MIDWEEK MANTRA : RESOLUTION RETOX

YOUR WEEKLY DOSE OF INSPIRATION, TASKS AND POSITIVITY TO GET YOU THROUGH THE REST OF THE WEEK. JOIN US EVERY WEDNESDAY FOR A WEEKLY FOCUS TO MENTALLY UPLIFT YOU.

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OKAY READERS……LETS BE HONEST……..REALLY HONEST HOW MANY OF YOU ARE STILL KEEPING TO THOSE RESOLUTIONS THAT YOU SET YOURSELF ON DEC 31ST ? IT IS AROUND THIS TIME WE DECIDE TO DUMP THOSE GOOD INTENTIONS AND CREEP BACK TO THEIR NAUGHTY HABITS. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. SO RATHER THAN SET YOURSELF RESTRICTIVE GOALS AND THEN FEEL LIKE A FAILURE AND BECOME DOWN ABOUT YOURSELF LET ME SHARE AN IDEA WITH YOU.

I PREFER TO SET MYSELF A MANTRA , ONE SENTENCE OF FOCUS TO IMPROVE MY LIFE AND MY SOUL. CHANT THIS MANTRA EVERY MORNING IN THE SHOWER. IT ALMOST BECOMES A MANIFESTATION WHEN YOU CONCENTRATE THE MIND.

SO TODAY PICK A MANTRA FOR 2022….MINE IS “PUSH THE ENVELOPE” AS I WANT TO PUSH MYSELF OUT OF MY COMFORT ZONE AND EMBRACE THE DIFFERENT AND ADVENTUROUS. 2021 MANTRA WAS “BUILD MORE PLEASURE INTO EVERY DAY.” SO YOU GET THE IDEA.

MANTRA BUILD MORE POSITIVITY AND HAPPINESS WHEREAS RESOLUTIONS CONCENTRATE ON NEGATIVITY AND HARDSHIP.

WRITE YOUR PERSONAL MANTRA IN YOUR GRATITUDE JOURNAL TODAY . REMEMBER EVERYTHING IS MORE POWERFUL WRITTEN DOWN.

MWAH MWAH. XXX

JOJO. XXX

JJOJOS STYLELIST TIP:WHO WANTS TO BE ON THE WAGON WHEN YOU COULD BE DRIVING A FERRARI

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MIDWEEK MANTRA: HOW TO RECLAIM YOUR TIME

TIPS AND TASKS TO MAKE YOUR LIFE A LITTLE EASIER AND MORE BEAUTIFUL TO HELP GET YOU THROUGH TO THE END OF THE WEEK.

FEELING STRESSED AND EXHAUSTED ? FEEL LIKE YOUR CHASING THE CLOCK EVERY DAY. WELL TODAY I HAVE A SIMPLE TASK . LOOK AT WHAT YOU CAN DELEGATE. AT WORK MAKE A LIST OF TASKS THAT DO NOT NEED TO BE DONE BY YOU, OR INDEED AT ALL. SEE WHAT YOU CAN DELEGATE TO OTHER PEOPLE IN YOUR TEAM SOME OF THEM MAY LIKE THE ADDITIONAL RESPONSIBILITY AND BE FLATTERED THAT YOU TRUST THEM.

THEN LOOK AT ALL THE CHORES YOU DO AT HOME. SHARE THE TASKS TO YOUR PARTNER , YOUR CHILDREN,ETC. IT REALLY IS QUITE CHEAP TO BUY HELP TO FREE UP YOUR TIME. MAYBE OUTSIDE HELP FOR THE IRONING OR WASHING THE CAR PERHAPS. A CLEANER JUST A COUPLE OF HOURS A WEEK.

IT IS YOUR TIME AND YOUR LIST. BUT IT IS TIME TODAY TO TAKE A LONG HARD LOOK AT HOW YOU CAN MAKE YOUR LIFE EASIER. THINK OF THE WONDERFUL THINGS YOU CAN DO FOR YOU AND YOUR LOVED ONES WITH MORE TIME.

DO IT TODAY !

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: MAKE YOUR LIFE MORE BEAUTIFUL TODAY BY REORGANISING YOUR LIFE TO MAKE YOU LESS STRESSED. LIFE IS SHORT ENJOY IT. MAKE TIME TODAY.

MWAH MWAH XXXX

JOJO

MIDWEEK MANTRA : THE KEY TO BETTER RELATIONSHIPS

YOUR WEEKLY WEDNESDAY CLUB OF TASKS,THOUGHTS OR JUST INSPIRATION TO KEEP YOU POSITIVE AND UPLIFTED AND CHASE THOSE WINTER BLUES AWAY.

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HAPPY NEW YEAR TO ALL! WE ARE HERE TO MAKE IT YOUR BEST ONE YET !!!

JUST FOLLOW OUR GUIDANCE AND TOOLS IN OUR WEEKLY MIDWEEK MANTRA AND WE GUARANTEE YOU THAT YOU WILL FEEL HAPPIER AND MORE AT PEACE WITH YOURSELF.

RELATIONSHIPS ARE A KEY PART TO YOUR HAPPINESS. SO IT IS IMPORTANT TO NURTURE THE RELATIONSHIPS AROUND US.

HOW OFTEN DO WE BLAME THE OTHER PERSON WHEN THINGS GO WRONG IN A RELATIONSHIP. ALL UNHAPPY ALLIANCES ARE BASED ON EXPECTATION INSTEAD OF INVESTMENT. EACH PARTNER IS LOOKING FOR THE OTHER TO FILL THEIR NEEDS.

IF YOU WANT TO BE PART OF A HEALTHY, LOVING PARTNERSHIP BECOME A CREATOR INSTEAD OF A RECEIVER. FOCUS MORE ON WHAT YOU GIVE RATHER THAN WHAT YOU EXPECT TO GAIN. BY DOIND SO YOU CAN BECOME THE CAUSE OF YOUR OWN HAPPINESS.

SO THIS WEEK THINK ABOUT WAYS THAT YOU CAN DO MORE, BE MORE SUPPORTIVE AND SHOW MORE APPRECIATION TO YOUR PARTNER. HERE ARE SOME IDEAS

*LISTEN AND ENGAGE WHEN YOUR PARTNER IS TELLING YOU ABOUT THEIR WORK DAY.

*WRITE A BEAUTIFUL CARD TO THEM.

*RUN THEM A BUBBLE BATH AND FIX THEM A DRINK, LIGHT SOME CANDLES.

*LET THEM WATCH THE FOOTBALL WHEN YOU REALLY WANT TO WATCH A GIRLY FILM ON ANOTHER CHANNEL.

*TELL THEM YOU UNDERSTAND THEIR POINT OF VIEW IN AN ARGUMENT. WINNING IS NO LONGER IMPORTANT.

I AM SURE YOU CAN THINK OF MANY OTHER THINGS AS YOU KNOW YOUR PARTNER AS AN INDIVIDUAL. BUT NOW IS THE TIME TO STOP, AND TREAT THEM LIKE ONE.

YOU WILL BE AMAZED AT HOW THIS INVESTMENT BRINGS REWARDS AND AT HOW HARMONIOUS YOUR RELATIONSHIPS BECOME. TRY IT. THE APPRECIATION WILL BE RECIPROCATED.

MWAH MWAH

JOJO XXX

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: DON’T JUST DO THIS EXERCISE WITH YOUR ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS BUT WITH FAMILY, FRIENDSHIPS AND WORK COLLEAGUES IT WORKS A TREAT IN RAISING THAT HAPPINESS QUOTA.

LIFESTYLE: HOW TO BE HAPPY IN 2022

HAPPY NEW YEAR !

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Let It Go !

Whoever said “money can’t but happiness “is shopping in all the wrong places !!! Polls havre shown that wealthier people generally are in fact happier. What else do people THINK makes them happier sex ? friendships/? holidays? health ? It is true that these factors can influence how happy someone is. But when Psychologists study happiness they usually find it is a STATE OF MIND. A person with nothing or who has had a series of disappointments can be happier than someone who has it all. So how do we alter someones state of mind ?

I came across an old study carried out by Dr N M Bradburn it concentrated on the positive and negative effect and why people were predisposed to be one or the other. He concluded it was partly due to their circumstances in life but mostly down to their personality.

Extroverts were far more likely to be optimistic while introverts demonstrated far more negativity . Therefore we have to “develop a talent for happiness”. Many programmes exist to increase extroversion and reduce neuroticism. Also in the eighties and linked into this study was Dr Michael Fordyce a pioneer of happiness studies produced his own set of fundamentals, a programme of changes that can increase your happiness levels . These 14 points can push your personality into a more extrovert direction. This programme has considerable success right up to today. So I wanted to share the 14 exercises with you today because you must value your happiness but pursue it actively and constantly

1.Be more active and keep busy.Happy people get more out of life because they put more into it. Engage in a wider range of activities that you enjoy

2.Be productive at meaningful work.Happy people find meaning and purpose in the most mundane task. They are purposeful, productive and get things done.Set goals and objectives.

3.Get better organised and plan. Happy people are more organised. Make lists, accomplish and feel a sense of achievement.

4.Spend more time socialising. Happy people cultivate a social network and large groups of friends. When times are tough they seek out people rather than cut people off.

5.Develop an outgoing social and healthy personality. Happy people have a positive view of themselves and their abilities. They accept their own frailities and failures without dwelling on them or letting them get in the way. Accept and know how to take care of yourself. Embrace activities that play to your strengths and build your confidence. Happy people smile more, good humour is contagious so only hang out with other happy people. Join a club or activity that you enjoy so you can meet new people.

6.Close relationships are the number one source of happiness. Happy people are responsive and nurturing to the needs and hopes of those they love and value. Equally recognise a close relationship that no longer makes you happy.

7.Stop worrying. Worrying makes us feel bad. Happy people waste less time with it distracting themselves with something more enjoyable instead. Write down what you worry about for a week then in a month or so review your worry diary its my bet that most was needless worrying and most things went away or did not come to fruition.

8.Lower your expectations and aspirations. I know right ! Tricky one this of course you must set goals and standards but don’t set the bar too high or you will be constantly disappointed. Happy people don’t compare themselves to others.

9Get present orientated. Live for today. People who live in the past are depressed , those that live in the future are anxious. By living in the present is the only way to be truly happy. Focus on now.

10.Develop positive, optimistic thinking. Gratitude diaries are very effect for this. write down 3 things every day that you are truly grateful for. Happy people are definitely more optimistic seeing the glass half full and not half empty. Next time you note that you are being negative turn it upside down to look at the positives in the situation. Leave “thought check” post it notes around the house so when you catch site of one check your thinking if you are thinking negative thoughts turn them into positive ones. This is a great drill in developing positive thinking and training yourself. I always extract the positives from every problematic situation. Surround yourself with radiators never drains.

11. Eliminate negative feelings and problems. Happy people enjoy looking for solutions to problems rather than dwelling on them so don’t allow negative feelings to fester.

12.Be yourself. Happy people tend to come across as authentic and genuine and true to themselves. They are comfortable with who they are and communicate it.

13.Don’t bottle things up. Happy people know when and how to ask for help if they need it. Bring problems into the open bottling things up is a recipe for poor mental health.

14. Value your happiness. Happy people work at being happy. They do things that make them happy , hang out with the people that make them happy. Happiness is a priority and they recognise when they are not.

So try this for yourself. Fordyce proved over many years that you can actually help yourself a great deal. To a large extent happiness is up to you. Material factors are important in your life but how you choose to think about them is more important still. Whether you are balanced towards a negative or positive outlook largely depends on your personality, but your outlook can be definitely changed. Fordyce has shown over many years that happiness is something you have to work at , it is certainly not something that happens while you are looking the other way. Happiness ‘drills’ need to be practised on a regular basis.

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Make Yourself Happy

MWAH MWAH XXXXX

JOJO X

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP:HAPPINESS MUST BE PURSUED ACTIVELY AND CONSTANTLY. DISPEL THE MYTH THAT HAPPINESS ONLY ARRIVES WHEN YOU ARE BUSY DOING SOMETHING ELSE !!

MIDWEEK MANTRA

POSITIVE THOUGHTS AND MENTAL EXERCISES TO REFRESH THE MIND AND LIFT YOUR SPIRITS DURING THE MID WEEK SLUMP.

A NICE SIMPLE ONE THIS WEEK AS OUR THOUGHTS ARE BUSY WITH CHRISTMAS PREPARATIONS, THREE DEEP BREATHS AND FOCUS ON THESE FOUR WORDS……….

LISTEN. ACKNOWLEDGE. WITHOUT JUDGEMENT.

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: IT IS AMAZING HOW PEACEFUL AND REWARDING YOUR RELATIONSHIPS, FRIENDSHIPS OR EVEN PEOPLE YOU DO NOT KNOW TOO WELL, BECOME.

JOJO XXXXXXXXX

MIDWEEK MANTRA : BE KIND

YOUR WEEKLY CLUB OF POSITIVITY , MANTRAS AND TASKS TO UPLIFT YOU MENTALLY AND STIMULATE YOUR SENSES TO GET YOU THROUGH THE WEEK ON A PINK FLUFFY CLOUD .

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#BEKIND SEEMS TO BE EVERYWHERE RIGHT NOW. ON SOCIAL MEDIA, TV AND EVEN TEE SHIRTS. IT IS EASY FOR THIS PHRASE TO GET LOST IN OUR PSYCHE AS IT CAN BECOME BACKGROUND NOISE IN A BUSY WORLD.

SO TODAY ,LET US GIVE THIS SIMPLE TW WORD PHRASE SOME REAL THOUGHT.

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ARE WE BEING KIND ? ON LINE , IN DAY TO DAY INTERACTIONS WITH WAITERS, RETAILERS, CALL CENTRES ……. AND YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILIES.

WHAT DOES KIND MEAN ?

ARE WE BEING KIND TO GET SOMETHING BACK ?

AFTER YOU HAVE GIVEN THIS SOME REAL THOUGHT IT IS TIME TO START A CHAIN REACTION.

YOUR MANTRA:

“TODAY I AM GOING TO TREAT EVERYONE I MEET WITH KINDNESS AND CONSIDERATION’

YOU WILL BRIGHTEN SOMEONES DAY AND CHEER THEM UP AND THIS IN TURN WILL INSPIRE THEM TO BE KIND TO SOMEONE ELSE AND SO ON AND ON. EVENTUALLY HUNDRED AND THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE WILL BE AFFECTED BY KINDNESS. A HUGE CHAIN REACTION WILL HAVE TAKEN PLACE…….AND YOU WILL HAVE BEEN A PART OF IT !

MWAH MWAH. XX

JOJO X

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: THE THINGS THAT COST NOTHING BRING THE GREATEST REWARDS

MIDWEEK MANTRA : RECHARGE YOUR BATTERIES

YOUR WEEKLY DOSE OF MANTRAS, TASKS AND POSITIVITY TO STRENGTHEN MENTAL HEALTH AND HELP YOU GET THROUGH THE REST OF THE WEEK WITH AN INNER GLOW.

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WHEN YOUR LIGHT STARTS TO DIM OR YOUR INNER GLOW IS LOST. THEN YOU NEED TO REPLACE OR CHARGE YOUR BATTERIES. WHEN SOMEONE YOU KNOW MESSES UP OR FINDS THEMSELVES IN A DARK PLACE YOU MAY NEED TO HELP THEM CHANGE THEIR BATTERIES.

SOME NEED AA : ATTENTION AND AFFECTION

SOME NEED AAA::ATTENTION, AFFECTION AND ACCEPTANCE

SOME NEED C: COMPASSION

SOME NEED D: DIRECTION

SEE IF TODAY, YOU CAN REPLACE SOMEONES BATTERIES SO THEIR TORCH CAN SHINE BRIGHTLY AGAIN JUST BY YOU SHARING YOUR LIGHT WITH THEM CAN BE A SOURCE TO CHANGE SOMEONES LIFE AND GIVE THEM SOME HOPE TO SEE THE FUTURE CLEARLY.

MWAH MWAH XXX

JOJO XX

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: ENSURE YOU KEEP YOUR OWN LIGHT SHINING BRIGHTLY WITH OUR EXPERT TIPS EVERY WEEK TO HELP US SEE THE NEED IN PEOPLE THAT MAY REQUIRE CHARGING. HELPING OTHERS DOES NOT DEPLETE YOUR BATTERIES BUT CHARGES THEM UP AND MAKES YOUR LIGHT STRONGER. YOUR GLOW WILL ATTRACT PEOPLE TO YOU IN THEIR DROVES !

MIDWEEK MANTRA : EARTHING

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YOUR WEEKLY DOSE OF ACTIVITIES, MANTRAS AND POSITIVITY TO MAINTAIN YOUR WELL BEING AND GET YOU THROUGH TO THE END OF THE WEEK IN THE MOST HARMONIOUS WAY.

SO THIS WEEK TEAM, I HAVE A NICE SIMPLE EXERCISE THAT I HOPE WILL BECOME A REGULAR PART OF YOUR ROUTINE. THERE IS MUCH RESEARCH TO SHOW THERE ARE CONSIDERABLE BENEFITS TO GROUND YOURSELF BAREFOOT ON THE GRASS AT ONE WITH NATURE. THIS IS CALLED ‘EARTHING’

ALL YOU NEED TO DO IS FIND A PATCH OF EARTH AND TAKE YOUR SHOES AND SOCKS OFF !

STUDIES HAVE SHOWN THAT EARTHING CAN IMPROVE SLEEP, SPEED HEALING AND REDUCE INFLAMMATION AND CHRONIC PAIN. ANXIETY IS CALMED ALONG WITH FATIGUE. SOME STUDIES EVEN CLAIM IT CAN INCREASE BLOOD FLOW TO THE FACE RESULTING IN AN ANTI AGEING EFFECT ON THE SKIN.

30 MINUTES IS IDEAL SO IF YOU CANNOT STAND STILL THAT LONG THEN GO FOR A BAREFOOT WALK IN THE PARK , BEACH……..YOUR BACK GARDEN.

THE ELECTRONS THAT ARE PRESENT IN THE EARTHS SURFACE CAN BE ABSORBED AND ACT AS ANTI OXIDANTS IN THE BODY

MWAH MWAH

JOJO. XXXX

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: A VERY SIMPLE EXERCISE REQUIRING NO PRACTISE AND NO LEVEL OF FITNESS AND INSTANTLY REAP REAL BENEFITS TO YOUR HEALTH. WHATS NOT TO LIKE ? TRY IT YOU WILL LOVE IT.

MIDWEEK MANTRA : HOW TO FIGHT DISEASE

YOUR REGULAR WEDNESDAY MEET UP TO CHECK IN WITH YOUR MENTAL HEALTH AND OF THOSE AROUND YOU. TASKS, MANTRAS OR JUST PLAIN OLD POSITIVE COMMUNICATION TO LIFT YOUR SPIRITS AND GET YOU THROUGH TO THE END OF THE WEEK.

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Tune In

DISEASE IS A COMBINATION OF :

THE FOOD YOU EAT

THE EXERCISE YOU GET

HOW MUCH SLEEP YOU HAVE

THE THOUGHTS YOU THINK

THE TOXINS YOU ABSORB

THE STRESS YOU EXPERIENCE

THE ANGER YOU KEEP

THE UNFORGIVENESS YOU HOLD

SO THIS WEEK GO THROUGH THIS LIST CAREFULLY AND KEEP IT BY YOUR BED. THEN LOOK AT WHERE YOU CAN MAKE POSITIVE CHANGES IN YOUR LIFE SO YOU CAN “EASE THE DIS”. TRY TO KEEP TO YOUR PLAN FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE SO YOU CAN LIVE A LONG AND HEALTHY LIFE.

MWAH MWAH. XX

JOJO X

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: HOW EXCITING TO DEVELOP A PERSONAL HEALTH PLAN FOR YOURSELF. REMEBER IT IS NOT JUST ABOUT DIET EXERCISE. NO NEED TO GO ON LONG WAITING LISTS OR PAY EXPENSIVE SPECIALISTS TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR OWN HEALTH AFTER ALL, NO ONE KNOWS YOU BETTER THAN YOURSELF.

LIFESTYLE : BIG BOYS CRY TOO !

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I saw this instagram post today which touched me deeply and I wanted to share it with my followers and readers.

Boys get cheated on

Boys get used for sex

Boys get lead on

Boys get hurt

Boys get heartbroken

Boys are self conscious

Boys get bullied

Boys get called fat

Boys get called ugly

Boys get judged

Boys get hit/abused by girls

Boys feel alone

Boys suffer with depression

Boys cry themselves to sleep

Boys self harm

Boys get eating disorders

Boys get suicidal

Boys commit suicide

Boys feel pain.

So while we continue to discuss and empathise with how we are treated as women and the effect on womens mental health especially in the recent light of the tragedies of Sarah Everard and Sabina Nessa and not foRgetting #MeToo campaign. Let us not forget the men in our lives. Our sons. grandsons, brothers, lovers, fathers and our friends. ask them how they are feeling today……….and then ask them again…….How are you REALLY feeling today ?

Look at the list again I am pretty sure they will be feeling at least one of those statements today right now. You will never know until you ask!

So let us not overlook men in the fight against mental health ………they are more likely to be suffering in silence.

MWAH MWAH xxxxx

JOJO. x

JOJOS STYLELIST TIP:TUNE IN WITH YOUR MALE CIRCLE TODAY. REMEMBER AS WOMEN WE ARE GREAT LISTENERS AND GREAT COUNSELLORS. SO AS A WOMAN YOUR INTERVENTION COULD BE INVALUABLE. MEN ARE MORE LIKELY TO OPEN UP TO YOU RATHER THAN THEIR MALE COUNTERPARTS..