HOW TO HAVE MANNERS !

PEOPLE ALWAYS POINT OUT HOW IMPECCABLE MY MANNERS ARE. THIS IS PROBABLY AS IT IS A DYING ART , WHEN I AM OUT IN THE BIG WIDE WORLD I FEEL AS THOUGH I AM THE ONLY ONE WHO STILL CARE ABOUT MANNERS.

NOW I AM NOT EVEN POINTING THE FINGER AT THE YOUNGER GENERATION AS THEIR MANNERS SEEM TO BE FAR BETTER THAN THE OLDER GENERATION. WE JUST SEEM TO HAVE LOST THE ABILITY TO CONSIDER OTHER PEOPLE.

2020 IS THE YEAR TO REDISCOVER YOUR MANNERS. LETS WAKE THEM UP GENTLY WITH A FEW SUGGESTIONS;

  • DRIVING. THE NUMBER ONE SOURCE OF ALL BAD MANNERS. DISPLAY COURTESY AT ALL TIMES TO OTHER ROAD USERS. LET PEOPLE IN FRONT, AND FLASH YOUR LIGHTS OR GESTURE A THANK YOU WHEN MOTORISTS DO THE SAME FOR YOU. IF YOU MAKE A MISTAKE AND INCUR THE WRATH OF OTHER ROAD USERS HOLD YOUR HAND UP AND SAY SORRY. THERE IS NO POINT IN GETTING INTO ROWS AND ESCALATING A POTENTIALLY DANGEROUS SITUATION. LET IT GO ! IT IS NOT A COMPETITION. ON A SEPARATE NOTE NEVER TAILGATE SOMEONE AND DONT COAST IN THE MIDDLE LANE !!!!!!
  • PUNCTUALITY. YOUR TIME IS NOT MORE IMPORTANT THAN OTHERS SO DONT STEAL THEIRS. I LUNCH WITH A REGULAR FRIEND (YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE) 3 TIMES IN THE LAST 6 MONTHS SHE HAS ARRANGED A DENTAL, A WAX, AND A MASSAGE APPOINTMENT AT THE SAME TIME AS OUR LUNCH APPOINTMENT TO ALLOW HER TO BE AN HOUR LATE EACH TIME !!! DONT LET THIS BE YOU. UNBELIEVABLY RUDE AND I AM CURRENTLY CONSIDERING MY POSITION. IM NEVER LATE FOR AN APPOINTMENT AND I RECOGNISE SOMETIMES IT IS UNAVOIDABLE BUT IF IT IS JUST SLOPPY AND INCONSIDERATE TIMING WITH NO APOLOGETIC MESSAGE ON YOUR PART THEN IM GONE BY THE TIME THEY GET THERE.
  • CANCELLATIONS IF YOU HAVE MADE A PRIOR ENGAGEMENT AND ALL CHECKED YOUR DIARIES AND CONFIRMED. DO NOT CANCEL LESS THAN 48 HRS BEFORE, BECAUSE YOU GOT A BETTER OFFER. OTHER PEOPLE HAVE ARRANGED THEIR LIFE AND TURNED DOWN OTHER INVITATIONS /WORK TO BE THERE FOR YOU. HONOUR IT. I HAVE STILL MADE A CONFIRMED ENGAGEMENT AFTER UNEXPECTED MAJOR SURGERY BECAUSE I GENUINELY VALUE OTHER PEOPLES TIME AS MUCH AS MY OWN.
  • ACCEPT INVITATIONS PROMPTLY. IF YOU ARE LUCKY TO RECEIVE AN INVITATION FOR YOUR COMPANY REPLY WITHIN 48 HOURS DONT KEEP THEM WAITING. STICK TO IT (SEE ABOVE)
  • RESPECT SERVICE STAFF. MANY PEOPLE TODAY TREAT WAITERS,SHOP STAFF,SWITCHBOARD STAFF INVISIBLY. IF THEY ARE WEARING NAME BADGES OR HAVE TOLD YOU THEIR NAME, USE IT. REMEMBER YOUR PLEASE AND THANK YOUS. THEY ARE HUMAN TOO AND WE ALL WANT THE SAME BASIC THINGS IN LIFE. JUST BECAUSE THEY ARE SERVING YOU IT DOES NOT MAKE THEM LESSER THAN YOU. LETS MAKE THEIR JOBS EASIER AND MAKE THEIR DAY PLEASANT TOO. (UNLESS OF COURSE THE SERVICE IS BAD)
  • MOBILE PHONES, PUT IT AWAY. PLEASE DONT SIT OPPOSITE ME TEXTING MIDST CONVERSATION. ENJOY SOME HUMAN INTERACTION. EVEN WORSE ARE THE PEOPLE THAT WALK DOWN A STREET TEXTING AND BUMPING INTO YOU AND WALKING IN FRONT OF CARS ( NOW IM BOILING OVER!!) IF THIS IS YOU PLEASE STOP ! TODAY! LIVE IN THE PRESENT. ENGAGE WITH THE WORLD #LOOKUP I ALSO DONT WANT TO LISTEN TO YOUR PRIVATE CONVERSATIONS IN PUBLIC PLACES. TALK QUIETLY OR LEAVE THE AREA.
  • RESPECT YOUR NEIGHBOURS. MOST OF US HAVE NEIGHBOURS AND WE ALL WANT A HARMONIOUS ENVIRONMENT TO LIVE IN. SO KEEP THE NOISE TO A MINIMUM WHETHER ITS MUSIC, CHILDREN, DOGS OR ARGUING WITH A PARTNER. SO SHOW RESPECT TO OTHER PEOPLE THAT YOU ARE SHARING AN AREA WITH. ALSO ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR NEIGHBOURS SMILE,WAVE,SAY HELLO. OTHER THAN THAT KEEP THEM AT ARMS LENGTH DISPUTES AND ARGUMENTS WITH NEIGHBOURS CAN ESCALATE QUICKLY AND CAN RUIN YOUR HOME LIFE.
  • KEEP YOUR PRIVATE HABITS PRIVATE. WHAT YOU DO IN YOUR OWN HOME IS YOUR BUSINESS BUT DONT BE SURPRISED IF OTHER PEOPLE GET UPSET WHEN YOU BRING UNACCEPTABLE HABITS INTO THE PUBLIC ARENA. ADAPT YOUR BEHAVIOUR TO SUIT THE SITUATION AND HOPEFULLY WE CAN ALL LIVE IN HARMONY.
  • FINAL NOTE…….. WHEN OFFENDED BY BAD MANNERS KILL THEM WITH KINDNESS RATHER THAN OFFENDING WHILE POINTNG OUT THEIR INCREDIBLY SELFISH SELF ABSORBED WORLD OF INCONSIDERATION.

IT WOULD BE LOVELY TO LIVE IN A WORLD OF POLITENESS AND CONSIDERATION TO OTHERS AND AVOIDING POTENTIAL CONFRONTATIONS. I AM PASSIONATE ABOUT MANNERS SO LET US WORK TOGETHER TO MAKE OUR SPACE A HAPPIER PLACE TO LIVE IN.

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: MANNERS COST NOTHING , TAKE NO TIME AND NO EFFORT SO LETS GET PRACTISING !

MWAH MWAH

JOJO XXXXXX

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A LITTLE MID WEEK PICK YOU UP TO RESTORE STABILITY AND BALANCE IN YOUR VERY HECTIC SCHEDULE PARTICULARLY AT THIS TIME OF YEAR X

DISCOVERING SILENCE

NOW THIS SEEMS A PECULIAR HEADING BUT MANY PEOPLE HAVE NO MINDFUL SILENCE IN THEIR LIVES WHATSOEVER. DURING THE HOLIDAY SEASON IT BECOMES EVEN MORE NECESSARY TO FIND TIME TO YOURSELF TO FOCUS ON YOU. THE CHAOS, THE CROWDS THE TO DO LISTS IN THE RUN UP TO CHRISTMAS. ON THE ACTUAL DAY THE DEMANDS CAN BE ENORMOUS BOTH PHYSICAL AND MENTAL. EVEN IF YOU ARE ENTERTAINING DURING THIS PERIOD IT IS IMPERATIVE TO TAKE EVEN 20 MINUTES ALONE TIME. YOU WILL RETURN TO THE FOLD REFRESHED AND APPRECIATIVE READY TO SAVIOUR THE PLEASURES OF CHRISTMAS.

NOW BY THIS TIME YOU KNOW HOW MUCH I LOVE MEDITATION. THE BENEFITS ARE ENORMOUS FROM 5 MINUTES TO A WHOLE HOUR ON A DAILY BASIS. BUT THERE ARE STILL BENEFITS TO JUST ENJOYING ALONE PEACEFUL TIME IF YOU DONT FEEL LIKE MEDITATING. THIS IS CRUCIAL. YOU ARE IMPORTANT.

HOW TO DATE YOURSELF

  • MAKE A DATE WITH YOURSELF IN THE DIARY EVEN IF ITS ONLY 30 MINUTES DAILY. DO IT AT THE BEGINNING OF THE WEEK AND FIT YOUR SCHEDULE AROUND THIS
  • JUST ENJOY SILENCE. LIE IN A COMFORTABLE POSITION WITH NOTHING ON…..I MEAN NOISE. BUT THAT WORKS TOO !!
  • GO FOR A WALK….ALONE
  • A LONG LUXURIOUS BUBBLE BATH WITH CANDLES
  • A 30 MINUTE FACE MASK WITH LEGS PROPPED HIGH ON CUSHIONS.
  • A MEDITATION EVEN USE THE 5 MINUTE MEDITATION ON THIS BLOG THAT I CATALOGUED. OR A GUIDED MEDITATION ON LINE.
  • STARE OUT OF THE WINDOW LOOKING AT CLOUDS MOVING AND THE WONDROUS SHAPES. THE WILDLIFE BIRDS AND SQUIRRELS GOING ABOUT THEIR BUSINESS. THE COLOURS OF THE LANDSCAPE. THE WEATHER, MARVEL AT THE RAINDROPS, THE SHAPE OF SNOWFLAKES, THE WARMTH OF THE SUN.

THESE ARE JUST A FEW IDEAS, I AM SURE YOU HAVE MANY OF YOUR OWN. THE IMPORTANT THING HERE IS TO HAVE COMPLETE SILENCE AND LET YOUR MIND GO INTO FREE FALL.

MERRY CHRISTMAS BUT DONT FORGET TO FIND TIME FOR YOURSELF DURING THE BUSY PERIOD IT WILL MAKE ALL THE DIFFERENCE TO YOUR MENTAL STABILITY AND ENJOYMENT OF THIS MOST WONDERFUL TIME OF THE YEAR.

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: MAKE THIS A ROUTINE NOT A ONE TIME TREAT IT WILL MAKE YOU A CALMER, HAPPIER , NICER PERSON TO BE AROUND THE MORE YOU PRACTISE IT.

MWAH MWAH JOJO XXXXXXX

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Positive inspiration and life lessons for a healthy, happy you ! Be your best self !


QUIT COMPLAINING !

We probably all find something or someone to complain about every single day. Every time we complain it sows some negativity seeds within us. Even when it is deserved and we feel it is empowering us it is exhausting to complain. So let us try to avoid it this week or even just for today. One day at a time ……maybe?

So, today when you feel tempted to complain about the weather, a friend, politics your aches and pains. STOP. Instead of giving in to moaning or getting irritated let it pass. See what it does for your mind and spirit to let it go without comment. Also the people around you benefit too !

JOJOs STYLELIST TIP: Positivity breeds popularity.

JOJO xxxxxx