YOUR WEEKLY DOSE OF ALL THINGS POSITIVE. INSPIRATION, THOUGHTS AND TIPS TO KEEP YOU UPLIFTED. COSY FAMILIARITY IN AN UNCERTAIN WORLD.
IF YOU ARE YEARNING A RETURN TO SOME NORMALITY THEN……….
BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE
2020 WAS A YEAR YOU WERE PROVIDED AN OPPORTUNITY T O REFLECT ON YOUR LIFE AND CHOOSE OR INSTIGATE SOME OVERDUE CHANGES IN YOUR LIFE. YOU HAVE DECIDED WHAT YOU VALUE AND WHAT YOUR VALUES ARE. HOPEFULLY YOU ARE NOW IN A PERIOD AS WE ENTER AN NEW YEAR WITH NEW BEGINNINGS EVOLVING AS A NEW PERSON WITH NEW HOPES AND DREAMS. LIKE A BUTTERFLY FROM A CHRYSALIS.
IF YOU FEEL YOU ARE NOT THERE YET OR ARE STILL PROCESSING THE HUGE CHANGE 2020 MADE TO OUR LIVES THEN SPEND A COUPLE OF COSY HOURS REALLY REFLECTING ON WHAT CHANGES YOU CAN MAKE FOR A BETTER LIFE AND A BETTER WORLD. SET YOUR GOALS IN CONCRETE BY WRITING THEM DOWN IN A BEAUTIFUL JOURNAL AND A BRIGHTLY COLOURED PEN , CANARY GREEN OR PILLAR BOX RED. (MAYBE YOU WILL GET ONE FOR CHRISTMAS). JUST BY WRITING YOUR GOALS DOWN CAN UPLIFT YOU AND BRING POSITIVITY INTO YOUR WORLD.
FOR MANY THE LOCKDOWNS OF 2020 HAVE BEEN A BLESSING SOMETHING THOSE WITH BUSY LIVES HAVE NEVER EXPERIENCED…..TIME TO THINK. BUT I DO KNOW THAT FOR MANY OF YOU HAS PROVED TO BE A DIFFICULT AND TRAUMATIC TIME. BUT THIS SIMPLE EXERCISE WORKS WELL FOR ALL OF US. COVID 19 HAS MADE US REALISE HOW PRECIOUS LIFE IS.
MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL MY READERS. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR CONTINUING YOUR SUPPORT IN 2020 AND I HOPE I HAVE PROVIDED YOU WITH SUPPORT AND COMFORT THROUGHOUT THE YEAR.
VIRTUAL HUGS XX
JOJOS STYLELIST TIP:TRAINING YOUR NEURAL PATHWAYS IN YOUR BRAIN IS VITALLY IMPORTANT TO MENTAL HEALTH. STAY POSITIVE NOT COVID POSITIVE !!!!CHANGE YOURSELF TO CHANGE THE WORLD.
I have decided to break up from a 15 year relationship ……..with my hairdresser . Many service providers will be judged on how they treated us during this pandemic. It is evident that there are some Companies who are capitalising on the Covid experience but when it happens with those you have developed a close personal relationship with it is felt more deeply.
Talking to women everywhere the major anticipation of the big 6th July reopening of hair salons ending months of hair hell has resulted in varying experiences . So this is not directed at ALL hair salons but many of you have been victim to greedy hairdressers at this time.
Firstly let me set the scene this is someone who I have supported since she was a junior at a leading hair salon and when she set up her own salon 15 years ago persuaded me to leave with her and support her in the venture. A bi monthly visit for 15 years for highlights plus bringing many new clients with me constitutes major support.
Late 2019 my colourist moved up one level but the prices moved up several levels to almost double. But my loyalty continued. Early 2020 the salon decided they would no longer offer a “finished blowdry” unless you pay another £15. meaning the price rise in 5 months was now 150% . I decided to continue with the “rough dry” which meant i was leaving the salon looking worse than when I went in. Illogical , I know but…….my loyalty continued. All though on occasion I took my own tools in to blow dry my own hair if I had a meeting to attend immediately after. Why pay when I blow dry my own hair better than a junior.
Then the pandemic hit…………..
Many of us were thrown into mass panic not because there was a killer virus on the loose but who would tend to our tresses! Given strict instructions from our hairdressers not to colour our own hair under any circumstances. Of course knowing full well that we would all be clambouring for their services upon their return.
Sure enough 6th July was upon us the pandemonium was in full swing. Despite leaving several messages at the salon for appointments I eventually got an appointment 3 weeks later. It was at this point I realised customer care had gone out of the window and loyal long term customers were not to be rewarded and new customers scrambling around for salons anywhere to help were given priority. FIRST MISTAKE.
Contextually hair salons have had 80% of their wage bills paid , their rent deferred and no outlay on products during this period. On top of this a huge backlog of business building up which means they will be doing way over and above their normal numbers for this trading period. Unlike other businesses this is seen as a neccessity for most women and will not be as affected as other business and could potentially do very well and certainly bounce back in the first 6 months of reopening.
On the day obviously no tea and coffee served but no water either. Although I can go to any high street cafe and get one ? No water either ? Now i understand that coffee can be served in paper cups and bottle of of water could have been made available as in most repiutable salons who value their customers did. After all over 3 hours without refreshments IS a long time for any caffeine addict and of course no magazines to distract me either. SECOND MISTAKE.
But once the foils were in I ventured out to the high street scaring all the locals as if I was a space alien descended from another planet. After walking around for a good half an hour no available coffee anywhere and the local petrol station had decided to clean their machine at 3pm in the afternoon ! No decent glossy magazine shops either. So I settle for a bottle of water and a “Best” magazine.
I arrive back to the salon deeply humiliated and demonstrating caffeine withdrawal symptoms.. Then I am hit with the biggest BLOW of all, there will be no blow drying of hair due to “regulations” although everyone I spoke to during the writing of this article managed to get a blow dry ! Which of course meant I would have to leave with my hair dripping wet ! Please any hairdressers reading this HOW CAN YOU CHECK COLOUR WITHOUT DRYING IT ? My hair would be dry after my long drive home meaning I would have to wash it again in order to blow dry again. THIRD MISTAKE.
Obviously I cannot do anything about the salon owners interpretation of the “rules” so they got her on the phone ( yes she was at home with her feet up relaxing while making all this money) but I addressed with her that it may be a little unreasonable to expect clients to pay full price for half the service and perhaps a little adjustment was neccessary it was then that she informed me that she had in fact ” had to put up her prices due to Covid” and “im a business woman here to make money where I can” FOURTH MISTAKE
So with hair dripping wet, colour unchecked, caffeine starved and handing over the worst £100 I have ever spent was then politely told by the receptionist “oh……sorry love but you have to pay £3 for PPE” “but I brought my own mask” I replied . “Don’t matter love, it applies to everyone” she quipped back. FIFTH MISTAKE Witholding my normal generous tip I walked out of the door vowing after 15 years never to return.
Note not just to my hair salon but to hair salons everywhere your clients are not the virus, they are also victims of the crisis just as you are with their own financial problems. Now is the time to build loyalty and compassion not crush. I will urge any customers not treated correctly during this fraught time by ANY business PLEASE walk with your feet straight to another business that cares I am sure during this time there are many that will welcome you in. The businesses that will survive now will be the ones that cosset their customers not squeeze them dry.
FINAL NOTE TO MY HAIRDRESSER……..YOU WILL COME A CROPPER (EXCUSE THE PUN) AND YOUR CUSTOMERS WILL WASH (OH NO ANOTHER ONE)THEIR HANDS OF YOU. BUT THIS COVID CONNING NEEDS TO BE HIGHLIGHTED (LAST ONE I PROMISE!)AS IT SEEMS TO BE HAPPENING TO A LOT OF YOU.
JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: IT IS HARD TO BREAK UP A CLOSE DEPENDABLE RELATIONSHIP BUT IF YOU ARE BEING ABUSED WALK AWAY AND FIND SOMEONE WHO REALLY APPRECIATES YOUR WORTH.
THOUGHTS,TASKS AND INSPIRATION TO LIFT YOUR SPIRITS TO GET YOU THROUGH TO THE END OF THE WEEK. OUR MIDWEEK MANTRAS HAVE BEEN GOING FOR SOME TIME NOW BUT DURING THIS TIME OF CRISIS HOPEFULLY THEY CAN GIVE YOU SOME REASSURANCE AND AN INJECTION OF STRENGTH.
SMILE BEHIND THE MASK
OUR SPIRITS CAN BE SIMPLY LIFTED AND WE CAN GAI MUCH REASSURANCE FROM A LOVELY SMILE FROM A FRIEND OR SOMETIMES MORE POIGNANTLY FROM A STRANGER WHO WE ARE SIMPLY PASSING IN THE STREET. BUT TODAY WE ARE BEING SUPER SAFE AND WEARING OUR MASKS WHEN WE ARE OUT AND ABOUT. THIS IMMEDIATELY REMOVES A LARGE PART OF OUR NON VERBAL COMMUNICATION AS WE PASS ONE ANOTHER IN THE STREET. YOU CAN STILL. OF COURSE SMILE WITH YOUR EYES !
MANY PEOPLE ARE GOING THROUGH MAJOR CRISIS AS A RESULT OF THE COVID 19 PANDEMIC AND MENTAL HEALTH PROBLEMS ARE INCREASING. SO PLEASE BE KIND WHEN YOU ARE OUT AND ABOUT , AND WHERE YOU ARE NOT REQUIRED TO WEAR MASKS IN EATERIES AND THE STREETS BE SURE TO FLASH A SMILE AT PEOPLE THIS IS SUCH A POWERFUL YET SIMPLE ACTION THAT CAN MAKE A WORLD OF DIFFERENCE TO SOMEONES DAY. IT PROBABLY HAS NEVER BEEN MORE IMPORTANT FOR US TO CONNECT NON VERBALLY AT THE MOMENT AS WE BATTLE THIS CRISIS TOGETHER.
SO TODAY MAKE SOMEONE FEEL WARM INSIDE AND GIVE THEM YOUR BEST SMILE THIS CAN BE DONE FROM A SAFE DISTANCE. I BET YOU GET ONE BACK !
JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: SOMETHING YOU CAN SPREAD WHICH IS HIGHLY CONTAGIOUS……………..YOUR SMILE !
A WEEKLY DOSE OF INSPIRATION, POSITIVITY AND STRENGTH TO GET YOU THROUGH TO THE END OF THE WEEK.
SHIFT HAPPENS !
THE LAST FEW MONTHS HAS BEEN A TENSE TIME FOR MANY OF US. OUR NORMAL LIVES HAVE BEEN DISRUPTED AND MAY NEVER GO BACK TO BEING THE SAME AGAIN, BUT INTERESTINGLY I HAVE NOTICED THAT PEOPLE ARE TREATING EACH OTHER WITH FAR MORE CONSIDERATION. BUT AS THE LOCKDOWN EASES THERE WILL BE MORE CONSTRAINTS AND PRESSURES PUT UPON US AND WE MAY NOT BE ABLE TO RESUME OUR LIVES PRIOR TO MARCH 2020. SO LET US CONTINUE OUR CARING TOWARDS OTHERS AS WE ARE BROUGHT TOGETHER IN TROUBLED TIMES TOWARDS OUR COMMON GOAL.
SO THIS WEEK THE MANTRA I WOULD LIKE YOU ALL TO FOCUS ON IS BY THE AMERICAN POET MAYA ANGELOU.
“TRY TO BE A RAINBOW IN SOMEONE ELSES CLOUD”
FOCUS ON THIS MANTRA AND REPEAT IT SEVERAL TIMES AT THE BEGINNING OF EACH DAY TO SHIFT OUR OLD PATTERNS OF THINKING. TO MAKE A RAINBOW YOU HAVE TO ADD LIGHT INTO THEIR WORLD. THINK HOW YOU CAN DO THAT FOR PEOPLE YOU KNOW AND FOR PEOPLE YOU MEET NOW……EVEN 2 METRES APART IN THE QUEUE AT THE SUPERMARKET. EVEN IF IT IS A NOD , A SMILE, ANY GESTURE TO LET THEM KNOW YOU ‘SEE THEM AND FEEL THEM AS ANOTHER HUMAN’
REMEMBER IF YOU GENERATE FEELINGS OF PESSIMISM, ANGER AND HOSTILITY YOU ARE CERTAINLY NOT GOING TO GET LOVE AND LAUGHTER IN RETURN.
FIND YOU OWN LIGHT AND RADIATE IT . IT IS A SUPERPOWER . IMAGINE LIGHTING UP OTHER PEOPLES LIVES WHO MAYBE IN THE DARK RIGHT NOW.
JOJOS STYLIST TIP: WOW CAN YOU IMAGINE IF WE ALL DID THIS COLLECTIVELY. IN THE WORDS OF LOUIS ARMSTRONG I WOULD “THINK TO MYSELF WHAT A WONDERFUL WORLD”. SO PASS THIS MESSAGE ON LETS DO THIS TOGETHER AND MAKE A DIFFERENCE. STARTING TODAY !