after this so they get to enjoy their regular manicure.

Okay so now your pooches are well and truly pampered and I am sure they will repay you tenfold with their love and loyalty.

JOJOs STYLELIST TIP: Never do anything that causes your pet distress, remember if you are enjoying all these new trends in doggycare its important your pet is too. Your best friends after all.

JOJO xxxxxxxx

MIDWEEK MANTRA

Inspiration and lessons to ground you and remind you what really matters in life. For a happy healthy you .

CLOUD GAZING

Today I want you just to stop and take time out of your day . To gaze up at the sky. Even better if you can go and lie in a field and watch the sky for some time but even 5 minutes finding a quiet space will do . You can even do this in a busy city centre but a large crowd may gather and wonder what you are looking at. Wouldn’t it be great to involve everyone in your exercise.

Clouds can be mesmerising and fascinating to study. The different formations, shapes and familiar patterns. The movement of the clouds are they moving fast or slowly. The contrasting of white clouds on a blue background or the dramatic dark rain clouds approaching. Think of yourself on a small plant with the large expanse of the sky surrounding us.

Today take time out to just contemplate the sky let yourself get lost in it. This is a form of meditation.

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: DO I NEED TO SAY ….DONT DO THIS WHILE DRIVING !!!!!

JOJO xxxxxxxxx

EYEBROW MASTERCLASS


EYEBROWS ARE HAVING A MOMENT IT IS ALL ABOUT THE BROW !AS A MAKE UP ARTIST MOST QUESTIONS I GET ASKED ARE BROW RELATED. AS YOU GET OLDER EYEBROWS START TO DISAPPEAR NOT JUST THE SHADE AS THE COLOUR FADES BUT ALSO THE SHAPE AND DEFINITION. PAST TRENDS HAVE CAUSED US TO OVER PLUCK AND HORMONES CAUSE BROWS TO FALL OUT AND NEVER GROW BACK. CERTAINLY MY OWN BROWS HAVE GOT SHORTER AND FINISH MIDWAY SO MY BROWS NEED ATTENTION AS PART OF MY DAILY ROUTINE.

THE IMPORTANCE OF BROWS CANNOT BE UNDERPLAYED THEY FRAME YOUR FACE MAKE YOUR EYES LOOK CLEARER AND THE LENGTHEN OF BROWS CAN MAKE YOUR EYES LOOK WIDER.

THE TREND RIGHT NOW IS FOR LOW ARCH , THICK CLEARLY DEFINED DARKER BROWS. SO TODAY WE ARE GOING TO SHOW YOU HOW TO ACHIEVE THIS IN OUR MASTERCLASS.

TOOLS

Tools

FIRST LETS GATHER ALL OUR TOOLS

  • EYEBROW STENCILS (EYELURE £4.95)
  • TWEEZERS (I LOVE TWEEZERMAN FROM £19.95)
  • MAGNIFYING MIRROR
  • PENCIL SHARPENER
  • BROW BRUSH AND COMB
  • SMALL ANGLED WEDGED BRUSH
  • EYE PENCIL (I USE CHANEL LE CRAYON SOURCILS 40 £23)WHICH HAS A SPOOLIE ON THE END
  • POMADE (ANASTASIA BEVERLY HILLS £19)
  • GEL (LEGENDARY BROWS TILBURY £18.50)
  • HIGHLIGHTER PENCIL

COLOUR

IN THE PAST THE ADVICE WAS ALWAYS TO MATCH YOUR HAIR COLOUR BUT THE CURRENT TREND IS TO GO A SHADE DARKER . EXCEPTION IS IF YOU HAVE BLACK HAIR YOUR BROWS SHOULD BE A SHADE LIGHTER. BEWARE IF YOU HAVE BLONDE HAIR AS BROWN TEND TO LOOK REDDISH ON FAIR BROWS SO I WOULD TEND TO GO FOR A DARKER GREYISH TONE.

SHAPE

TAKE THE EYEBROW PENCIL AND HOLD IT PERPENDICULAR AT THE WIDEST PART OF YOUR NOSE THIS WILL INDICATE WHERE YOUR BROWS SHOULD START SO MARK A POINT WITH THE PENCIL. KEEPING THE BASE OF THE PENCIL WHERE IT IS SWING IT TO THE CENTRE OF YOUR IRIS THIS WILL INDICATE WHERE THE ARCH SHOULD BE. MARK WITH ANOTHER DOT. SWING THE PENCIL TO THE OUTSIDE OF THE EYE THIS IS WHERE THE BROW SHOULD END. MARK THIS POINT. TRICK: IF YOU EXTEND YOUR BROW A LIITLE LONGER PAST THIS POINT CAN REALLY WIDEN SMALL EYES.

NOW CHOOSE THE STENCIL SHAPE YOU PREFER . I CHOOSE SLIM ARCH AS IT IS CLOSEST TO MY OWN BROW. STARTING WITH THE FIRST DOT. HOLD TH STENCIL STILL AS YOU COLOUR IN THE BASE COLOUR WITH THE PENCIL. ENSURING YOUR PENCIL IS SHARPENED TO GIVE LIGHT FEATHERY STROKES. ADJUST OR EXTEND THE LENGTH TO THE FINAL DOT.

Stencilling

TIDY

US THE BROW BRUSH TO BLEND THEN BRUSH BROWS UPWARDS. FOR COMPLETELY DEFINED BROWS YOU MAY NEED TO TRIM ANY LOOSE HAIRS OUSIDE OF YOUR NEW SHAPE. TWEEZE BELOW THE BROW OUTSIDE OF THE SHAPE. IT IS OPTIONAL IF YOU FEEL YOU NEED TO PLUCK ABOVE THE SHAPE IF YOU HAVE HAD THEM THREADED PREVIOUSLY YOU WILL PROBABLY NEED TO DO THIS. IT DOES GIVE A CLEAN LINE. USE YOUR MAGNIFYING MIRROR TO ENSURE YOU HAVE ALL THE STRAY HAIRS.

FILL

NOW TAKE THE POMADE WHICH IS A WAXY COLOUR AND YOUR SMALL ANGLED BRUSH. USING SMALL UPWARD STROKES COLOUR IN OVER THE PENCIL TO GIVE A PRECISE LONGER LASTING FINISH. USE THE SPOOLIE IF YOU GO OUTSIDE OF THE LINE TO CORRECT MISTAKES.

FINISH

USE A SETTING GEL TO FINISH AND SET THE EYEBROWS OR EVEN A SMALL AMOUT OF HAIRSPRAY ON THE BROW COMB AND COMBED THROUGH. THIS WILL ENSURE BEAUTIFUL BROWS ALL DAY !!!

TRICK: I LIKE TO DRAW A SMALL HIGHLIGHTER PENCIL AROUND THE BROW TO GIVE THEM A NICE EDGE. IF ANY OF YOU INVESTED IN THE NYX WONDER PENCIL MENTIONED IN MY PREVIOUS BLOG THIS CLEAR LIP PENCIL IS PERFECT FOR THIS.

SPARSE BROWS

THERE ARE MANY PRODUCTS AVAILABLE TO FILL IN BROWS CONTAINING FIBRES TO BUILD ON THE HAIRS ALREADY THERE. WUNDERBROW FIBRE FILLER £19.95 IS VERY GOOD.

TATOO BROW BY MAYBELLINE £7.65 IS A PEEL OFF GEL TINT THAT LASTS FOR 3 DAYS AVAILABLE IN DARK BLONDE, MEDIUM BROWN AND DARK BROWN.

FOR A MORE PERMANENT FINISH MICROBLADING IS THE BEST OPTION IT LAST BETWEEN 1-3 YEARS. A TATOOING TECHNNIQUE WHERE SEMI PERMANENT COLOUR IS TATOOED USING HAIR LIKE .STROKES. FROM £200 UPWARDS.

SO GIRLS (AND BOYS!) NO EXCUSES FOR IMPERFECT BROWS ……GET PRACTISING.

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: REMEMBER EYEBROWS ARE SISTERS NOT TWINS THEY ARE UNLIKELY TO BE IDENTICAL

JOJO XXXXXXXXX

HAND LUGGAGE TOILETRIES EDIT: A RETHINK


IF like me, you regularly travel with just hand luggage you will know how difficult it is to fit all of your toiletries and cosmetics into one 20 x 20 plastic bag. Today I am going to show you a foolproof way to take everything you need for a quick getaway with minimum of fuss and no confiscations at passport control. There are many new products on the market that do not need to go into the plastic bag ! The secret is to choose one of the new influx of solid and balm products that were once liquid or gel. Moisterizers are available in solid balms as are perfumes. Foundations can be compact formulas as can blushers and lipcolours. Then there are old favourites our sticks and pencils. This can be done girls, with forward thinking and planning there will be no need to skimp on beauty. Although I must point out that they have been tried and tested at Heathrow and Gatwick Airports only and smaller provincial airports could be inconsistent.

Firstly start with a soft vanity bag in a beautiful sunny colour. Mine is by Inthefrow.com (thanks Victoria ). I love this bag as it opens like a lid to reveal all my products at a glance perfect for on board touch ups. It does come filled with products for £67.

All My Travel Essentials

In this bag I pack

  • Small mirror
  • Eyemask
  • Hair toggles
  • Ear plugs
  • Toothbrush
  • Moisterizer as a balm . Mine is Lumene Nutri recharging balm £31.90
  • Razor
  • Stick deodrant. Only aerosols and roll ons need to go in the plastic bag.
  • Solid scent Jo Malone Lime Basil and mandarin £14

Cosmetics

  • Compact Foundation YSL All Hour/Estee Lauder Doublewear £36
  • Nars Multiple Stick £30 (cheeks lips,eyes)
  • Cheek Illuminator Stick Tanya Burr £4
  • Bobbi Brown Pot Rouge in rose for healthy glow dab on cheeks and lips as you land ! £22.50
  • Chanel eyebrow/liner pencil £21
  • Tom Ford Nude lip coulour shine (sultry)£40
  • Bobbi brown Lip balm (SPF 15) Clear £17.50 perfect for in flight and on the beach

All the above will fit very neatly into this small vanity bag with plenty of room to place your 20 x 20 clear plastic bag on top with the few essential liquid items (not exceeding 100ml remember!)

CLEAR PLASTIC BAG:

  • Mascara
  • Toothpaste
  • Anti bacterial gel ( a must )
  • Sachets of night serum
  • Barry M Mist and Fix in Dewy £5 (followers know I don’t leave home without it !)
  • Optional – an aromatherapy spray mist to relax or revitalise
20 x 20 Plastic bag with room to spare

Finally

Cleansing wipes do not have to go in the plastic bag my personal favourites are IN TRANSIT NO TRACES by THISWORKS £18 but if you are only travelling overnight smaller wi packs can be found. This can go directly into carry on bag.

Cleansing Pads
Samples

Your local Beauty Consultants will carry sample sizes in your favourite products these are freely available.

Every airport now has a Boots in the Departure lounge so you could always just buy small size toiletries once you are through and discard them on your return.

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP:IF YOU TRAVEL REGULARLY AS I DO. KEEP YOUR LITTLE YELLOW BAG READY STOCKED WITH YOUR FLY FRIENDLY PRODUCTS FOR STRESS FREE TRAVELLING.

JOJO xxxxxxxx

MIDWEEK MANTRA

Positive and uplifting lessons and messages to get you through the rest of the week and restore your mojo.

DISCOVER YOUR INNER CHILD

CAST YOUR MIND BACK TO WHEN YOU WERE A CHILD. WHAT ADULTS CLASS AS ANXIETY CHILDREN WELCOME AS EXCITEMENT. IT IS JUST IN THE PERCEPTION.

SO THIS WEEK CHOOSE A DAY WHEN YOU CAN TURN YOUR TELEPHONE OFF AND REDISCOVER THE THINGS THAT MADE YOU HAPPY AS A CHILD. IT IS TIME TO LAUGH AGAIN AND LOOK AT THE WORLD IN AN INNOCENT WAY TO RE ESTABLISH SOME PERSPECTIVE IN YOUR LIFE.

HERE ARE SOME SUGGESTIONS

  • HEAD TO THE SEASIDE. EAT CANDYFLOSS. WALK THE PIER. PLAY THE AMUSEMENT ARCADE.
  • RIDE A ROLLERCOASTER
  • GO TO THE CINEMA IN THE AFTERNOON AND ORDER POPCORN
  • COLOUR IN A COLOURING BOOK
  • JUMP WITH A SKIPPING ROPE
  • VISIT A ZOO. ENJOY AN ICE CREAM CONE
  • JUMP IN SOME PUDDLES
  • GO TO A PETTING FARM. STROKE SOME ANIMALS
  • WATCH A FAVOURITE CHILDHOOD FILM
  • MEET A FRIEND FOR KNICKERBOCKER GLORIES AND JUST GIGGLE.
  • CHALLENGE SOMEONE TO A GAME OF CONKERS
  • FLY A KITE
  • MAKE A MEAL YOU ENJOYED AS A CHILD EG FISHFINGER SANDWICHES, INSTANT WHIP
My Inner Child!!

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: RECONNECT WITH A CHILDHOOD FRIEND AND DO THIS TOGETHER

HAVE FUN !

JOJO XXXXX