MIDWEEK MANTRA : LOVE THYSELF

INSPIRATION AND IDEAS TO HELP YOU GET THROUGH THE REST OF THE WEEK AND RECHARGE THE BATTERIES SO YOU CAN BE YOUR BEST SELF.

START A LOVE AFFAIR………..

WITH YOURSELF. WE SPEND ALL OUR LIVES LAYING LOVE ON EVERYBODY ELSE IN OUR LIVES. BUT HOW MANY OF YOU SPEND CONSCIOUS TIME LOVING YOURSELF. SO TODAY YOU ARE GOING TO ARRANGE A DATE WITH YOURSELF……

  • START BY WRITING A LOVE LETTER TO YOURSELF. THE QUALITIES YOU LIKE AND WHY YOU LOVE TO SPEND TIME WITH…YOU.
  • SEND YOURSELF A LOVELY BUNCH OF FLOWERS
  • WHEN YOU GET READY FOR YOUR DATE BUY A MINI BOTTLE OF THE FINEST CHAMPAGNE AND A MINI ( 4 IS ENOUGH!) BOX OF CHAMPAGNE TRUFFLES.
  • GOOD VENUES FOR SELF DATES…..ART GALLERIES, SHOPPING AND LUNCH, HIKING, SPA DAYS OR EVEN STAY AT HOME WITH A MOVIE OR A BOOK. BUT HEY THIS IS NOT ABOUT ME ….ITS ALL ABOUT YOU !
  • BUY YOURSELF A LOVELY LITTLE PRESENT.

WE SHOULD ALL SPEND THE ODD DAY RECONNECTING WITH OUR SENSE OF SELF AND APPRECIATE WHO WE ARE. THE TIME ALONE IS GREAT FOR FOCUSSING ON YOUR OWN NEEDS. YOU MAY HAVE MISSED OUT ON VALENTINES DAY LAST WEEK OR FELT UNDER APPRECIATED. TODAY REDRESS THE BALANCE.

SELF LOVE DEVELOPS FROM ACTIONS THAT SUPPORT OUR PHYSICAL, PSYCHOLOGICAL AND SPIRITUAL GROWTH

HAVE FUN! ENJOY YOUR DATE.

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: LOVING YOURSELF MAKES IT EASY FOR OTHERS TO LOVE YOU TOO !

Mwah Mwah

JOJO xxxxx

MIDWEEK MANTRA : RIP QUEEN ELIZABETH II

THOUGHTS, INSPIRATION OR TASKS TO REJUVENATE AND LIFT YOUR SPIRITS TO GET YOU THROUGH THE REST OF THE WEEK.

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WALLOW IN SORROW

AFTER THE LAST TWO WEEKS WITH THE PASSING OF QUEEN ELIZABETH II MANY OF YOU MAY STILL FEEL GRIEF STRICKEN AND LOST. YOU MAY FEEL AS THOUGH YOU LOST YOUR ANCHOR IN LIFE OR FEEL YOU CANNOT ACCEPT CHANGE.

WELL IT IS NOT OFTEN THAT YOU HEAR THIS FROM ME, OR ANYONE ELSE FOR THAT MATTER. OUR MIDWEEK MANTRA IS FOCUSSED ON STAYING POSITIVE AND FIGHTING ANY NEGATIVE NOTIONS IN YOUR MIND. BUT I FEEL THAT INCREASINGLY WE ARE SURROUNDED BY MEDIA AND “EXPERTS” THAT ARE CONTINUALLY TELLING US ITS BAD TO FEEL DOWN AND WE ARE BEING FED AN IDEALISED WORLD WHERE WE ARE ONLY WORTHY IF WE ARE SMILEY AND POSITIVE.

BUT LIFE IS A ROLLERCOASTER (THANKS RONAN FOR THAT ONE !!) A SERIES OF UPS AND YES DOWNS AND WE CAN ONLY RECOGNISE THE UPS BY ACKNOWLEDGING THE DOWNS TOO.

SO THIS WEEK I WANT YOU TO EMBRACE THE IDEA THAT FEELING LOW OR SAD ON ANY GIVEN DAY IS OKAY AND IS IN FACT TOTALLY NORMAL. IT WOULD BE ABNORMAL TO NEVER FEEL DOWN.

THE NEXT DAY YOU FEEL LOW TOTALLY EMBRACE IT . ACKNOWLEDGE HOW YOU FEEL . DO NOTHING BUT …..WALLOW. DONT FIGHT IT , FEEL IT !

JOJO STYLELIST TIP: SADNESS IS NORMAL BUT IF YOU ARE FEELING SAD FOR A PROLONGED PERIOD AND FOR NO IDENTIFIABLE REASON. THEN SEEK HELP AND TALK TO SOMEONE.

MWAH MWAH

JOJO XXXXXXX

MIDWEEK MANTRA : 12 MANTRAS TO SOLVE THE HAPPINESS COMPLEX

Your weekly catch up on all things positive to help strengthen your mental health, give the mind a workout and get you though life one week at a time.

Learn To Laugh Again

Each week I concentrate on the following 12 mantras but today I am giving you a bumper edition. 12, yes 12 mantras , just one word to focus on . Take one word for each week and make it your own whatever this word means to you and how you can incorporate the thinking into your life. 12 weeks will take you up to Christmas ( yes I said the C word , I wanted you to hear it here first ) so think of this as the advent calendar of happiness. Please notice there is no mantra for money. But with these 12 core values money you will see is not an indicator of happiness it is a short term motivator. Of course we need enough to pay the bills but is not a solution to happiness by concentrating on the following you may find that money flows to you anyway.

  • GRATITUDE
  • KINDNESS
  • PURPOSE
  • JOY
  • AWARENESS
  • FORGIVENESS
  • MINDFULNESS
  • AUTHENTICITY
  • POSITIVITY
  • LOVE
  • COMPASSION
  • PASSION

MWAH MWAH

JOJO XXXXX

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP : By ensuring these 12 mnatras exist in your life is the ket to happiness not just in your own soul but for those who you share your life with too. Lets practise together and trust the ripple effect to make the world a happier place .

MIDWEEK MANTRA : FORGIVENESS

Your weekly club to help strengthen your mental health and develop positivity in your outlook for the rest of the week. Call in each week to this post to lift your spirits and help you to be your own therapist through tasks , mantras, ideas or just chat.

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I think we probably all have someone in our life that have been bad to us or let us down. We probably feel deep anger and disappointment in these people we trusted and let into our lives. Why didn’t they treat us the way with the courtesy and kindness we showed them. The feelings get deep routed into our psyche more than we know and it impacts our other relationships and existing and future friendships.

Today I want you to practice letting go of regret, guilt, or resentment and to start making space for forgiveness, happiness , it is time to set yourself free.

Remember this exercise is about you not the other person . The other person has the problem not you. Forgiving them does not necessitate you talking to them this is about the relationship with yourself.

However if you feel the need to make yourself heard in order to heal. Then arrange to have a conversation with this person.

If you miss the person and want to repair the relationship then write a letter / e mail to this person and SEND it giving them time to digest your feelings without interruption or argument. After reflection you may find you contributed to the situation that arose. So, explore this.

MWAH MWAH

JOJO XXXXX

JOJO’s STYLELIST TIP:Both forgiveness of others or self forgiveness is extremely cathartic it is all about controlling ones own mind and feelings in order to heal oneself in order to move forward and find freedom.

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MIDWEEK MANTRA : IT’S PLAYTIME !

YOUR WEEKLY GET TOGETHER TO EXPLORE IDEAS, TASKS AND MANTRAS TO HELP YOU LIVE A MORE POSITIVE LIFE AND STRENGTHEN YOUR MENTAL HEALTH. THINK OF IT AS A WORKOUT FOR THE MIND.

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FIND YOUR INNER CHILD

WHEN IS THE LAST TIME YOU HAD A GOOD BELLY LAUGH OR GIGGLED WITH A FRIEND. WELL ITS TIME TO TAKE A DAY OFF TO PLAY. LET US BRING SOME FUN INTO OUR LIVES.

TODAY I WANT YOU TO CAST YOUR MIND BACK TO WHEN YOU WERE A CHILD. WHAT DID YOU LIKE TO DO ? NOW START TO PLAN YOUR FUN DAY. SOME IDEAS MAYBE:

  • GOING TO THE CINEMA WITH A BAG OF POPCORN CHOOSE A COMEDY AS TODAY IS ALL ABOUT LAUGHTER.
  • FLYING A KITE.
  • GOING TO THE BEACH TO COLLECT SEASHELLS AND MAKE SANDCASTLES.]
  • GO TO A SWING PARK AND TRY OUT THE SWINGS, ROUNDABOUT AND SLIDE. PLEASE DO NOT SCARE THE CHILDREN THOUGH I RECOMMEND YOUY CHOOSE A QUIET DAY FOR THIS ONE.
  • TAKE A PEDALO BOAT ON THE LAKE.
  • PLAY HIDE AND SEEK OR KISS CHASE WITH SOMEONE YOU (REALLY) LIKE.
  • BORROW A POGO STICK AND A HULA HOOP AND SEE HOW GOOD YOU ARE. COMPETE WITH A FRIEND.
  • GET SOMEONE TO TICKLE YOU AND SEE HOW LONG YOU CAN GO WITHOUT LAUGHING.

YOU PROBABLY HAVE MANY MORE IDEAS OF YOUR OWN. BUT THE MANTRA FOR TODAY IS “THINK LIKE A CHILD ” THAT IS THE ONLY RULE.

MWAH MWAH

JOJO. XXXXXXX

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP:REMEMBER TODAYS TASKS IS ALL ABOUT HAVING FUN AND LAUGHTER ONCE YOU START IT WILL IMPROVE YOUR WHOLE MOOD AND LIFT YOUR SPIRITS AND REMEMBER IT IS INFECTIOUS FOR EVERYONE AROUND. THOSE WHO LAUGH TOGETHER STAY TOGETHER. REDISCOVER YOUR INNER CHILD TODAY .

MIDWEEK MANTRA : JUST DO IT !

Your weekly catch up on all things positive ! Tasks and imagination or just a simple mantra to encourage you to exercise and strengthen your mental health in a world full of adversity. We will not just get you through another week but we aim to make your week the best it can possibly be!

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Building Your Stepping Stones Wisely

This weeks mantra may give you some deep and positive thinking. It cropped up on my Headspace app the other morning and it really resonated with me. I would like to share it with my followers and readers and I hope it resonates with you too and bring you calmness and serenity.

“A DAY THINKING ABOUT WHAT COULD HAPPEN, SHOULD HAPPEN OR WHAT MIGHT HAVE BEEN IS A DAY MISSED “

This is a mantra that should be lived by every day for life. Repeat it enough times so it becomes an instinctive reality.

MIDWEEK MANTRA : BALANCING YOUR FEMALE AND MALE ENERGIES

YOUR WEEKLY DOSE OF INSPIRATION ,THOUGHT AND MENTAL EXERCISES TO ENSURE A HEALTHY AND HAPPY MIND.

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BALANCE IS EVERYTHING!

WE ARE ALL MADE UP OF FEMALE AND MALE PERSONALITY TRAITS. FEMALE ENERGY IS OFTEN SEEN AS COMPASSION, NURTURING AND SENSUAL. WHILE MALE ENERGY IS PREDOMINANTLY POWERFUL, DRIVEN AND ASSERTIVE. BUT IN FACT WE ARE A MIX OF BOTH ENERGIES ALTHOUGH SOME MAYBE MORE DOMINANT IN YOU THAN OTHERS. WHAT WE ARE TRYING TO ACHIEVE IS A HARMONIOUS BALANCE OF BOTH.

SO TODAY MAKE A LIST OF QUALITIES THAT ARE GENERALLY SEEN AS FEMALE/MALE :

FEMALE

NURTURING

COMFORTING

LOVING

CARING

BEAUTIFUL

MALE

POWERFUL

CONFIDENT

COMPETITIVE

PROVIDER

CAREFREE

ASSERTIVE

TICK THE ONES THAT ARE STRONGER WITHIN AND THEN LOOK AT WAYS YOU CAN BALANCE THE OTHERS. SOME MEN MAY FIND THEY POSSESS MORE FEMININE ENERGY AND SOME WOMEN MAY POSSESS MORE MASCULINE ENERGY. TRUE HAPPINESS LIES IN BALANCING BOTH ENERGIES WITHIN ONE PERSON.

WHAT ARE YOU REQUIRING MORE OF IN YOUR LIFE ? CAN INCREASING EVEN ONE OF THESE ENERGIES MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN ACHIEVING THIS. EVEN IN RELATIONSHIPS BY BALANCING THESE ENERGIES CAN MAKE FOR BETTER SYNERGY IN THOSE RELATIONSHIPS.

MWAH MWAH

JOJO. XXXXX

JOJO STYLELIST TIP: MALE AND FEMALE ELEMENTS COMPLEMENT EACH OTHER PERFECTLY . SO IMAGINE THOSE QUALITIES IN ONE MIND. ENJOY WORKING ON BOTH SIDES OF THAT MIND TODAY

MIDWEEK MANTRA : LISTEN WITHOUT PREJUDICE

YOUR WEEKLY DOSE OF THE GOOD STUFF. ALL THINGS POSITIVE TO HELP BUILD MENTAL STRENGTH AND A GOOD MOOD TO GET YOU THROUGH TO THE END OF THE WEEK.

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SO NOT ONLY WAS THIS ONE OF GEORGE MICHAELS BEST ALBUMS BUT THIS IS ALSO THE TITLE OF THIS WEEKS TASK.

TODAY REALLY LISTEN TO EVERYONE YOU HAVE A CONVERSATION WITH. IS THAT IT ??? I HEAR YOU CRY. THIS IS TOUGHER THAN YOU THINK LISTENING IS DIFFICULT, A SKILL AN ART FORM THAT NEEDS TO BE PRACTISED.

LISTEN CAREFULLY TO THE OTHER PERSON AND WHAT THEY ARE SAYING. DO NOT INTERRUPT OR GIVE ADVICE (UNLESS THEY ASK FOR IT ) AND DO NOT JUDGE.

I AM A VERY GOOD LISTENER BUT IT REQUIRES GREAT CONCENTRATION. I ALWAYS MAKE SURE I GIVE MY UNDIVIDED ATTENTION WHEN SOMEONE REALLY WANTS TO TALK. MY PHONE IS SWITCHED OFF , I HAVE EYE CONTACT AND I ACKNOWLEDGE WHAT THEY HAVE SAID. SOMETIMES THAT ALL SOMEONE NEEDS IF THEY ARE HAVING A BAD DAY OR GOING THROUGH SOME MENTAL HEALTH PROBLEMS.

IT IS RARE THAT I MEET A VERY GOOD LISTENER. SO PRACTISE THIS ART REGULARLY AND ONE DAY I HOPE TO MEET YOU SO YOU CAN LISTEN TO ME !!

MAKE THIS YOUR GIFT TO THE WORLD.

MWAH MWAH

JOJO XXXXXXX

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: USE YOUR BODY LANGUAGE TO SHOW THE OTHER PERSON YOU ARE LISTENING AND INTERESTED IN WHAT THEY HAVE TO SAY. NOD YOUR HEAD, ESTABLISH EYE CONTACT AND OPEN POSTURE, NO CROSSED ARMS REMOVE ANY BARRIER SIGNALS YOU MAYBE GIVING OUT. I TRULY BELIEVE IN THIS BUSY WORLD WE HAVE LOST THE ABILITY TO REALLY LISTEN TO EACH OTHER. YOU CAN HEAR ME……….BUT ARE YOU LISTENING ?

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MIDWEEK MANTRA: CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE

A WEEKLY DOSE OF INSPIRATION, IDEAS AND THOUGHTS TO FILL YOUR POSITIVITY BUBBLE AND BRING JOY AND LIGHT TO YOUR WEEK. ZONE INTO THE MIDWEEK MANTRA EVERY WEDNESDAY MORNING.

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ATTITUDE WILL HELP YOU BREAK THROUGH THE CLOUDS TO THE SUMMIT

DURING A RECENT LUNCH (THE RULE OF 6 STRICTLY APPLIED I PROMISE !) ONE OF MY FRIENDS SAID SOMETHING THAT RESONATED WITH ME. I THOUGHT I WOULD SHARE IT WITH YOU AS IT MAKES PERFECT SENSE AND HOPEFULLY WILL STRIKE A CHORD WITH YOU TOO.

“IT IS YOUR ATTITUDE NOT YOUR APTITUDE THAT DECIDES YOUR ALTITUDE “

I LOVE, LOVE THIS. WE CAN CHANGE ANYTHING BY JUST CHANGING THE WAY WE THINK ABOUT OURSELVES. VERY OFTEN THE BIGGEST OBSTACLE PREVENTING US REACHING OUR GOALS AND DREAMS IS US AND OUR SELF LIMITING BELIEFS.

THIS IS ESPECIALLY POIGNANT RIGHT NOW IF YOU HAVE TEENAGERS THAT ARE DISAPPOINTED WITH THEIR EXAM RESULTS THIS SUMMER AS IT CAN SEEM LIKE THE END OF THE WORLD AT SUCH A YOUNG AGE. LETS FACE IT SOME OF THE MOST SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE DID NOT NECESSARILY DO WELL AT EXAMS BUT THEY ALL DO POSSESS A CERTAIN ATTITUDE. SO THIS IS A GOOD MANTRA TO INSTILL INTO YOUR OFFSPRING.

NOW LETS TURN OUR ATTENTION TO YOU. ASSESS YOUR OWN FORGOTTEN GOALS THAT YOU HAVE PUT ON THE BACK BURNER AS YOU THINK THEY ARE BEYOND REACH. REDISCOVER YOUR PASSIONS AND CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE. GO FOR IT. THINK OF ALL THE ACTORS,DESIGNERS,POLITICIANS,COMPANY DIRECTORS WHO ARE NOT PARTICULARLY GOOD AT WHAT THEY DO BUT THEY PORTRAYED THEMSELVES AS BEING GOOD UNTIL WE BELIEVED THEM. AIM FOR THE MOON, SO AT LEAST YOU MAY GET THE STARS.

CAN IT REALLY BE THIS SIMPLE ? THERE IS ONLY ONE WAY TO FIND OUT.

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: CHOOSE YOUR ALTITUDE LEVEL THAT YOU ARE HAPPY TO FLY AT…….AND SOAR !

MWAH MWAH

JOJO XXXXXXX

MIDWEEK MANTRA: MENTAL HEALTH START TALKING

YOUR WEEKLY DOSE OF INSPIRATION, TASKS AND WORDS TO UPLIFT YOU AND BUILD MENTAL STRENGTH AND CLARITY FOR THE WEEK AHEAD.

NEXT TIME YOU ASK SOMEONE HOW THEY ARE DOING SHOW A REAL INTEREST IN THE ANSWER, DONT JUST ACCEPT “FINE”.

THE MENTAL HEALTH FOUNDATION BELIEVE THAT HALF OF ALL ADULTS IN UK BELIEVE THEY HAVE A DIAGNOSABLE MENTAL HEALTH PROBLEM. EVERY WEEK 1 IN 6 OF US EXPERIENCE FEELINGS OF ANXIETY OR DEPRESSION. SO THE CHANCES THAT SOMEONE YOU ASK “HOW ARE YOU REALLY DOING?” THEY THEN WON’T BE ABLE TO RESPOND IN A ONE WORD ANSWER. IF YOU ARE WORRIED TRY TO GET SOMEONE TO OPEN UP TO YOU.

“CAN WE TALK ABOUT WHAT YOU ARE EXPERIENCING ?”

“WHO WOULD YOU BE COMFORTABLE TALKING TO, IF NOT ME?’

“IT SEEMS LIKE YOU ARE GOING THROUGH A DIFFICULT TIME. HOW CAN I HELP YOU FIND THE HELP YOU NEED?”

“I AM SOMEONE WHO CARES AND WANTS TO LISTEN. WHAT DO YOU WANT ME TO KNOW ABOUT HOW YOU ARE FEELING?”

TODAY TRY ONE OF THESE QUESTIONS IN RESPONSE TO SOMEONE WHO YOU MAY FEAR IS NOT JUST “FINE”.

REACH OUT TODAY.

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: IF YOU ARE READING THIS AND ARE SUFFERING PLEASE TALK TO SOMEONE TODAY. IF NOT A FRIEND OR RELATIVE THEN CALL MIND 0300 123 3393.

JOJO XXXXXXX