When you reach your fifties and beyond you start to realise most of the things you fretted about in your younger years really all work themselves out all by themselves. I thought it would be fun to ask all my friends for a contribution and between us we came up with this list.
It is not the end of the world after a break up in 6 months you will wonder what you saw in him/her almost embarrassed you were actually together. leave with dignity.
The next boyfriend is ALWAYS better than the one before.
The first time someone shows you are…..believe it …..the first time ! people really do not change their essence . If you see something you don’t like heed the early warning signals it wont get better.
A certain amount of alone time is integral to your personal growth. Once you learn to enjoy your own Company and get to know yourself at a young age this will strengthen you for the rest of your life,
Always show appreciation to those that are good to you. Genuine friends are hard to find. Hold onto them. Good manners count for a lot. Turn up on time. Respond immediately to invitations. Listen without judgement. Gifts of appreciation.
People are drains or radiators. Surround yourself with radiators those that radiate positivity. Friends that drain you or you are exhausted or sad after seeing them can really affect your own mental state see them less .
Envy is the scourge of mostly women friendships only cultivate friendships with those younger, prettier and richer than yourself to avoid those who want to bring you down.
Invest more time in your friendships than your boyfriends these friendships will support you throughout life. Don,t ditch your girlfriends when you meet a man you can have both.
Avoid expensive face creams or beauty products they are basically telling you lies and getting you to buy into your securities. Find what works for you.
Wear clothes that suit your style and body shape not because a magazine tells you what you should be wearing.
Never over pluck your eyebrows they do not grow back.
Exercise does not make you smaller- eating less makes you smaller. The gym firms you up but yoga firms both body AND mind.
You were never as fat as you thought you were ! Love your body and appreciates what it does for you.
Start networking at a young age. Advancement has more to do with who you know and not what you know. The importance of building a good network cannot be underestimated. Exams are not everything.
Never work for the money if you are not loving the work. If you do something you love you will never work a day in your life. If it pays less adapt your lifestyle.
Always mentor those that report to you. Be inspirational.
Do not be intimidated in the workplace you are just as smart as they are.
Set life goals as well as work goals. Short, medium and long term …it worked for me. A map for your life journey is essential. Start it in your teens and update and adapt as you travel through life.
Finally…….BE AUTHENTIC ! BE YOU ! BE YOUR BEST SELF !
JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: THIS IS NOT AN EXHAUSTIVE LIST !! BUT HAVE THE CONVERSATION WITH YOUR CHILDREN/GRANDCHILDREN ABOUT WHAT WORKED OR WAS SO UNNECESSARY FOR YOU TO WORRY ABOUT.
Positive and inspirational lessons for a healthy, happy you !
Grab a coffee and sit in a pavement cafe and just watch people walking by and going about life. Everyone has their own stories . Construct their stories in your own head. Their fears, their insecurities, financial difficulties, their strengths, what makes them laugh, when they last cried. are they happy with themselves, with life. Their battles and their victories. Backgrounds and professions.
This can really change the way you look at others and understand we are all pretty much the same and we all want the same things from lives and face similar challenges.
I feel this weeks lesson is very important in the current political climate when we all seem so angry with people that we do not know and we all actually want the same outcome.
Lets be more forgiving .
JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: Kindness and a smile is normally reciprocated.
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DANCE LIKE NO ONES WATCHING
I am a trained Sound Therapist with my own practice. The vibrational power of sound has an unbelievable effect on our health and well being. I am sure we have all experienced the influence of music on our moods. To lift us to relax us , to alter the dopamine in our brains.
Today find some music you love and move to it. This can take the form of energetic dancing to revive your spirits or gentle swaying to relax the body and reduce anxiety.
Be it in the car, on your way to work, in the office or at home ! Turn it up and get moving. Sing out loud too if you want to, although probably not a good idea if you are actually in the office with other people.
What we really need right now is a good sing at the top of our voices. I promise you it will change the way you feel immediately. An instant fix.
Let me know how you get on and what music inspired you the most in this exercise.
POSITIVE THOUGHTS AND INSPIRATION TO GET YOU THROUGH THIS COLD JANUARY WEEK. IM HERE JUST WHEN YOU NEED ME. DONT FORGET THERE ARE MANY MORE MANTRAS ON THIS BLOG TO DIP INTO WHENEVER YOU NEED STRENGTH AND HOPE .
HOW ABOUT A HUG ?
I HEARD AN INTERESTING STATEMENT TODAY. HUGGING RELEASES DOPAMINE AND CAN INCREASE THE MENTAL AND PHYSICAL HEALTH OF THE ‘HUGGER’ AND ‘HUGGEE’ IN A HUGELY POWERFUL WAY. IMAGINE HAVING ALL THAT POWER IN YOUR ARMS TO CHANGE THE LIFE OF SOMEONE (AND YOURSELF) IN SUCH A DRAMATIC WAY………AND SO EASY TO DO ! HUGGING CAN RELIEVE STRESS AND ANXIETY AND BRING DOWN BLOOD PRESSURE. LOWER DEPRESSION AND REDUCE FEELINGS OF LONELINESS.
PLEASE HUG YOUR CHILDREN ON A DAILY BASIS (EVEN HOURLY) IT IS SO IMPORTANT FOR MENTAL AND PHYSICAL HEALTH AS THEY DEVELOP AND IT HELPS TO CREATE A STRONG BOND. A HUGGED CHILD IS A HAPPY CHILD. VERY OFTEN IN THIS TIME VALUABLE OVER STRESSED TIMES AS A PARENT IT IS VERY EASILY OVERLOOKED. MAKE TIME. WHEN A CHILD HAS A TEMPER TANTRUM INSTEAD OF SHOUTING AT THEM JUST HUG THEM AND HOLD THEM CLOSE. IT WORKS , I PROMISE YOU.
SO TODAY I WANT YOU TO HUG AS MANY PEOPLE AS POSSIBLE FOR AT LEAST 20 SECONDS BUT MAKE IT A MEANINGFUL HEARTFELT HUG. A WORD OF WARNING IF YOU ARE HUGGING A STRANGER OR SOMEONE YOU FEEL NEEDS IT BUT YOU DONT KNOW THEM WELL , PLEASE ASK THEIR PERMISSION FIRST. NOTE HOW WELL THIS MAKES YOU FEEL TOO IT IS MUTUALLY BENEFICIAL.
JOJOS STYLIST TIP: EVERYONE FEELS BETTER WITH A HUG ALL HUMANS THRIVE ON TOUCH AND INTIMACY UNLESS OF COURSE YOU ARE JANET STREET PORTER WHO NOTORIOUSLY HATES IT ! BUT HEY LOOK HOW GRUMPY SHE IS ! LOVE YOU THOUGH JANET XX
MIDWEEK INSPIRATION TO BEAT THE JANUARY BLUES. THOUGHTS AND EXERCISES TO GET YOU THROUGH THE WEEK.
DISCOVER YOUR ‘SELF’
I AM CONSTANTLY SURPRISED BY HOW MANY PEOPLE HAVE NOT TAKEN TIME TO GET TO KNOW THEMSELVES. IF I ASK THEM QUESTIONS ABOUT THEIR INNERMOST THOUGHTS THEY DO NOT KNOW THE ANSWERS. MORE SURPRISINGLY EVEN IF I ASK QUITE BASIC QUESTIONS E.G THEIR FAVOURITE FILM OR CHILDHOOD MEMORY MANY HAVE NEVER GIVEN IT A THOUGHT !
SO TODAY THIS IS A TWO PART TASK.
SIT DOWN NAKED IN FRONT OF THE MIRROR AND STUDY YOUR FACE AND BODY (OBVIOUSLY AT HOME ALONE, NOT IN THE OFFICE !) . REALLY FOCUS ON ALL THE THINGS YOU LIKE ABOUT YOUR FACIAL FEATURES, YOUR EYES, LIPS EVEN THE LINES YOU HAVE HAD FUN IN EARNING. PARTS OF YOUR BODY YOU LOVE AND THE MIRACLES THAT OCCUR EVERY DAY WITHIN THAT BODY AND OUR LARGELY NEGLECTED FEET THAT SUPPORT US EVERYDAY. PLEASE KEEP THIS POSITIVE AND LEARN TO APPRECIATE……YOU. MANY PEOPLE HAVE NEVER DONE THIS EXERCISE BECAUSE OF LACK OF YOU TIME OR EMBARRASSMENT BUT LEARN TO BE COMFORTABLE ……WITH YOU !
GRAB A COFFEE OR A GLASS OF WINE AND I WANT YOU TO ANSWER THE FOLLOWING QUESTIONS THERE ARE HUNDREDS THAT YOU SHOULD KNOW BUT HERES A SELECTION TO GET YOU STARTED. ASK THEM TO YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY IT IS AMAZING HOW MANY PEOPLE DONT KNOW THE ANSWERS IMMEDIATELY.
WHAT ARE YOUR GOALS AND DREAMS FOR THIS YEAR?
LIST YOUR BEST QUALITIES?
WHAT IS YOUR FAVOURITE BOOK/FILM?
LIST YOUR TOP FIVE PLACES TO EAT?
THREE WORDS THAT DESCRIBE YOUR PERSONALITY ?
WHAT GIVES YOU PLEASURE AND COMFORT?
WHAT COUNTRY WAS YOUR FAVOURITE VISIT?
HOW WOULD YOU CHANGE YOUR LIFE FOR THE BETTER?
WHAT PERSON/PEOPLE MAKE YOU FEEL SPECIAL?
WHAT EXCITES YOU ?
WHAT IS YOUR FAVOURITE CHRISTMAS SONG ?
WHAT WOULD YOU CHANGE ABOUT YOUR LIFE IF YOU HAD THREE WISHES ?
WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY?
WHAT BRINGS YOU PEACE?
THIS IS SUCH AN INTERESTING EXERCISE AND YOU ALMOST FEEL CLOSER TO YOURSELF. BE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND. GETTING TO KNOW ‘YOU’ IS A GREAT TOOL FOR STRENGTHENING YOUR MENTAL HEALTH FORMING A DEEPER BOND WITH ONESELF.
JOJOS STYLIST TIP: HOW WELL DO YOU KNOW THE PEOPLE CLOSEST TO YOU? SEE IF YOU CAN ANSWER THE QUESTIONS ABOUT THEM. DO THIS WITH THEM SIMULTANEOUSLY THE ANSWERS MAY SURPRISE YOU ? ADD YOUR OWN TO THE LIST?
WELL DONE GUYS. ANOTHER STEP CLOSER TO KEEPING THE HAPPINESS POT TOPPED UP !!
YOUR AFTER CHRISTMAS PICK ME UP TO RESTORE YOUR ENERGY AND REVITALISE YOUR MIND.
NEW YEAR. NEW THINKING. NEW YOU.
As I write this on New Years Eve it is definitely one night of the year I stay in ALONE for a quiet time of reflection and goal setting for the year ahead. Yes another one of my rituals (see my Christmas Rituals post 21st Dec).
People put too much pressure on themselves on New Years Eve to go out too over priced events and convince themselves they are having a good time. It always seem so forced. I inherently dislike being grabbed by strangers for a celebratory kiss as the clock tones twelve, what is it about this night that condones otherwise unacceptable behaviour.
I always value my cosy New Years Eve to do just as I like it is a real personal pleasure for me.
Your task this week is to discover how this year you can do things differently. Forget resolutions that are negative which concentrate on habits you need to give up. Resolutions that you need to work hard at. This year we are going to embrace positive resolutions things you need to ADD to your life to ensure it is more beautiful.
Your 2020 list starts with…. HOW DO I MAKE MY LIFE MORE BEAUTIFUL,STYLISH AND POSITIVE ?
I am planning a blog in January on ways to achieve a more beautiful life. but for now I really want YOU to think about YOUR life and what brings YOU pleasure.
HAPPY NEW YEAR TO ALL MY FOLLOWERS ! XX
JOJOs STYLIST TIP: FIND A QUIET PLACE AND MEDITATE OR DEEPLY RELAX , LIGHT SOME CANDLES REALLY GIVE THIS SOME THOUGHTLET YOUR MIND REALLY GET CARRIED AWAY. 2020 IS YOUR YEAR TO FLY
Positive and uplifting lessons and messages to get you through the rest of the week and restore your mojo.
DISCOVER YOUR INNER CHILD
CAST YOUR MIND BACK TO WHEN YOU WERE A CHILD. WHAT ADULTS CLASS AS ANXIETY CHILDREN WELCOME AS EXCITEMENT. IT IS JUST IN THE PERCEPTION.
SO THIS WEEK CHOOSE A DAY WHEN YOU CAN TURN YOUR TELEPHONE OFF AND REDISCOVER THE THINGS THAT MADE YOU HAPPY AS A CHILD. IT IS TIME TO LAUGH AGAIN AND LOOK AT THE WORLD IN AN INNOCENT WAY TO RE ESTABLISH SOME PERSPECTIVE IN YOUR LIFE.
HERE ARE SOME SUGGESTIONS
HEAD TO THE SEASIDE. EAT CANDYFLOSS. WALK THE PIER. PLAY THE AMUSEMENT ARCADE.
RIDE A ROLLERCOASTER
GO TO THE CINEMA IN THE AFTERNOON AND ORDER POPCORN
COLOUR IN A COLOURING BOOK
JUMP WITH A SKIPPING ROPE
VISIT A ZOO. ENJOY AN ICE CREAM CONE
JUMP IN SOME PUDDLES
GO TO A PETTING FARM. STROKE SOME ANIMALS
WATCH A FAVOURITE CHILDHOOD FILM
MEET A FRIEND FOR KNICKERBOCKER GLORIES AND JUST GIGGLE.
CHALLENGE SOMEONE TO A GAME OF CONKERS
FLY A KITE
MAKE A MEAL YOU ENJOYED AS A CHILD EG FISHFINGER SANDWICHES, INSTANT WHIP
JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: RECONNECT WITH A CHILDHOOD FRIEND AND DO THIS TOGETHER
To keep you going to the end of the week. The feel good shot glass of empowerment.
This week …….
As we grow older we start seeing patterns and deeper spiritual meaning of life. Often we get caught up in the here and now. Many lessons can be learned from the older and wiser. Think how much you, yourself have learned from your own experiences.
So, this week I want you to find an older person to sit down and speak to this could be someone you know but schedule time. Or strike up a conversation with an older person as you go about your daily routine offer to take them for a coffee and a cake. Imagine how special you will make this person feel and that their contribution is valuable. You will also gain valuable life lessons. WIN WIN.
I personally love conversations with the elderly and regularly visit clubs and homes with my sound healing classes. I find their experiences and knowledge absolutely fascinating. TRY IT !!!