LIFESTYLE: HOW TO BE HAPPY IN 2022

HAPPY NEW YEAR !

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Let It Go !

Whoever said “money can’t but happiness “is shopping in all the wrong places !!! Polls havre shown that wealthier people generally are in fact happier. What else do people THINK makes them happier sex ? friendships/? holidays? health ? It is true that these factors can influence how happy someone is. But when Psychologists study happiness they usually find it is a STATE OF MIND. A person with nothing or who has had a series of disappointments can be happier than someone who has it all. So how do we alter someones state of mind ?

I came across an old study carried out by Dr N M Bradburn it concentrated on the positive and negative effect and why people were predisposed to be one or the other. He concluded it was partly due to their circumstances in life but mostly down to their personality.

Extroverts were far more likely to be optimistic while introverts demonstrated far more negativity . Therefore we have to “develop a talent for happiness”. Many programmes exist to increase extroversion and reduce neuroticism. Also in the eighties and linked into this study was Dr Michael Fordyce a pioneer of happiness studies produced his own set of fundamentals, a programme of changes that can increase your happiness levels . These 14 points can push your personality into a more extrovert direction. This programme has considerable success right up to today. So I wanted to share the 14 exercises with you today because you must value your happiness but pursue it actively and constantly

1.Be more active and keep busy.Happy people get more out of life because they put more into it. Engage in a wider range of activities that you enjoy

2.Be productive at meaningful work.Happy people find meaning and purpose in the most mundane task. They are purposeful, productive and get things done.Set goals and objectives.

3.Get better organised and plan. Happy people are more organised. Make lists, accomplish and feel a sense of achievement.

4.Spend more time socialising. Happy people cultivate a social network and large groups of friends. When times are tough they seek out people rather than cut people off.

5.Develop an outgoing social and healthy personality. Happy people have a positive view of themselves and their abilities. They accept their own frailities and failures without dwelling on them or letting them get in the way. Accept and know how to take care of yourself. Embrace activities that play to your strengths and build your confidence. Happy people smile more, good humour is contagious so only hang out with other happy people. Join a club or activity that you enjoy so you can meet new people.

6.Close relationships are the number one source of happiness. Happy people are responsive and nurturing to the needs and hopes of those they love and value. Equally recognise a close relationship that no longer makes you happy.

7.Stop worrying. Worrying makes us feel bad. Happy people waste less time with it distracting themselves with something more enjoyable instead. Write down what you worry about for a week then in a month or so review your worry diary its my bet that most was needless worrying and most things went away or did not come to fruition.

8.Lower your expectations and aspirations. I know right ! Tricky one this of course you must set goals and standards but don’t set the bar too high or you will be constantly disappointed. Happy people don’t compare themselves to others.

9Get present orientated. Live for today. People who live in the past are depressed , those that live in the future are anxious. By living in the present is the only way to be truly happy. Focus on now.

10.Develop positive, optimistic thinking. Gratitude diaries are very effect for this. write down 3 things every day that you are truly grateful for. Happy people are definitely more optimistic seeing the glass half full and not half empty. Next time you note that you are being negative turn it upside down to look at the positives in the situation. Leave “thought check” post it notes around the house so when you catch site of one check your thinking if you are thinking negative thoughts turn them into positive ones. This is a great drill in developing positive thinking and training yourself. I always extract the positives from every problematic situation. Surround yourself with radiators never drains.

11. Eliminate negative feelings and problems. Happy people enjoy looking for solutions to problems rather than dwelling on them so don’t allow negative feelings to fester.

12.Be yourself. Happy people tend to come across as authentic and genuine and true to themselves. They are comfortable with who they are and communicate it.

13.Don’t bottle things up. Happy people know when and how to ask for help if they need it. Bring problems into the open bottling things up is a recipe for poor mental health.

14. Value your happiness. Happy people work at being happy. They do things that make them happy , hang out with the people that make them happy. Happiness is a priority and they recognise when they are not.

So try this for yourself. Fordyce proved over many years that you can actually help yourself a great deal. To a large extent happiness is up to you. Material factors are important in your life but how you choose to think about them is more important still. Whether you are balanced towards a negative or positive outlook largely depends on your personality, but your outlook can be definitely changed. Fordyce has shown over many years that happiness is something you have to work at , it is certainly not something that happens while you are looking the other way. Happiness ‘drills’ need to be practised on a regular basis.

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Make Yourself Happy

MWAH MWAH XXXXX

JOJO X

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP:HAPPINESS MUST BE PURSUED ACTIVELY AND CONSTANTLY. DISPEL THE MYTH THAT HAPPINESS ONLY ARRIVES WHEN YOU ARE BUSY DOING SOMETHING ELSE !!

WISHING A VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL MY FOLLOWERS………WE GOT THERE TOGETHER.

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ENJOY YOUR DAY CREATE POSITIVE MEMORIES TO BE CHERISHED FOR ETERNITY. SOMETIMES WHEN WE EXPERIENCE SUCH DIFFICULT TIMES THAT WE HAVE BEEN THROUGH TOGETHER OVER THE LAST TWO YEARS THESE SPECIAL TIMES LIKE CHRISTMAS DAY BECOME EVEN MORE IMPORTANT.

SO MAKE TODAY SPECIAL, RELAX. FEAST. GET OUT INTO NATURE. CONGRATULATE YOURSELF YOU MADE IT THIS FAR.

I WILL CONTINUE TO TREASURE OUR JOURNEY TOGETHER WITH ALL OF YOU INTO 2022 AND ENSURE WE ARE ALL LIVING OUR BEST LIFE.

THANK YOU FOR YOUR CONTINUED SUPPORT AND THE TIME YOU DEDICATED TO READING MY ARTICLES AND YOUR COMMENTS OF APPRECIATION IT MEANS A LOT !

MWAH MWAH XX

JOJO. XXXX

DISCOVER PAVILION RD CHELSEA FOR CHRISTMAS SHOPPING

ONE OF MY FAVOURITE STREETS FOR ALL MY CHRISTMAS SHOPPING NEEDS IS LONDONS BEST KEPT SECRET ……..PAVILION ROAD.

LOCATED JUST OFF SLOANE SQUARE LIT UP WITH PRETTY CHRISTMAS LIGHTS AND AWAY FROM THE MASSES OF CROWDS USUALLY ENCOUNTERED AT THIS TIME OF YEAR. PERFECT FOR SOCIAL DISTANCING. ALSO ENABLES YOU TO GET EVERYTHING IN ONE MILE FROM FOOD TO GIFTS AVOIDING BUSY DEPARTMENT STORES AND SUPERMARKETS. ALSO IMMENSELY MORE ENJOYABLE AS IT IS SO DICKENSIAN , THE EPITOME OF CHRISTMAS.

GOOD FOR EXCLUSIVE SHOPPING AT ANY TIME OF THE YEAR BUT I PROMISE YOU YOU CAN GET ALL YOUR CHRISTMAS SHOPPING IN ONE 1 MILE STRETCH OF ROAD HERE.

BRING BACK PLEASURABLE SHOPPING………….

LET ME WALK YOU UP THIS STREET STARTING AT THE HANS ROAD END.

PROVENANCE THE VILLAGE BUTCHER FOR YOUR CHRISTMAS TURKEY AND BOXING DAY GAMMON.

WULF AND LAMB VEGAN RESTAURANT OR HANS BAR AND GRILL OPPOSITE A LOVELY RESTAURANT SERVING GREAT FOOD AN INFORMAL BAR FOR SOME FESTIVE CHAMPAGNE. SERVES BREAKFAST, LUNCH OR DINNER DEPENDING ON WHEN YOU ARE STARTING YOUR SHOPPING EXPEDITION. BOOK AHEAD AS NUMBERS ARE NOW LIMITED OF COURSE.

NOW YOU HAVE HAD A BREAK AND WRITTEN YOUR LIST AND CHECKING IT TWICE LETS CARRY ON.

PAPERSMITHS A BEAUTIFUL STATIONERS FOR YOUR CHRISTMAS CARDS AND GORGEOUS BOOKS AND INNOVATIVE GIFTS.

BREAD AHEAD A DELIGHTFUL BAKERY FOR YOUR MORNING CROISSANTS AND PASTRIES AND PANETTONE. THEY ALSO DO HALF DAY COURSES IN BAKING SELECT YOUR COURSE AND BOOK AHEAD FOR 2021.

THE SEA THE SEA A QUALITY FISHMONGERS FOR YOUR SALMON , PRAWNS , OYSTERS OR SOMETHING FOR CHRISTMAS EVE SUPPER.

LONDON CHEESEMONGERS A TRADITIONAL CHEESE SPECIALIST SO LOTS OF ADVICE FOR YOUR CHRISTMAS CHEESEBOARD. THEY ALSO DELIVER IF YOU DONT WANT TO CARRY YOUR SMELLY CHEESES AROUND.

SO THATS ALL THE FOOD TAKEN CARE OF. LETS MOVE ONTO GIFTS FOR FRIENDS AND FAMILY OR EVEN YOUR CHRISTMAS OUTFIT. NOT FORGETTING YOUR BEAUTY NEEDS IT ALL HERE. READ ON………

NEXT WE COME TO THE WHITE COMPANY , NEEDS NO INTRODUCTION. GREAT GIFTS . OR MAYBE SOME NEW BEDDING READY FOR CHRISTMAS MORNING.

SALON SLOANE A CONTEMPORARY SALON WITH A GREAT REPUTATION FOR ALL CUTTING AND COLOURING REQUIREMENTS WHILE YOU TAKE A BREAK FROM SHOPPING.

RIGHT NEXT DOOR THERE IS A STUNNING LITTLE FLORISTS MOYSES STEVENS WITH CHRISTMAS WREATHS IN THE WINDOW. I ORDER ONE HANDMADE. THIS IS ONE OF LONDONS OLDEST AND MOST PRESTIGIOUS FLORISTS. TIE TO ORDER SOME BOUQUETS FOR DELIVERY.

OLIVIA VAN HALLE IS THE NEXT STOP DOWN FOR CHRISTMAS PYJAMAS. I THINK THIS WOULD MAKE THE PERFECT PRESSIE FOR MY MOTHER. THESE PYJAMAS ARE THE PIECE DE RESISTANCE IN PJ WORLD !

WE CROSS THE STREET TO HEIDI KLEIN MAINLY BECAUSE I WANT TO BE BEACH READY AS SOON AS THE TRAVEL RESTRICTIONS ARE LIFTED AND THESE ARE MY BIKINIS OF CHOICE. SELF GIFTING TIME. BUT THEY STOCK GREAT GIFT IDEAS OF BEACH BAGS AND SLIP ON BEACH SHOES. MY SUITCASE IS READY TO GO.

SARAH CHAPMAN FACIALIST TO THE STARS HAS HER CLINIC HERE TOO. WHAT LUCK. OF COURSE IF YOU WANTED TO FIT A FACIAL IN TO YOUR SHOPPING DAY YOU WOULD HAVE TO PREBOOK. BUT THERE ARE SOME DELIGHTFUL SKINCARE SETS THAT ANYONE WOULD LOVE TO RECEIVE.

COSMETICS A LA CARTE NOT ONLY DO THEY HAVE GREAT COSMETIC GIFTS HERE BUT YOU CAN BOOK YOUR CHRISTMAS PARTY MAKE UP 1:1 SESSION OR THEY HAVE MANY EVENTS HEADING UP TO THE MAIN EVENT. CHECK OUT THEIR WEBSITE FOR FURTHER INFO.

KATE SPADE WHEN WE POPPED IN HAD TABLES FILLED WITH LASHINGS OF CHRISTMAS IDEAS. BUT THEY ALSO HAD SOME EYE POPPING PARTY DRESSES TOO OR MAYBE YOUR CHRISTMAS DAY OUTFIT OR J CREW IS DIRECTLY OPPOSITE FOR A COSY OUTFIT FOR A BOXING DAY WALK.

WELL AS WE REACH THE END OF PAVILION ROAD DIRECTLY OPPOSITE IS PETER JONES CHELSEAS’ HUGE DEPARTMENT STORE FOR ANYTHING WE DIDNT MANAGE TO GET ON OUR LIST.

BUT I THINK WE HAVE JUST A LITTLE TIME TO TAKE THE GORGEOUS MAN IM WITH TO TIFFANYS A FEW STEPS AWAY FOR MY OWN PRESENT…….JUST WINDOW SHOPPING I PROMISE …..NOT !

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: IMAGINE ALL YOUR LUXURY FOOD AND GIFT SHOPPING FOR CHRISTMAS ALL DONE IN ONE STREET WITH TIME FOR LUNCH AND A FACIAL. NO SORE FEET. THIS ONLY EXISTED IN DREAMS UNTIL I DISCOVERED PAVILION RD

Well all that shopping has made me tired so I return to the Hans Bar and Grill for a cup of black coffee before the drive home with all my purchases.

MERRY CHRISTMAS

JOJO MWAH MWAH XXXXXXXX

HEALTH: CHRISTMAS MOCKTAILS

Christmas is a time when we go into overdrive on our alcohol consumption. The run up to Christmas with an incredibly busy social scene right up until the day when we start on the Bucks Fizz at breakfast time …….then just continue.

If you are cutting out alcohol for any reason or if you just want to cut down do not let it spoil your Christmas. Especially if you are cooking the lunch !!! You can still join in and feel very naughty with three of my favourite non alcoholic Christmas cocktails. I don’t think anyone of us wants to feel inebriated on Christmas day ( well maybe there is a few of you !!) but even if you are having the mulled wine, the egg nog, the champagne and the wine it maybe a good idea to intersperse the alcohol for you and your guests with one of these. Also good for the children (well, it IS christmas )

Mulled ‘Cider’

  • 1 glass of apple juice
  • 4 cloves
  • 1 cinnamon stick
  • star anise
  • orange zest
  • teaspoon of agave syrup

METHOD

Simmer gently all ingredients. Strain. Serve with a cinnamon stick.

Mulled ‘Cider’

APPLE SPARKLE

  • 1 glass of cloudy apple juice
  • A tot of elderflower cordial
  • Mint
  • Sparkling water
  • Gold leaf for sprinkle and sparkle

METHOD

Half fill a glass with cloudy apple juice . Add a tot of elderflower cordial. Top up with sparkling water. Lots of crushed ice. Mix well with a mixing spoon. garnish with a sprig of mint and sprinkle with gold leaf.

Apple Sparkle

RASPBERRY ‘NOJITO’

  • Raspberries fresh or frozen
  • mint
  • coconut sugar
  • lime juice
  • sparkling water

METHOD

Muddle the raspberries, mint and sugar and lime juice. Top up with sparkling water.

Raspberry Nohito

As you can see all very simple and quicker to make then normal cocktails so time saving too. The raspberry mojito can be whizzed up and pureed in a blender and served in a martini glass as a fake cosmopolitan. It all depends what you normally drink so change the glass to suit your mood.

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: THIS ADVICE IS NOT JUST FOR CHRISTMAS BUT FOR LIFE…..FOR EVERY ALCOHOLIC DRINK HAVE A NON ALCOHOLIC DRINK. MY ‘GO TO’ IS ELDERFLOWER CORDIAL AND SODA SERVED IN A CHAMPAGNE GLASS. SO YOU DONT APPEAR TO BE A PARTY POOPER AND PEOPLE DONT FORCE YOU TO EXCEED YOUR LIMITS. ADDED BONUS OF SAVING CALORIES TOO !!!

HAVE A MERRY (BUT NOT TOO MERRY) CHRISTMAS !

JOJO XXXXXXXX

LIFESTYLE: HOW TO STIMULATE YOUR VAGUS NERVE

………….VIVA LOST VAGUS !!!

OK guys lets get the jokes out of the way. Vagus diametrically opposed to ‘Vegas” this is not a wild, partying drinking exercise but a calming, peaceful experience.

I first learned about the Vagus Nerve and the Thymus gland (fed by the VN) many years ago during my training to become a Sound Healing Practioner. The benefits of stimulating this nerve and gland are so great I thought i would share them with you today.

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WHAT IS THE VAGUS NERVE

The Vagus nerve is the longest of all cranial nerves. It travels from the brain through the trachea, larynx, heart, lungs, liver, spleen, pancreas and intestines.

BENEFITS OF STIMULATING THE VAGUS NERVE

Bearing in mind all the organs this nerve passes through the benefits to both your body and your mind can be huge. There is a direct link to mental health such as depression and anxiety. Coping with the effects of stress on the body by calming the heart rate and emotions. Inflammation in the organs. Responsible for making white blood cells therefore boosting immunity. Aids digestion as the nerve is supplying the digestive tract right down into the intestines. The health of this nerve therefore is important to the body holistically.

HOW TO STIMULATE THE VAGUS NERVE

MASSAGE

  1. To calm your anxiety immediately we can use the branch of the vagus nerve in the ear and neck. There are many nerve endings in this area stemming from the vagus nerve. So gently pull on each ear in turn. Massage gently behind the ear in front of the hairline and then in front of the ear. The massage should be light and sensory not full acupressure. When in front of the ear bring the middle finger and fore finger in a straight line down the side of each neck. You will find this action very calming and great for anxiety.

SINGING AND CHANTING

As the vagus nerve is connected to the vocal chords and throat this is a great way to stimulate them and reap all of the aforementioned benefits. Of course belting out Motorhead or heavy metal songs will not have the same effect as gentle music and gentle chants too. As you are probably aware chanting is normally deep in the throat try OHHHHHHH, AHHHHHHHH, EEEEEEEEEH. Humming is also good . Hum every morning when you are in the shower to wake that Vagus Nerve up.

BREATHING

Just rhythmic breathing from the abdomen can really help but combining this with Ujjai breathing is really powerful. If you practise yoga you will be familiar with this style of breathing, throat breathing. Vibrating a sound as you breathe out deep in the back of the throat.

YOGA

Holding poses, breathing, twisting, chanting relaxation. Doing a daily yoga practice can maintain a healthy vagus nerve and keep it at an optimum level.

THE THYMUS GLAND

This gland is located in the centre of your chest just behind the breastbone and directly connected to the vagus nerve. Leading Psychotherapists state that the Thymus Gland “controls the life energy of the body”. Tapping on the Thymus is a simple technique you can use anytime if you want to strengthen your immune system.

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The tapping should be heavy enough to make a drumming sound in your chest. Tap in an anti clockwise direction for about 30 seconds. breathe naturally as you do this. The vibration caused by the tapping stimulates the gland and the vagus nerve it is attached to, massaging the heart, lungs and bronchial tubes and draws blood and energy to nourish the thymus.

The thymus tap is also good for jet lag. Tap every hour while travelling to reset your body clock.

So this extra long nerve and this little gland are incredibly powerful and by giving them a little extra attention and some love and care you will reap some amazing rewards.

MWAH MWAH

JOJO xxxxxx

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: As a Sound and Vibration expert never underestimate the power of vibration on the body. Remember 60% of the body is water. Vibration helps to clear the channels and pools of stagnation within the body. .Think of it like a flowing mountain stream with clear fresh water and eliminating those muddy little pools. These exercises contained in these articles will help you to connect with your body and get to know it better.

HOW TO MAKE YOUR FOOTPRINT GREEN

With COP26 well under way this week in Glasgow, lets talk green !

Now , I realise some people are in denial about climate change but no one can deny that we are ruining our planet with at best poor housekeeping and at worst dirty filthy habits. There also can be NO denial that we can nurture our planet by all just making a few subtle changes to our lifestyle.

I decided to write about this following a dinner party discussion which involved us listing how green we were. Now I have never really thought about myself as being a green activist but I was surprised how “green” I actually live. I know I could do more but what I do , I do on a consistent basis, without too much trouble or hardship. So I will list the things that I came up with over the dinner table, which I am sure most of you already do, but if you don’t try to make some small adjustments to help clean our beautiful planet up. If I can do it, I am pretty sure you can. The planet is a thing of beauty to be handled with care and passed onto the many generations to whom we pass the baton.

  • Always shower and only for 30 seconds unless i am washing my hair, rarely bath.
  • I generate only half a small bag of waste each week. Only use bio degradable bin bags never plastic.
  • Turn tap off while cleaning my teeth
  • I do not class myself as a vegetarian but I only meat about once every six months
  • Do not buy fast disposable fashion. I shop for clothes twice a year not twice a week ( or as some people do twice a day !!!)
  • No longer buy bottled water I bought a Brita filter jug but I use the filter three times longer than recommended. I have a reusable bottle for life for water on the go.
  • Energy efficient . I only have lights on in the room that is being occupied.
  • Installed solar panels on my roof to lower my energy bills.
  • Make my own cleaning products from white wine vinegar/lemon juice and soda crystals to cut down my chemical waste.
  • Now take trains for long journeys (this is new to me !!) but they are much better than I recall.
  • I have hessian lifetime shopping bags.
  • Buy loose fruit and vegetables and don’t even use the plastic bags on the rack they go onto the conveyer belt singularly !!
  • Oh… and I only have one child. Now I would never, unlike Meghan and Harry tell you how many children to have. Even though they now have gone against their own advice. Do as they say not as they do has become their mantra ! But just saying. This is only about me.

I certainly do not want to become a green preacher but these are all simple things to inject into your everyday life without too much planning. Think, if we all did these basic things what a massive difference we could make collectively.

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: ADD MORE GREEN INTO YOUR DAY ON TOP OF MY FAMOUS GREEN JUICE WHICH I HOPE YOU ARE ALL HAVING EACH MORNING. FORGET ORANGE – GREEN IS THE NEW BLACK !!!!

MWAH MWAH

JOJO XXXXXXXX

LIFESTYLE : BIG BOYS CRY TOO !

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I saw this instagram post today which touched me deeply and I wanted to share it with my followers and readers.

Boys get cheated on

Boys get used for sex

Boys get lead on

Boys get hurt

Boys get heartbroken

Boys are self conscious

Boys get bullied

Boys get called fat

Boys get called ugly

Boys get judged

Boys get hit/abused by girls

Boys feel alone

Boys suffer with depression

Boys cry themselves to sleep

Boys self harm

Boys get eating disorders

Boys get suicidal

Boys commit suicide

Boys feel pain.

So while we continue to discuss and empathise with how we are treated as women and the effect on womens mental health especially in the recent light of the tragedies of Sarah Everard and Sabina Nessa and not foRgetting #MeToo campaign. Let us not forget the men in our lives. Our sons. grandsons, brothers, lovers, fathers and our friends. ask them how they are feeling today……….and then ask them again…….How are you REALLY feeling today ?

Look at the list again I am pretty sure they will be feeling at least one of those statements today right now. You will never know until you ask!

So let us not overlook men in the fight against mental health ………they are more likely to be suffering in silence.

MWAH MWAH xxxxx

JOJO. x

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP:TUNE IN WITH YOUR MALE CIRCLE TODAY. REMEMBER AS WOMEN WE ARE GREAT LISTENERS AND GREAT COUNSELLORS. SO AS A WOMAN YOUR INTERVENTION COULD BE INVALUABLE. MEN ARE MORE LIKELY TO OPEN UP TO YOU RATHER THAN THEIR MALE COUNTERPARTS..

LIFESTYLE: 5 STRESS BUSTERS YOU NEED IN YOUR LIFE RIGHT NOW !

Okay team if you have been on this journey with me over the last few years you should be feeling pretty chilled by now. Of course stress overload is a holistic management programme of diet, exercise, time management , meditation and handling techniques. But sometimes in the moment stress can raise cortisol levels and can be detrimental to ur health and our relationships if it is not handled in real time, there and then. Stress is not always bad and a life without stress means you are not pushing forward or getting enough out of life. So stress is NORMAL folks !

So let us look at 5 simple stress busters when you think it is just too much and it is impacting your time here on earth.

NATURE

Stop ! Get outside to a green area , a peaceful area. Lie in a field. Hug a tree. Smell a flower. Listen to the birds. Watch the clouds. Throw some pebbles into a pond and notice the ripples. Reconnecting with nature will destress you instantly.

HEGU

Hegu is a Chinese acupuncturist point located between the thumb and forefinger. The fleshy part. If you feel around this fleshy part until you hit a spot that is sensitive then press it firmly for a few minutes. This has a calming affect on the brain. So any time you feel heightened anxiety this is your go to pressure point but without the needles .

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AND BREATHE…………

When you feel your stress levels starting to rise start to focus on the breath. Breathing in to a count of 4 and exhale to a count of 7. Filling the abdomen with air on the inhale and expelling the air out of the abdomen on the exhale . Most people in stressful situations adopt shallow breathing and breathe from the chest and not deeper into the abdomen. This causes you to hyper ventilate. It is important to recognise the change in your breathing patterns when you become stressed and mange it by taking the breathing back to diaphragmatic state rather than a thoracic state. Poor breathing can result in many illnesses and do untold damage to your body. So learn to breathe properly and recognise when you are not can be the biggest ally when it comes to your health and diffusing a stressful reaction.

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FLOTATION

I have my local Flotation Spa on speed dial . Nirvanaspa.co.uk. have a “celestial flotation pool ‘ that you can book as a couple or an individual so you have total peace and quiet within a darkened saltwater pool gazing up at the stars on the ceiling. The weightlessness and serenity of the environment contribute massively into instantly taking you to another calm place. Discover your local flotation centre/spa and log the number into your phone today. Perfect for getting you away from the situation it is a fortnights holiday in 20 minutes……..without the hassle of passport control !!!!

MEDITATION

If you have not yet discovered the benefits of meditation , baby , where have you been !!! Not reading my blog thats for sure !! But when we are stressed it is especially difficult to empty the mind and be still. I have been there trust me but this is what I find useful:

Relax in a position you find comfortable ( for me it is lying down with lots of pillows)

Close your eyes and concentrate on the breath for a few minutes, as described earlier. Once you are in a rhythmic breathing pattern start to scan the body from the ankles up , over the knees continue up through the heart, shoulders, elbows, neck , head. Noticing how each of them feel.

Now concentrate on a place where you felt at your most relaxed. Focus on 5 things that you can see, 4 things that you can touch, 3 things you can hear , 2 things that you can smell, and 1 thing that you can taste.

You will find it is easier to transport yourself somewhere rather than emptying the mind.

Now concentrate on 3 things you are grateful for . Gratitude so important to relaxation.

Finally set your intention for the rest of the day. How do you want this day to unfold or end.

Lie still for as long as you need to . Then start to wriggle each part of your body as you bring yourself back to reality.

Open your eyes and Voila !! A NEW YOU !

I would advocate doing this meditation every morning for 20 minutes rather than waiting until you are fully stressed out . You will be a different calmer person. It sets your day up nicely .

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I hope you find these stress busters useful, let me know if you adopt any of them or indeed if you have any of your own stress busting tips.

MWAH MWAH

JOJO XXXXXXX

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP:Only you can be in charge of controlling stress and any damage to your body and mind, so find what works best for you and you lifestyle and practise them regularly to help achieve a healthy balance. Do not wait until it is too late.

LIFESTYLE: RADIATING HAPPINESS

Its one thing to have a feeling of happiness but to radiate happiness to people around us is something we need to practise. Happiness is one contagion we do understand, the more we radiate happiness the more people want to be with us and more opportunities flow towards us.

Now doesn’t that sound good ?

Yes when you devlop the light within you and radiate the energy outwards it becomes a ripple effect. The best of you brings out the best in others. Can you imagine if this thought process spread throughout the world . What an amazing place this would be !

True happiness comes from our true self not our physical self, of limiting body , thoughts,fear and emotions. The true self is limitless and lies in the silence wisdom and grace that can be found in meditation. It has no bounds and is infinite. So you can tap into as much happiness that you choose.

Tune into your own thoughts and recognise how you are really feeling. The n notch it up a few levels on your “mood-o-meter” when you surrender to the joy and focus on the good things in your life and recognise that the bad moments are just distractions treat them as positive life lessons. Even forcing a smile releases endorphins and changes your mood in an instant.

DEPRESSED PEOPLE LIVE IN THE PAST

ANXIOUS PEOPLE LIVE IN THE FUTURE

HAPPY PEOPLE LIVE IN THE PRESENT

Deepak Chopra expresses some Do’s and Dont’s in order to radiate happiness.

  • DO express appreciation in others.
  • DO be open to the other persons truth. Respect their point of view.
  • DO wear a smile
  • DO share your laughter
  • Do contribute to the joy of another
  • DO turn your inner happiness to an outer activity
  • DON’T make other people feel wrong. As your self judgement decreases so should judgement of others.
  • DON’T draw attention to how much you have changed and how happy you now are as it arouses distrust.
  • DON”T point out how unhappy someone else is. They are doing the best they can from their own level of awareness.

Psychologically studies show that positive behaviour spreads virally to others.

As more people see the change and the light in you those closest to you will see a new radiance , a new kind of lightness and vibrancy.

LET’S CHANGE THE WORLD TOGETHER !

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: THIS IS ONE INFECTION WE DON’T MIND CATCHING ! STAY HAPPY AND CARRY ON.

Mwah Mwah

JOJO XXXXXXXX

LIFESTYLE: DISCOVER A SOUNDBATH MEDITATION

Many of you are reporting that you are not sleeping well or have anxieties due to the current Covid 19 disruption in our lives. As one of the leading Sound Healing Therapists and a member of the College of Sound Healing (COSH) and also the International Institute of Complementary Therapists (IICT)I am a massive advocate of the benefits of soundbaths for meditation and healing. So I thought I would share one of my Soul Junk-e videos with you. Try to listen through headphones for maximum benefit but it will work just as well without.

So, grab a mat, a pillow and a blanket and all YOU have to do is let the sounds wash over you while you lie there. No more commitment required !

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: BEGIN WITH 2 0R 3 SOUNDBATHS A WEEK FOR 3 WEEKS THEN WEEKLY WILL BE ENOUGH TO ACHIEVE MAXIMUM BENEFIT. LOOKING FORWARD TO SEEING A MORE RELAXED REJUVENATED YOU !

MWAH MWAH XXXXX

JOJO XXXXXX