Positive and uplifting lessons and messages to get you through the rest of the week and restore your mojo.
DISCOVER YOUR INNER CHILD
CAST YOUR MIND BACK TO WHEN YOU WERE A CHILD. WHAT ADULTS CLASS AS ANXIETY CHILDREN WELCOME AS EXCITEMENT. IT IS JUST IN THE PERCEPTION.
SO THIS WEEK CHOOSE A DAY WHEN YOU CAN TURN YOUR TELEPHONE OFF AND REDISCOVER THE THINGS THAT MADE YOU HAPPY AS A CHILD. IT IS TIME TO LAUGH AGAIN AND LOOK AT THE WORLD IN AN INNOCENT WAY TO RE ESTABLISH SOME PERSPECTIVE IN YOUR LIFE.
HERE ARE SOME SUGGESTIONS
HEAD TO THE SEASIDE. EAT CANDYFLOSS. WALK THE PIER. PLAY THE AMUSEMENT ARCADE.
RIDE A ROLLERCOASTER
GO TO THE CINEMA IN THE AFTERNOON AND ORDER POPCORN
COLOUR IN A COLOURING BOOK
JUMP WITH A SKIPPING ROPE
VISIT A ZOO. ENJOY AN ICE CREAM CONE
JUMP IN SOME PUDDLES
GO TO A PETTING FARM. STROKE SOME ANIMALS
WATCH A FAVOURITE CHILDHOOD FILM
MEET A FRIEND FOR KNICKERBOCKER GLORIES AND JUST GIGGLE.
CHALLENGE SOMEONE TO A GAME OF CONKERS
FLY A KITE
MAKE A MEAL YOU ENJOYED AS A CHILD EG FISHFINGER SANDWICHES, INSTANT WHIP
JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: RECONNECT WITH A CHILDHOOD FRIEND AND DO THIS TOGETHER
When you reach your fifties and beyond you start to realise most of the things you fretted about in your younger years really all work themselves out all by themselves. I thought it would be fun to ask all my friends for a contribution and between us we came up with this list.
It is not the end of the world after a break up in 6 months you will wonder what you saw in him/her almost embarrassed you were actually together. leave with dignity.
The next boyfriend is ALWAYS better than the one before.
The first time someone shows you are…..believe it …..the first time ! people really do not change their essence . If you see something you don’t like heed the early warning signals it wont get better.
A certain amount of alone time is integral to your personal growth. Once you learn to enjoy your own Company and get to know yourself at a young age this will strengthen you for the rest of your life,
Always show appreciation to those that are good to you. Genuine friends are hard to find. Hold onto them. Good manners count for a lot. Turn up on time. Respond immediately to invitations. Listen without judgement. Gifts of appreciation.
People are drains or radiators. Surround yourself with radiators those that radiate positivity. Friends that drain you or you are exhausted or sad after seeing them can really affect your own mental state see them less .
Envy is the scourge of mostly women friendships only cultivate friendships with those younger, prettier and richer than yourself to avoid those who want to bring you down.
Invest more time in your friendships than your boyfriends these friendships will support you throughout life. Don,t ditch your girlfriends when you meet a man you can have both.
Avoid expensive face creams or beauty products they are basically telling you lies and getting you to buy into your securities. Find what works for you.
Wear clothes that suit your style and body shape not because a magazine tells you what you should be wearing.
Never over pluck your eyebrows they do not grow back.
Exercise does not make you smaller- eating less makes you smaller. The gym firms you up but yoga firms both body AND mind.
You were never as fat as you thought you were ! Love your body and appreciates what it does for you.
Start networking at a young age. Advancement has more to do with who you know and not what you know. The importance of building a good network cannot be underestimated. Exams are not everything.
Never work for the money if you are not loving the work. If you do something you love you will never work a day in your life. If it pays less adapt your lifestyle.
Always mentor those that report to you. Be inspirational.
Do not be intimidated in the workplace you are just as smart as they are.
Set life goals as well as work goals. Short, medium and long term …it worked for me. A map for your life journey is essential. Start it in your teens and update and adapt as you travel through life.
Finally…….BE AUTHENTIC ! BE YOU ! BE YOUR BEST SELF !
JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: THIS IS NOT AN EXHAUSTIVE LIST !! BUT HAVE THE CONVERSATION WITH YOUR CHILDREN/GRANDCHILDREN ABOUT WHAT WORKED OR WAS SO UNNECESSARY FOR YOU TO WORRY ABOUT.
POSITIVE ENERGY AND LIFE PLANS FOR A HAPPIER UPLIFTING WEEK FOR YOUR MENTAL HEALTH. WITH 29 MARCH JUST AROUND THE CORNER WE CAN MEET WITH UP TO 6 FRIENDS IN OUR GARDENS OR OPEN SPACES FOR PICNICS AND 12 APRIL OUTSIDE AT PUBS AND RESTAURANTS , IT IS TIME TO REDISCOVER THE PLEASURE OF SOCIALISING AND RECONNECTING OVER FOOD.
DISCOVER A RITUAL FOR EATING TOGETHER
I REALLY MISS THE LUNCHTIME RITUALS WITH MY FRENCH FRIENDS WHEN I LIVED IN THE SOUTH OF FRANCE. LONG, LANGUID LUNCHES THAT BECAME ALMOST DAILY RITUALS.
IN LONDON, AND THE REST OF THE UK WE GENERALLY SEEM TO BE AMBIVALENT TO MEAL TIMES WITH FAMILY AND FRIENDS AS AN IMPORTANT OCCURRENCE AS WE GO ABOUT OUR BUSY LIVES WITH HURRIED LUNCHES ON THE GO.
I THINK IT IS TIME TO BRING BACK THE LONG LAZY LUNCH. OF COURSE I KNOW THAT THIS IS NOT POSSIBLE EVERY DAY ( ALTHOUGH THE FRENCH AND ITALIANS MAKE IT HAPPEN). THIS WEEK ITS TIME TO START WITH A REGULAR LONG LAZY LUNCH WITH FRIENDS AND FAMILY. THIS MEANS AT LEAST 2 HOURS, AND DESSERT IS A MUST AND GOOD LIVELY DISCUSSION. I HAVE THIS GREAT DISCUSSION TOPIC CARDS WHERE EACH PERSON PICKS A CARD AND GENERATES LIVELY DEBATE AROUND A GIVEN SUBJECT. I WOULD REALLY RECOMMEND THESE TO GET THE CONVERSATION FLOWING.
EVEN BETTER IF YOU CAN COOK A MEAL , A REAL GIFT OF LOVE. THIS DOES NOT HAVE TO BE COMPLICATED. I DO A SIMPLE BAKED WHOLE SALMON STUFFED WITH HERBS FOR PEOPLE TO HELP THEMSELVES OR EVEN A BOUEF BOURGIGNON IN A SLOW COOKER PREPARED IN THE MORNING. A SIMPLE DESSERT CAN BE AN ORANGE CURD TART IN A SHOP BOUGHT PASTRY CASE SERVED WITH COINTREAU CREAM. BUT I REALISE NOT EVERYONE WANTS TO COOK A MEAL AND JUST SHARING A MEAL WITH PEOPLE THAT ARE FUN TO BE WITH CAN REALLY MAKE A DIFFERENCE TO YOUR WEEK.
‘BREAKING BREAD’ WITH THOSE YOU CARE ABOUT CAN BE DEEPLY REWARDING AND BONDING. GOOD NURTURED RELATIONSHIPS ARE GREAT FOUNDATIONS TO LIVE A HEALTHY HAPPY LIFE. GOING ABOUT OUR BUSY DAILY LIVES ITS EASY TO LET THIS SLIDE.
MY PLEASURE IS TO INVITE MY FAVOURITE PEOPLE TO A LUNCH AND LINGER OVER GREAT FOOD, WINE AND FABULOUS CONVERSATION. THIS IS A RITUAL WE ALL NEED TO ESTABLISH. IF YOU HAVE NO ONE TO LUNCH WITH THEN…..GIVE ME A CALL !
SO , TODAY SCHEDULE A DATE AND START INVITING.
JOJOS STYLELIST TIP: IN PARIS I WAS ONCE CHASTISED BY A WAITER FOR ORDERING AMERICAN COFFEE INSTEAD OF DESSERT! DO IT THE FRENCH WAY AND GIVE IN TO THE PLEASURE.
Gentle stretching exercises before getting out of bed in the morning particularly as you get older to warm up the muscles is imperative. It takes just 5 minutes and the benefits will far outweigh an extra 5 minute sleep. You can actually feel the tiredness being squeezed out of the muscles after being sedentary for so long. At any age you should be doing the Bed Stretch 6. Six exercises holding for 6 seconds on each side.
I promise you that you will move with grace and style as you glide through the day. The mornings you choose to do these exercises you will see a difference in posture and movement instead of leaping out with gusto after not moving for hours.
I have done a video post rather than try to explain in words. You can copy to your phone but in no time this will become second nature and hopefully part of your routine. Try it !! Jojo xxxxx
TAKE TIME OUT OF YOUR SCHEDULE TODAY TO ENJOY A VIEW. EITHER TAKE TIME TO GO AND ENJOY A VIEW YOU KNOW OR JUST STOP, AND TAKE IN THE VIEW AROUND YOU.
SPEND 10 MINUTES ABSORBING THE BEAUTIFUL CONTRAST IN COLOURS. NATURE OR THE ARCHITECTURE BEFORE YOU. CALM DOWN, TAKE SOME BREATHSAND PRACTISE SOME MINDFULNESS . APPRECIATE THE BEAUTY OF THE WORLD AROUND US . LIVING OR STATIC WE ALL EXIST IN THE SAME VIBRATIONS OF ONE BIG UNIVERSE.
JOJOS STYLE LIST TIP: DONT JUST EXIST APPRECIATE THE BEAUTY THAT IS ALL AROUND US…….WE JUST HAVE TO OPEN OUR EYES.
As an experienced scientific stylist I look at 8 defining areas of style.
Now, I don’t want to tell you which colours to wear or drag you kicking and screaming away from black, our security colour. But choosing the right colour for your complexion, hair and eye colour can instantly make you pop. It will be flattering, you will glow and I promise you can take years off your age. So Colour comes first for any client that engages my service. I have challenged this myself by wearing black with friends who will tell me I look tired but when I change to a brown top (i’m an Autumn) ON THE SAME DAY with no freshening up of make up I get so many more compliments.
The best way of ascertaining your colour palette is to visit a fully trained stylist. But if you cannot afford to do this I will take you through some general rules for you to work out your own colour. Many women instinctively are drawn to their correct colour but MANY are not.
Colour becomes more important as you get older but your colour NEVER changes throughout your lifetime even if you dye your hair, get a tan etc.
LETS GET STARTED……………….
ARE YOU COOL OR WARM ?
I use a gold or silver swatch one will make your skin pop the other will make it disappear/dull if you own gold or silver clothing this could work .
Pink and rosy skin (cool)
Sallow and yellowish (warm)
Gold/silver jewellery one will ‘liven’ your complexion more.
Tans easily- warm
Veins in your wrist blue (cool) green(warm)
WINTER – Usually dark hair and eyes in contrast with skin. Dark hair on arms normally good indicator of a winter. Look fab in deep rich colours with a cool blue tone such as fuchsia pink, burgundy navy and the only people that look fantastic in black. BASE WARDROBE COLOUR – BLACK WINTER CELEBRITY – OPRAH WINFREY JEWELLERY – SILVER
SUMMER – Light hair and eyes. Really suit grey hair. Suit pale dusky colours and pastels such as dusty pinks, powder blue, pale yellow. BASE WARDROBE COLOUR – WHITE SUMMER CELEBRITY – GWYNETH PALTROW JEWELLERY – SILVER
SPRING – Hair auburn,golden blonde, freckles but light eyes. Soft rich warm colours coral,copper , bright greens and turquoise. BASE WARDROBE – IVORY,CREAM,BEIGE SPRING CELEBRITY – CHARLOTTE CHURCH, BRAD PITT JEWELLERY – GOLD
AUTUMN – Hair red, rich deep auburn but dark eyes. Suit earth toned, forest and spicy colours such as olive green,chocolate brown,camel,spicy orange. BASE WARDROBE – DEEP BROWN,CAMEL AUTUMN CELEBRITY – CHERYL COLE, SARAH FERGUSON, PRINCE HARRY JEWELLERY – GOLD
Okay Style Bunnies colour applies equally to men and women. also applies to cosmetics, but thats a whole new lesson. This is just a beginners category so you can use colour to your benefit. The spectrum can be further divided into muted, deep , clear and light but lets not over complicate . If you would prefer to see a video on the importance of colour – click on the youtube link below.
JOJO STYLE LIST TIP : GET YOUR COLOURS DONE PROFESSIONALLY YOU WILL RECEIVE A COLOUR WALLET TO TAKE SHOPPING IN ORDER TO HELP YOU CHOOSE CLOTHING IN THE RIGHT PALETTE. ALL COLOURS IN YOUR WARDROBE WILL CO-ORDINATE FOR A LIFETIME
THOUGHTS, INSPIRATION OR TASKS TO REJUVENATE AND LIFT YOUR SPIRITS TO GET YOU THROUGH THE REST OF THE WEEK.
WALLOW IN SORROW
WELL IT IS NOT OFTEN THAT YOU HEAR THIS FROM ME, OR ANYONE ELSE FOR THAT MATTER. OUR MIDWEEK MANTRA IS FOCUSSED ON STAYING POSITIVE AND FIGHTING ANY NEGATIVE NOTIONS IN YOUR MIND. BUT I FEEL THAT INCREASINGLY WE ARE SURROUNDED BY MEDIA AND “EXPERTS” THAT ARE CONTINUALLY TELLING US ITS BAD TO FEEL DOWN AND WE ARE BEING FED AN IDEALISED WORLD WHERE WE ARE ONLY WORTHY IF WE ARE SMILEY AND POSITIVE.
BUT LIFE IS A ROLLERCOASTER (THANKS RONAN FOR THAT ONE !!) A SERIES OF UPS AND YES DOWNS AND WE CAN ONLY RECOGNISE THE UPS BY ACKNOWLEDGING THE DOWNS TOO.
SO THIS WEEK I WANT YOU TO EMBRACE THE IDEA THAT FEELING LOW OR SAD ON ANY GIVEN DAY IS OKAY AND IS IN FACT TOTALLY NORMAL. IT WOULD BE ABNORMAL TO NEVER FEEL DOWN.
THE NEXT DAY YOU FEEL LOW TOTALLY EMBRACE IT . ACKNOWLEDGE HOW YOU FEEL . DO NOTHING BUT …..WALLOW. DONT FIGHT IT , FEEL IT !
JOJO STYLELIST TIP: SADNESS IS NORMAL BUT IF YOU ARE FEELING SAD FOR A PROLONGED PERIOD AND FOR NO IDENTIFIABLE REASON. THEN SEEK HELP AND TALK TO SOMEONE.
MIDWEEK INSPIRATION TO BEAT THE JANUARY BLUES. THOUGHTS AND EXERCISES TO GET YOU THROUGH THE WEEK.
DISCOVER YOUR ‘SELF’
I AM CONSTANTLY SURPRISED BY HOW MANY PEOPLE HAVE NOT TAKEN TIME TO GET TO KNOW THEMSELVES. IF I ASK THEM QUESTIONS ABOUT THEIR INNERMOST THOUGHTS THEY DO NOT KNOW THE ANSWERS. MORE SURPRISINGLY EVEN IF I ASK QUITE BASIC QUESTIONS E.G THEIR FAVOURITE FILM OR CHILDHOOD MEMORY MANY HAVE NEVER GIVEN IT A THOUGHT !
SO TODAY THIS IS A TWO PART TASK.
SIT DOWN NAKED IN FRONT OF THE MIRROR AND STUDY YOUR FACE AND BODY (OBVIOUSLY AT HOME ALONE, NOT IN THE OFFICE !) . REALLY FOCUS ON ALL THE THINGS YOU LIKE ABOUT YOUR FACIAL FEATURES, YOUR EYES, LIPS EVEN THE LINES YOU HAVE HAD FUN IN EARNING. PARTS OF YOUR BODY YOU LOVE AND THE MIRACLES THAT OCCUR EVERY DAY WITHIN THAT BODY AND OUR LARGELY NEGLECTED FEET THAT SUPPORT US EVERYDAY. PLEASE KEEP THIS POSITIVE AND LEARN TO APPRECIATE……YOU. MANY PEOPLE HAVE NEVER DONE THIS EXERCISE BECAUSE OF LACK OF YOU TIME OR EMBARRASSMENT BUT LEARN TO BE COMFORTABLE ……WITH YOU !
GRAB A COFFEE OR A GLASS OF WINE AND I WANT YOU TO ANSWER THE FOLLOWING QUESTIONS THERE ARE HUNDREDS THAT YOU SHOULD KNOW BUT HERES A SELECTION TO GET YOU STARTED. ASK THEM TO YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY IT IS AMAZING HOW MANY PEOPLE DONT KNOW THE ANSWERS IMMEDIATELY.
WHAT ARE YOUR GOALS AND DREAMS FOR THIS YEAR?
LIST YOUR BEST QUALITIES?
WHAT IS YOUR FAVOURITE BOOK/FILM?
LIST YOUR TOP FIVE PLACES TO EAT?
THREE WORDS THAT DESCRIBE YOUR PERSONALITY ?
WHAT GIVES YOU PLEASURE AND COMFORT?
WHAT COUNTRY WAS YOUR FAVOURITE VISIT?
HOW WOULD YOU CHANGE YOUR LIFE FOR THE BETTER?
WHAT PERSON/PEOPLE MAKE YOU FEEL SPECIAL?
WHAT EXCITES YOU ?
WHAT IS YOUR FAVOURITE CHRISTMAS SONG ?
WHAT WOULD YOU CHANGE ABOUT YOUR LIFE IF YOU HAD THREE WISHES ?
WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY?
WHAT BRINGS YOU PEACE?
THIS IS SUCH AN INTERESTING EXERCISE AND YOU ALMOST FEEL CLOSER TO YOURSELF. BE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND. GETTING TO KNOW ‘YOU’ IS A GREAT TOOL FOR STRENGTHENING YOUR MENTAL HEALTH FORMING A DEEPER BOND WITH ONESELF.
JOJOS STYLIST TIP: HOW WELL DO YOU KNOW THE PEOPLE CLOSEST TO YOU? SEE IF YOU CAN ANSWER THE QUESTIONS ABOUT THEM. DO THIS WITH THEM SIMULTANEOUSLY THE ANSWERS MAY SURPRISE YOU ? ADD YOUR OWN TO THE LIST?
WELL DONE GUYS. ANOTHER STEP CLOSER TO KEEPING THE HAPPINESS POT TOPPED UP !!